Super Easy Tichel Loopty Doop!

When I made the Lovely Lace tutorial yesterday, someone mentioned that it was hard to see how to do the “Loopy” part because my hands were in the way.  So since it’s actually a tie that you can do on its own (I love doing it with the Lakeshore Bliss) here is a detailed tutorial on how its done!  You can see that even though I’m blabbering away and doing it very slowly , it still only takes 2 minutes for the video!  You’re gonna love this trick!

Lovely Lace Tutorial! Let’s Wrap Together!

Lovely Lace Wrapunzel Andrea Grinberg

Good Morning!  We’ve received so many requests for the Lovely Lace tutorial since posting this photo of Deidra on our facebook page yesterday!  So while getting dressed this morning I decided to video myself trying it out!  It’s so easy!  You’ll also learn how to do the lovely “loopty-doop” on the side!

Perfect Luxe

Sometimes, a busy day calls for a perfect one scarf wrap; a Regal Wrap done with a Tapestry Luxe (this is the Blonde one) fit those requirements perfectly!  And I can’t believe how many compliments I’ve gotten when getting ready only took 2 minutes!

You know how I’m always talking about that ‘must have’ go-to wrap that we all need to master?  Well, this is mine!  Whenever I’m in a rush or my so called ‘genius’ creative idea isn’t working, I always go for this wrap.  It’s foolproof once you master it!  Do any of you have a go to wrap that you can just do in your sleep?

Love, Andrea

Why I LOVE Covering My Hair!

It’s been years since I made this video, and I’ve always been meaning to remake it.  Here is part one of the remake!

Here I discuss one of the reasons why I love covering my hair: the intense multi-level pleasure that I get from it!  Learn about the different kinds of pleasure we can experience in this world, and why hair covering allows me to start my day connecting to all of them!

Enjoying SPRING!!

It seems that spring has finally sprung here in Baltimore!  (Praying that it lasts!)  I love spring for its energy of renewal, rebirth, the rediscover of potential.  There are so many wonderful holidays that we celebrate that have the energy of spring:

Purim – allowing us to reveal the hidden
Pesach – enabling us to cast off our chains and grow towards our full potential

I am just so excited to be a part of all this!  And here on the Wrapunzel front we are also working hard in the springtime!  We are currently launching our new spring line, and we are truly inspired by the potential of these new tichels and accessories!  Here are some photos of what we’ve found for you so far!  Get excited… there’s more to come!

What are you looking forward to most about spring?

Purple & Green, the Newest “It” Combo!

It all started when Naomi Rose posted this photo…

WOW!
WOW!

In it, she’s wearing a purple 2 in 1 and a Lakeshore Bliss in Green, a color combo rarely seen!  What resulted was an IMMEDIATE snowball effect!  We all had to try out this gorgeous color combo! It started with a few ladies…

And then more jumped on the bandwagon… we tried it with different scarves and sashes too!

Finally I had to join in as well!  I had been looking for the perfect excuse to break in my purple lace sash… and don’t worry, even though this color is sold out right now we are getting more in!

Thank you Naomi Rose for clueing us in to this gorgeous color combination!!!  Love it love it love it!!

Teal Overload!

Teal, and teal, with teal, plus teal??

Yes, please!

I wanted to figure out a gorgeous way to wear this new Teal with Black Threads Limited Shimmery.  What better way than to pair it with a Teal Shimmery?  (And a teal shell, and a teal shirt…)

Shimmery Wrapunzel Andrea Grinberg

Any wild guesses as to what my favourite color is?

And it’s so easy to tie!  Here’s the tutorial!  I just used a black hair elastic to secure the ends and did a slight zig zag with the front.

Shimmery Wrapunzel Andrea Grinberg

I wish the photos showed the lovely “shimmery-ness” more, but you get the idea!  What is your favourite current shimmery combination?
Love, Andrea

Luscious Tapesty Luxe!

So I have a confession to make.

I don’t own as many tichels as y’all think I do.

The reason is that I usually end up giving them to ladies that I end up Wrapunzeling unexpectedly… and that often happens in shows, formal events, and public washrooms!  So it certainly helps me keep my collection manageable.

Never have we carried a scarf that I’ve loved enough to want in all colors… until now.

It's love!
It’s love!

The Tapestry Luxe is awe-inspiring.  We first carried it in grey, as a fancy neutral scarf for the elegant and subtle ladies.  Then we saw it in Blonde and just had to share it with you as well.  Soon after our jaws dropped when we saw the Auburn… now THIS one was my favourite!  Oh wait, but I love the blonde and grey too… so why choose?  And then we got it in purple.

Basically, I am not going to choose which one I like most, because it’s always the one I’m currently wearing!  This is definitely a thick, cooler weather scarf, but it’s so so soft.  And the different sides of it (there’s the colorful side and then the gold side) make for so many different wrapping options!  I just can’t get enough!

I’ve paired it with a cream&gold Braided Wreath Necklace (made into a headband with the Regal Clasp, of course!) – but usually I just wear it on its own!  Here is a tutorial on how to wrap this scarf!

Hope you’re all doing well and if you’re in the cold/icy weather like I am, staying warm and safe!
Kol tuv,
❤ Andrea

Wrapunzel and Purim (by Tamar Adina!)

Here’s Tamar Adina again, with great ideas for Purim costumes and also some essential safety tips for you and your family to ensure that you have the happiest Purim ever!

Hey Wrapunzel!

Purim is coming up, and as a professional face painter and make up artist, Purim (and Halloween) are two holidays where I have a lot of experience and a lot to say.

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Face Painting by Tamar Adina

First of all, there are SOOO many exciting costumes that allow you to fully cover creatively!  Cheap costume wigs, veils, baseball caps, helmets…So let’s get started.

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Girl with a Pearl Earring

Perhaps one of the easiest hair wrapping costumes is The Girl With a Pearl Earring.  I wish I could claim that the popularity of this costume arose from Johannes Vermeer’s enigmatic painting: Girl with a Pearl Earring, but that’s not quite the truth. For anyone that has been living under a rock and away from all media influence (you LUCKY person!), the protagonist in this bestselling novel (and major feature film) is none other than that particular subject for Johannes Vermeer’s enigmatic painting: Girl with a Pearl Earring.  The oil painting features a young, European girl wearing a very Wrapunzel-esque tichel and (drumroll) a pearl earring.  The reason that I say “drumroll” is that the pearl earring is actually a subject of debate among scholars – it might actually be a tin earring.

Rock this costume with a light blue lakeshore bliss and a taupe 2-in1, a white shirt, a brown jacket, and an oversized earring.

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Renaissance Hair Covering

Next on the agenda – the Renaissance costume. 

Although at first glance it appears that Renaissance costumes all feature women with corsets, plunging necklines, and a gold circlet, the truth is that those are the sexy-Halloween versions of those costumes.  More traditional Renaissance outfits come complete with hair coverings.  Mimic these looks by trying Andrea’s video for a Princess Wrap (which is one of the older, original, Andrea wraps).  Pair it with one of the new Wrapunzel lace! 

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Princess Leia

If historical costumes aren’t for you, try a Star Wars Princess Leia double bun done with a pashmina! While Wrapunzel doesn’t have an example, Nye’s Old Channel made an awesome tutorial for that!  (I would actually move the buns so that they’re not perfectly covering your ears and so that you can hear what is going on around you!)

Cyberlox - picture of Erica Campbell, Owner of Erica's Funny Faces
Cyberlox – picture of Erica Campbell, Owner of Erica’s Funny Faces

If Star Wars isn’t your thing and my other options are also not for you, try cyberlox! What are cyberlox? Cyberlox are synthetic dreadlocks that are MEANT to look like random pieces of technological tubing.  These hair pieces can be made of plastic tubing, tubular crin, rubber and foam strips, and event belts.  Traditionally, cyber lox slip around a ponytail.  But…for those of you that don’t want a partial covering (and don’t have an abuse-able ponytail sheitel), this tutorial gives a full explanation using a wig cap.

But most of this post is actually not going to be about hair covering (sorry folks!).  See, while most of the costumes and themes (yep, themes, for those of you that are looking at me in confusion, some people have wayyy too much time on their hands and they manage to create a yearly theme that ties their families costumes and their food packages together into one neat and hilariously rhymed poem) that I’ve seen are rather cute, I’ve also seen a lot of costumes that are downright dangerous.  Most of the time, people don’t even realize that a particular costume quirk can be a HUGE safety issue!  So, today’s blog post includes a list of safety considerations for you and your children. 

If you have any questions, feel free to contact me! I can usually be found lurking on Facebook…

Clothes:

Prevent falls by shortening overly-long skirts, pants, dresses, veils, tails, and anything else that can trail on the ground.   

Many costumes come with small detailing or accessories that can be hazardous to young children.  Infants and toddlers should not wear costumes with removable detailing.

Shoes:

Choose safe, sturdy shoes for children; ditch the high heels or too-big adult sized shoes.  Cheap, plastic costume shoes may look adorable, but they can serve as tripping hazards.  Purim is too special to spend in the ER.

Accessories:

A long cape can be a serious choking hazard.  Even a short cape can cause choking if it is stepped on while someone is walking down a flight of stairs.  Minimize that choking hazard by making a cape that has arm loops to keep it in place instead of a tie that fastens around the neck.

Avoid overly-floppy hats.  I know, they’re cute, but they limit a child’s field of vision and thus pose as tripping hazards.  Don’t wear one for yourself either.  They can interfere with driving, and even if you are not planning on getting behind a wheel, they can prevent you from seeing things in your peripheral vision.  I’m going to be honest, there are sometimes inebriated drivers on the roads on Purim, you do NOT want to limit your ability to see a car coming towards you.

If your child is carrying a wand or sword, it should be made from cardboard or flexible rubber – not metal or hard plastic.  The key here is to avoid anything that has sharp edges.

Most parents already know to avoid peeling paint on house walls and they already worry about lead tests for their children, but walls and water are not the only things that can be contaminated. Unfortunately, all that glitters is NOT gold as far as jewelry is concerned.  But lead is not the only problematic ingredient that can infiltrate accessories.  Inexpensive metal jewelry, like the kind found in discount and dollar stores, are frequently high in cadmium, a heavy metal that can cause severe health problems if absorbed into the body. It is important to avoid childhood exposure to cadmium, and there is no way to tell just by looking at a piece of jewelry if it contains cadmium.  The best advice is to keep inexpensive jewelry away from children younger than six.  Should you be scared of the necklaces and bracelets sold in mid-range retailers?  Well, federal law limits the amount of cadmium that is allowed to be present in children’s jewelry.

But…as an extension of that, while fake tiaras and bangle bracelets are cute, if the jewelry isn’t “primarily intended” for kids 12 and under, it’s an adult product – and adult products have no cadmium restrictions. 

Avoid the use of fake teeth (such as vampire fangs) by children under age 5.  They are a major choking hazard.  ‘Nuff said.

Masks:

Masks can cut off a child’s peripheral vision.  If your child insists on a mask, make sure that it offers good ventilation and that the peepholes line up with your child’s eyes.

Face paint: (alright, this one is a topic that is near and dear to my heart)

Face paint is a great alternative to masks, provided that it’s SAFE face paint. 

FDA Compliant Face Paint
FDA Compliant Face Paint

Face paint needs to be cosmetic grade.  End sentence.  “Non-Toxic” does not mean “safe for skin.”  Even the words “safe for skin” and “hypo-allergenic” are meaningless where face paints are concerned.   The only language that you must always look for in face paints is “FDA (Food and Drug Administration) compliant ingredients for cosmetic use.”  There are no actual cosmetics that are approved for use by the FDA.  (If someone tries to tell you that there are, they are full of beans.  I digress though, moving on).

Acrylic craft paints are not meant to be used on the skin – nor are watercolor paints, pencils, sharpies (yep, I’ve seen teens with sharpies smeared all over their faces!) or markers.  In addition to the long-term complications from using these materials, many people are allergic to the chemicals and colorants used in craft paints such as nickel, soluble cadmium, and formaldehyde.   As an equally exciting side effect, “homemade” face paints made from lotion and craft paints are sometimes photo-toxic, and a child can wind up with a miserable chemical sunburn. 

Avoid the dollar store or party store tubs of liquid face paints or the waxy crayons that are made in China.  Those tend to be made of highly irritating ingredients.  (You would not believe some of the pictures that I’ve seen of reactions!) Plus, whenever the media discusses a recall on face paint due to some type of contaminant, 99.9% of the time they are referring to these things!

So what should you use?  Honestly, there are a large number of legitimate face paint products on the market.  Ben Nye, Cameleon, Diamond FX, DIPS, FAB, Global, Graftobian, Kryolan, Kryvaline, Paradise, ProAiir, Ruby Red, SillyFarm Rainbow Cakes, Snazaroo, Starblends, Superstar, TAG, Wolfe FX….which one is good? They are ALL good!  Most of those brands can be bought online, in local costume shops, or sometimes Snaz can be found in Michaels/Jo-Ann craft stores.  If you cannot get your hands on any safe face paint and your child desperately wants to be a cat, consider either calling a professional face painter, or hitting up the drugstore for eyeliner pencil or eye shadow.  Those two products can frequently get a very small whisker and pink nose done.  Do yourself a favor though – face paints are primarily water based and will wash off easily with soap.  Adult makeup tends to require additional scrubbing.  And whatever you do, make sure that the pencils that you grab are not waterproof!

The skin is the largest organ of the body, and it can be an entrance for germs and bacteria; do not place face paint over an open wound or scab.  By that same token do not just whip out your eyeliner and draw on your child’s nose, and then touch up your Cleopatra eye makeup.  Doing so is a phenomenal way to wind up with an eye infection.  (child’s mucus + your eyes = well…you get the picture).  Break the point of the pencil, dip in alcohol and re-sharpen the pencil. 

Nix the face paint if you or your child suffers from eczema or other skin conditions.  Reactions are NEVER worth it.

Have a happy holiday!  See you next time!

Tamar Adina

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Lotsa Wintery Twists!

Decided to do a combination of twists this morning – one around the crown and a double at the side!  I’m loving it!  So perfect for this chilly weather!  (And I’m loving this sweater that I got at goodwill on sale!  So big and comfy!)

Here are some tutorials/inspiration to check out for this wrap!  Should I make a tutorial for this?
Artsy Twists;   Do the Twist!;  Triple-y Twisted

I’m wearing a denim Lakeshore Bliss, Navy NYB, and a gold Perfect Headband 🙂

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Wishing you all a Shabbat filled with love and shalom!  Hope you’re doing well and sending you hugs!

How to Not Have Too Many Scarves :)

This. Is. Hilarious!  I nearly spit hot chocolate all over my computer when reading it the first time (hey, it’s cold here!)  Reminds me of the days when I read though the Confessions of a Shopaholic series.  This was written by the hilarious Alana Sheldahl, who has been a part of the Wrapunzel community for years.  I think we’ve all had those moments when we organize our scarf collections and are completely overwhelmed!  Well, this should help!

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How to NOT have too many scarves:

Divide and conquer. It’s not a question of how MANY scarves you have. After all, life is full of so many different seasons, occasions, and colors. Divide and conquer, sisters. Divide. And. Conquer.

1. Step one: set aside all your sari scarves and sari sashes. You can count them later.

2. Pull out all your pashminas. Inventory. Realize you only own 30 of them and if you wear one per day, you will still not have enough pashminas asthere are days left this winter. Drink some hot cocoa and browse the Wrapunzel site for what else you can buy to fill in the obvious gap in your winter tichel wardrobe. Pashminas are their own separate entity and don’t really count in your tichel inventory, do they? No, they stand alone. Give them their own space.

3. Set aside all your sashes…because they aren’t real scarves anyways. These sashes hardly count, because they need other scarves to go with them. They are decoration.

4. 2 in 1‘s don’t count in your “real tichels” pile….soooo light weight, and basic. You need ALL of them. Make a list of the colors you lack.

5. Separate out the rest of your tichels into color categories. Notice how each shade of blue is different, that your half dozen mostly-green scarvces are all unique and how there’s so many shades of reds the mind is boggled. Clearly, when you divide them by color you have very few tichels […of each color].

6. Put all your New York Brights in one place. Only five of them? Plan to rectify as soon as possible.

7. Again, Shimmeries and Shiny scarves are in a special category all their own. Like 2-in-1’s, a full tichel wardrobe means having all the colors. Collect on, sister!

8. Notice how FEW scarves you have when looked at categorically. Be amazed at your frugality. Oh, and everything lace goes in that drawer over there…

9. Have another cup of hot beverage and make a wish list.

10.; And whatever you do…never ever EVER count your sari scarves.

Teal&White VS Teal&Black – and one great accessory!

I’ve gotta say… it takes a lot for me to fall in love with an accessory.  I have pins that I wear once and never wear again (I usually give them to a friend!) or headbands that look great but sit around unused.

This hasn’t happened with this headband – I haven’t even had a chance to put it away since I nabbed it!  On both these tichels, I wasn’t planning on incorporating it… but then as I finished the wrap, I realized that it needed a little something, and this was the perfect something!  There’s something so lovely about the style – and it matches all my jewelry!

Here I am, trying out the Dreamy Lace in white – I’m definitely going to do something like this for Shabbat!

And on Sunday, I went to a wedding – Mazal tov!  It was one of those Yeshivish weddings that was EXTREMELY packed (standing room only!) and I was the only one wearing a tichel!  Now, I’ve been the only one in a tichel in lots of weddings before, but lately I’ve been getting spoiled in Baltimore because so many ladies here are getting Wrapunzeled!  It was kind of nice to attend a wedding in Baltimore and be the only one in a tichel again!  I decided to go for a more subdued and elegant look (black shimmery, hello!) and this was a perfect option!  I was really excited about this more subtle look – the lace sash that I’m wearing on my head is actually from the dress!

Hope you’re all doing so so well!  I’ve certainly missed blogging on here, and am uper happy to be back!
Love, Andrea

You Gotta Meet Jen!

It is my absolute pleasure and honor to introduce you to Jen.  Jen’s story is a personal and deep one, and I am so honored to have been a witness to her incredible journey (and I know that journey is just beginning!)  She has put so much effort and love into covering her hair, and has been wonderfully open about her struggles and successes.  She truly has come into her own in developing the perfect tichel style for her unique personality – it’s so inspiring!  Even though we’ve never met in person, I feel so connected to her, and can’t wait to the one day that we can meet!  Here she is!

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Many people have asked  how I came to start covering my hair …..

I first felt the desire to cover in around 2009.  At the same time we were coming out of the church and moving through the “Hebrew Roots Movement” – which turned to to be a very brief period, as intensive study led us both, separately, by the beginning of 2010, to prepare for conversion to Judaism.  That, of course, is another story!

I started covering very occasionally between 2009 and 2010 – mainly for Shabbat meals, but when we were coming up against more than the 3 traditional “obstacles” in our quest to pursue conversion (another story!), I stopped covering.  But there must still have been some underlying or subconscious desire deep within me, because I kept purchasing scarves!

IMG_9015About 18 months ago, I started covering at home to read the parashah on Shabbat, and on sundays for shopping.   Shortly thereafter, we started attending synagogue in preparation for conversion and I asked someone in a leadership position if I would be able to cover.  I was told it was “not done” and I could wear a kippah if I liked.   Wearing a kippah was, for me personally, absolutely out of the question.  Only the Rabbi’s wife wears a kippah when she occasionally attends services.  Hubby and I both understood the “not done” to mean “may not be done” so I continued to cover my hair on Shabbat mornings to read the parashah and then remove it to go to services.   After a few months we thought to ourselves “this is ridiculous!” so in May we approached our Rabbi and asked his permission to cover.   He readily agreed, he was almost surprised we had asked his permission and even more perplexed that we had both felt dissuaded by this other person.   I still remember the first time I covered for a service.  I was so self-concious and I know that people were looking at me.  But I survived, and each week, for both the Kabbalat Shabbat and Shacharit Services, I attended, wrapped.  At this point I was showing my fringe and doing very simple wraps.

IMG_0866Around February/March I had come into contact with “Wrapunzel” on Facebook.  Two amazing Jewish ladies, passionate about the mitzvah of headcovering, who first created a blog with tutorials and then opened an online scarf and accessory “paradise”.  They, together with the Wrapunzel Fan Group on Facebook, gave me so much encouragement, support and teaching.

Covering is something that is unusual in our city, even with a predominantly orthodox community, and it was extremely difficult for me to go to service after service, knowing that I was “sticking out like a sore thumb” and knowing that people were talking.  Some people asked me about it directly and I appreciated the opportunity to try to put into words why I chose to cover.  I continued to cover just for services and on sundays.   I was too nervous about the reaction if I extended my wrapping to community events or for work.

I decided to cover for work for Tisha B’Av and was met with quite a positive reaction.  The timing probably wasn’t the best because I felt quite bad getting so many compliments on what was the saddest day in the Jewish calendar!  I explained to my boss afterwards why I had covered and said I would like to do it more regularly.  He told me that he didn’t care what I wore on my head!!  I then covered for a two day Jewish conference in August, which was attended by about 150 Jews, mainly orthodox, and I received quite a few negataive comments and stares.  I still held my head up high, though, even though on the inside I was a wreck!   One of the overseas presenters wore a headcovering (the only other person present), and although I didn’t get the chance to speak to her, there was a “smile of sisterhood” between us.

FOB3On 1 September 2014, I decided to “take the plunge” and cover full time for work and public, still showing my fringe because I’d had one since I was 13 (nearly 36 years!) and I thought I looked too wierd with it tucked in.  My boss was a little “bemused” because I don’t think he realised that “more regularly” was going to turn into “all the time”.    In late October, I made the decision that if I believed strongly in head covering, then I should cover ALL of it.  And since then, I have not left the house uncovered, even to the extent of keeping a cap at hand should anyone knock on the door or for running down to the communal washlines.  During this time I have acquired more confidence and maybe a little bit more skill!

IMG_9089I still cannot express eloquently WHY I choose to cover.  I just know that I HAVE to.  There is a burning desire within me to do it, to honour my Creator, and to honour my husband.  I choose to cover in a way that is both modest but fairly attractive at the same time.  I don’t believe in looking ugly.  But I’ve never felt ugly in even the most simple Israeli tichel.   I feel set apart, beautiful, feminine.  Whilst there may not be a specific instruction in Torah “thou shalt cover” there is enough “evidence” to convince me that it was a tradition even in those days.  Rivka covering herself before meeting Yitzchak, and the story of the “Sotah” in Numbers are two examples.

I still meet with criticism and occasionally it has been cruel and uncalled for.  I have brushed it off in public and cried in private.  I have sometimes said “I can’t do this anymore”.  But when it comes down to it, I could not even conceive the idea of leaving my home without a covering.  I have regular “tichel tantrums” when my scarves won’t sit properly (“tichel” is the yiddish word for scarf) and because of my problem wrist, sometimes battle with a simple knot.  I am so grateful for a husband who supports, encourages, and even helps wrap my scarves when I can’t do it myself.   I am also so grateful to the communities on Facebook who are there with advice, encouragement, support, love, friendship …. and yes, even loving honesty when I ask for opinions & advice.

I do not regret my choice to cover, even though it is a “lonely” choice.  I believe it is a beautiful mitzvah.  And it’s a mitzvah I’d encourage all ladies to try!  You might just feel as special as I do.

A Violinist Lady Wrap Star!!

 

 

Our beautiful Ariella!
Our beautiful Ariella!

Meet Ariella!  When we first met, I was like, “There’s another blonde, funky, frum (Torah observant), classical musician string player in the world?!  Yay!”  She seriously rocks my socks off!  Here are some gorgeous, fun photos of her, and an interview!  You’ll love hearing what she has to say!

 

10389681_10201806209856861_3686881502923775562_nHi Ariella, can you tell us a bit about yourself, how you spend your time, what you love to do, where you live, etc.?
Hey there everyone,  I’m Ariella Zeitlin-Hoffman, a violinist from Israel. I grew up in Baltimore, and made aliyah to Israel when I was 18 (on my birthday) spent a year learning Hebrew, and then went into the Jerusalem Academy of Music and Dance where I met Andrea and her husband Yonatan.  Music is a huge part of my life-My parents are kind of the hippie rock stars of the community we lived in, and their Simchat Beit HaShoeva was the place to be for years and years-Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach used to pop in yearly, but I don’t remember him so I don’t have any great stories except there was one year that the whole sukka fell over and I remember a feeling of panic because they were expecting a hundred or so people. My grandfather, Zvi Zeitlin was considered by the NY Times to be the Methuselah of violin players-making a full recital on his 90th birthday!   Today I play one of his violins and use a bow which was made exclusively for him by a jeweler named Henry Kasten. So I always had those two important influences in my life-the classical and the folk, and as a musician I’m really connected to both genres, unnasmedwhich has made me very in demand (thank G-D!) as a studio player because I keep it in both worlds with note reading, improvising, and playing by ear.
Time, time! I’m still at home with our baby, and summer vacation is just finished now so I’ve been spending an awful lot of time with the family-when it’s regular time, which is starting now, I really spend all of my time either playing violin, teaching, spending time with my family, or dealing with the house type of stuff that nobody wants to do (except those crazy Pinterest moms who I aspire to be like). I’m also a super nerdy crafter (seem like the type, eh?) and love to crochet, sew, bake, and upcycle furniture-I love painting and sanding and getting my hands dirty. My husband makes beer so he’s also crafty like that.  In terms of work, I teach and I do a lot of freelance work-concerts, bar shows, studio sessions, etc. So I’m really busy! And even when I’m not busy with work, there’s always something else to do. We live today in Herzliya, where my husband works as the Rabbi for Jeff Seidel’s student center, so we have programs of different kinds almost every night of the week in our house. Sometimes I’m there, sometimes not-depends on how worn out I am. I also have the attitude that when I’m at home I’m all at home-I try to keep my mind off of other projects so when I’m at home, and I really try to keep my phone far away until our kids are asleep. With my big daughter in Pre-K,  our baby boy is mainly with me except when I have work. Sometimes think about getting a real job and putting him in daycare, but I love being a mom, and he’s an easy kid so I get a lot done.

DSC_0197Do you have a favourite composition? Or a few favourites? Why?
So a few months ago, I had a series of concerts where I performed the Mendellsohn Violin Concerto with an all-women’s orchestra from Jerusalem with concerts all over the country. There were 5 concerts in total, and there are some plans to resume the tour in the fall, but nothings set in stone yet.  They’re making sure I’m still practicing!! Anyways, back to Mendellsohn. I mean he was just brilliant and stunning in his writing. Gorgeous music. The concerto is also unique because the way it is written is kind of like an exchange between the orchestra and the soloist, and I love how  the theme starts in the violin at the beginning instead of the opposite, which is more standard, setting the scene for the drama of the orchestra to come in. Ahh…Mendellsohn. Also the 3rd movement is a lot of fun. Another favorite piece is the Khachaturian Violin Concerto, which is a rich and intense musical drama-Khachaturian was an Armenian and the journey of the Armenians and the Jews has many parallels in the past century. In fact, my great grandparents were jailed in Russia because of Zionist activity, and they were put in front of an Armenian judge for trial, who empathized with their desire for a homeland and instead of sending them to Siberia as punishment, actually sent them to Palestine in 1927. And, and, and…well what I think is so great about loving music is that you’re really familiar with different types of music so you know what you want to hear at different times. There are very few genres that I dislike. I’ve experimented in everything, and love all kinds of music. I love show pieces-pieces written for the violin which classical performers call ‘fluff’-written to impress but not really deep. I play a lot of those in certain types of venues. I love singing, also and am currently working on a few singles of my original songs. I love 50’s rock and roll, I love any band with positive vibes and messages, I love dubstep and trance and folk and rock and fiddle music and country and middle eastern Arabic and am practicing my beatboxing!

gsdfHow did you feel about hair covering before getting married?
So I’d always been back and forth about my feelings about covering. On the one hand, I grew up in a community of coverers. There was only one woman who wore a beautiful tichel on a regular basis, Rivka Malka Perlman, but she was also so gorgeous and striking that whatever she wore on her head would have looked amazing (you all know what I’m talking about). Then I moved to Israel, went to Seminary, started seeing people in tichels, and then I went into University. And that was the first time I heard of this concept of head covering being oppressive to women-to me it was always just something people did, and I never asked too many questions. But all of my opinions were constantly being challenged by the people around me and I really started to question every single thing I had always taken for granted as true and normal. Was hair covering really oppressive? I started looking around and kind of left that particular issue aside-there were so many other issues to deal with and figure out where I stood on them that I hadn’t really thought of before.  Then my journey brought me to my husband, and we spent a year and a half figuring out together what Judaism meant to both of us and who we wanted to be-and kind of discovered accidentally that we had fallen in love! So we ended up in the whole whirlwind of everything and the headcovering thing? I still hadn’t really given it a thought.  Then when I got engaged, we went to the States and my mother bought me two wigs-a full one and a headband one. And I just kind of went with everything-actually my awesome husband came sheitel shopping with me! Not really done by anyone else, but the concept was so weird for me, that I felt like I needed him along for support, and it was a lot of fun, although I could tell that Tsfat had worn off on him and he wasn’t super into it. It was always taken for granted (for me) that I would cover my hair and I never gave it much thought. I bought a lot of fun wigs from the stores catering to black women that clipped on and I really had fun with the whole thing-but still hadn’t settled on what was me. I think the most important thing for anyone starting out and wanting to cover, is that don’t ever be totally set on what you’re going to wear-and don’t buy a lot of anything until you know what fits your personal style!!

578382_3536395208486_1733151957_nHow do you feel about it now and how has the journey been for you?
So after I got married, I covered fully, but I really started hating covering. It felt uncomfortable, I felt like I stuck out-I wore a half wig with a hat or scarf to University so nobody would know I was covering fully, and then when someone would come near my head for any reason I would jump out of my skin because I REALLY didn’t want anyone to know I was wearing a wig (and whats the point if you’re trying so hard to make sure nobody knows?) So after a while I forewent the wigs. I almost never wear a wig now except for rock shows where I wear a wig that’s as big as rhode island but that’s for fun, not for modesty purposes. And I started doing what they call the ‘half cover’ where I wear a head covering both as a symbol of being married, as well as covering my head as opposed to all my hair, which is another opinion within the spectrum of Jewish law and which, for now, makes me feel the most myself. It also puts people more at ease in a professional setting, because they think I’m ‘cool’ which I just think is a little nutty, but people judge on appearances. I also do a lot of work in ultra-orthodox places, and I really change the way I look from place to place that I go, depending on the requests of the demographic.

40What is your personal favourite way of covering your hair? 
My favorite way of covering is with a long scarf tied on my head with hair showing in the front and the back. It’s a look that makes me feel super bohemian princess. And I love accessorizing with glittery things! Hair clips, pins, sparkly headbands, and sparkly scarves, of course. I love drawing attention to the fact that I’m covering. Wearing scarves makes me feel like such an example of the beautiful parts of our traditions, especially when people see my fun ties and colorful accessories (probably sounds familiar to most of you on the blog!!)

Tips and tricks that you can share with us?
– A couple of months ago, my husband and I did a home improvement project where we bought a broom stick, and chopped it into two pieces-one long and one short. We put them both on the walls with hooks and connected to chains and I now keep all my scarves there-they look so beautiful and it gives me such a wonderful feeling to walk into my room. Also lets me see all my scarves-long scarves on one, headbands on the other. Being able to see everything makes it so much easier to coordinate!
– Don’t buy a lot of anything specific when you’re just starting out. Everyone’s different, you’ll discover styles you love with scarves that you didn’t buy and end up with a hundred of the wrong type, haha!
– Velvet Headbands are amazing-buy at least two!
unnamhhed– Those really pretty ones? The more expensive ones? I decided that I wanted to make my own last summer. But I’m the type that never does just one project. So I made 8. They take a LONG time. And they come out wonky if you’re not an excellent sewer. And they cost money for all the materials. The people who are good at making them really deserve what they’re charging. Obviously there’s a lot of value in doing projects for the sake of doing projects but if you look at something and think ‘I could do that myself’ I’d say if you’re pressed for time, or are not naturally meticulous, it’s really ok to invest in something beautiful and that they’re probably not overcharging. So treat yourself every once in a while!
– The confidence you have in whatever you do is way more important than what you’re wearing. In all matters. But be proud of the choices that you make, and always check in with yourself that you really feel good about what you are doing. Obviously there are reasons that people do things besides feeling good, but if you do anything specific, you have reasons that you do them. Make sure that your actions are consistent with your beliefs

Can you share a memorable hair covering moment?
A few days after my wedding, when I was still figuring out the scarf thing and it was insanely hot I wore a thin slippery one, which, come to think of it I don’t think I’ve seen in years now but I liked. And if course it fell off in the bank. I unfortunately have had several situations where I was trying to juggle 4000 things and when the scarf came off, I looked around and everyone was kind of waiting for me to freak out-but these things happen, and what can you do. So I’ve just played it cool and I think people were disappointed! But that’s a memorable un-covering hair moment. A memorable hair covering moment would probably be the first time I played in a big show for a Dati-Leumi audience and I layered so many scarves my head almost fell off. But I really wanted that statement look! I try, whatever I am doing, to make the scarves a really important part of my look-because I think looking funky in scarves is an important statement and an important part of my identity.

What are you grateful for right now?
I’m grateful for so many things! I often stop and count my blessings and I make grateful lists all the time-I’ve found that for me, gratitude is the thing that makes me feel most happy and satisfied. I also am a huge subscriber to dream charting-where you think about what you want to accomplish, and spend time every day thinking about how to get there, and some of that time appreciating the steps you’ve taken thus far. I have found that, although many people say that it’s hard to have a successful career In addition to being married and having children, that I’m probably much more successful than I might be if I weren’t married to my husband, who keeps me grounded and helps me to achieve success all the time. So he’s number one on grateful!  I’m grateful to have a good life, a wonderful, healthy extended family, no debt (finally paid off all my student loans!!!), a successful career in something I truly love, good friends, and lots of dreams!

unnaimedWhat do you want to bless the readers of Wrapunzel with for the coming Jewish Year?
Judaism is all about starting fresh. Renewal, prayer, repentance, charity, and as we come to the new year, I want to bless you all that every bad moment and memory that is weighing you down will become a stone in the path that you realize that it has helped you to get where you are, and that you can take those moments and accept them, and really look at them with a fresh eye to see how they have brought you to where you are today, accept them, and then leave them be. A lot of people carry around the baggage of old relationships, or of bad situations of any kind. Stop. You are a new person from this very moment. You control your destiny. You are wonderful and talented and brilliant and special. For me, from a young age I had this *one thing* that was my gift. I was fat, I didn’t have many friends, but I was musical-and I felt chained to that description of me, like there was no other thing that I was. At a certain point I sunk into a low point of depression over that thought, but at a later point I realized we really are all a beautiful bouquet of wonderful gifts, and as I got older and was able to recognize my own gifts, I was able to appreciate and love others for their contributions to the world. When you realize that you are wonderful because you have a beautiful soul and you try to bring more joy, light, warmth, and kindness into the world, there is no greater feeling than to recognize that in others. So I bless you all that you can leave your baggage behind in order to bask in the light of the coming redemption!

The Mendellsohn!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGR3rf-jM1k

Encore!

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