Jessie Rubenstein, Making Meaning as a Lady Wrap Star

Shalom, y’all! My name is Jessie, and I live in Phoenix, Arizona. I’m blessed to work as a Jewish educator at a local synagogue as their Religious School Director. This is my passion- providing meaningful, engaging Jewish learning experiences to kids and their families. It is a LOT of work, but I absolutely love it. My wife and I have two amazing children- Helena, age 7 and Leon, age 3- who are a handful but the greatest joys of my life. 

I’m a huge nerd. When I’m not working or being with my family, I can often be found playing board and card games or playing Pathfinder (a Dungeons and Dragons-esque role playing game) with a group of dear friends. I enjoy cooking, and even after my long days, I will (most of the time) still try and make my family dinner. Watching them enjoy what I make makes me happy. I’m a prolific baker, especially challah. Perfecting my challah recipe was my big pandemic project and I am close!

I love science fiction and fantasy shows, especially Star Trek. My wife and I have a hard time agreeing on things to watch. In general, I am squeamish when it comes to action and horror, but for some reason we can agree on True Crime documentaries. I listen to lots of podcasts. My favorite right now is Torah Smash! which is an exploration of Torah and Jewish life through the lens of something nerdy or geeky. Right up my alley!

I started covering in December of 2020. My wife and I were going through a lot, and I needed something with me at all times to remind myself of the value of our relationship. I usually wore a kippah but was becoming less and less attuned to God. I found that when I covered, I could more deeply feel God’s presence. The weighty, physical reminder of God being in my life and a force that connects my family together really helped pull me from a dark place. 

At first, I was only covering at home. I am a proud Reform Jew and it is very uncommon in my community to cover. At the time, I was working at a pluralistic Jewish day school as a Jewish Studies teacher, and it felt appropriative in a way. Going to work started feeling more and more uncomfortable without my tichel; it had become integral to my connection to God and myself. 

Wrapping my tichel each morning is sometimes the highlight of my day. As a working mom, I have very little time and energy to reflect. Wrapping gives me that moment to do something just for me. I pray, I send healing thoughts to others, I contemplate my day; it’s purely for me. I also love being creative every morning and having this time for unique expression.

I discovered Wrapunzel because I asked a friend of mine in the Orthodox Jewish community where I should go to start. She called Wrapunzel the gold standard and boy was she right! 

My headwraps are inspired by so many things! My outfit, what I’ll be doing that day, a particular scarf, my mood… lots of things! I love the Wrapunzel online community because I’ll often see something and think that I need to try it, or something like it!

My tichel is often reflective of my mood. I’ve always been a creative person and I’ve found that, like my artwork, so much of my wrapping is dependent on mood. When I’m down, it’s usually a lot more simple. I do sometimes use my wrap as a way to boost myself when I am down. A sari is something I’ll often use for that because they are so beautiful and fun to play with!

I love colors, especially because I will wear lots of black or white or grey. Reds, purples, blues, and greens are my favorite color palette, specifically jewel tones of those. I love to add sparkle, texture, and pattern in ways that are unexpected.

My go-to style is a fan wrap, especially on a busy day. It’s quick and easy but looks beautiful. It can also be tied in a bunch of ways. I love an angled regal wrap as well, because it is so versatile and can be modified to do many things. 

I have a lot of favorite Wrapunzel scarves! For winter I love the Lakeshore Bliss, Signature Scarf, Cranberry Scarf, and pashminas. In summer, Arizona is brutally hot, and I’ll often wear a Petalsoft, New York Brights, Sari, or 2-in-1. I recently purchased a Can’t Catch Me, and it is quickly becoming a top favorite. My go-to shaper is a Wendy, but when I want to feel more regal, I’ll use a Bobo or the Uber.

Here’s my tichel philosophy – don’t be afraid to try new things and wear something that you may not be immediately drawn to! The worst thing that happens is you retie it later. Also, experiment a lot and try to get out of your comfort zone sometimes. Many of my favorite tichels I’ve done I discovered through trial and LOTS of error. 

When I started covering was the first time in my life that I’ve felt beautiful. I’ve struggled with my self esteem, but wearing a tichel I feel like a Queen. I look in the mirror and see who I truly am. My hair has always been a source of immense anxiety for me; I have polycystic ovary syndrome which has made my hair brutally thin and brittle which, combined with my hair being frizzy, always made me uncomfortable. Feeling like I am crowned with beauty has been life changing. I finally feel like me. 

When you’re just beginning to wrap, ask questions, look at tutorials, and above all else, make it your own. A wrap doesn’t have to be an “official” type of wrap with a tutorial on YouTube to be beautiful and feel like you. 

Always make your wrap journey a reflection of you. We all do this for different reasons and gain different meanings from it. Your journey is yours. 

Now and always, I am grateful for my family. Being with them is the greatest thing. My children, and the fact that they love each other so much. Rest! Chances to keep learning. Community.

#Beattheheatwraps Challenge!

It’s HOT outside, Sweet Wrapunzelistas! 🙂

We gave you the challenge to create wraps that keep you cool and comfortable during these steamy months – and you delivered! From half-wraps to veiled styles to shade from the sun, you had fun inventing all sorts of ways to beat the heat. Take a look at what you did…then grab a slushie and chill!

#Mayflowerswraps Challenge!

We love it when the seasons change. We leave the cold, dreary days of Winter behind us and they make way for the sunny, warmer and verdant times of Spring. Wrapunzelistas, you were truly in bloom with this challenge! In sync with the merry month of May, flowers, vines and all things green appeared on your wraps. Flower accessories and flower shapes too – all were YOU! Who doesn’t love a bunch or bouquet? 🙂

WrapBaby, it’s HOT Outside!

If you live in a region where hot weather is the norm, or in a region where heat approaches with a vengeance during the summer months, there are simply times when one does not want to have anything on their head. Alas, we steadfast wrappers persevere. Through intense heat, humidity, desert climates, we’ve always got ourselves covered! How, though, do we begin to examine the many, many ways that we can cool off a little during these extremely hot times?

Let’s start by making a list of all of the ways (we’ll discuss each one in more detail later) that we’ve come across in our Wrapunzel Community, and by speaking with Wrapunzelistas like YOU, who are always keeping cool. Some may seem quite obvious, others not so much. And by no means are we medical professionals – this is merely practical advice. Please seek the help of a medical professional whenever you experience any symptoms associated with (excess) heat exposure:

  1. Lighter weight/weave fabrics – switch out your heavy, thick winter pashminas for lighter, cooler fabrics that are more breathable. 100% cotton, silks, and even viscose are great choices. Wrap with only one thickness (ply) of fabric.
  2. Cold Pack – if you wear a larger style of shaper and have some room in the cap, try inserting a flexible cold pack on those steamy days.
  3. Shade/Screen – find respite from the scorch in the shade of a large umbrella or parasol. Or even find a nice leafy tree to rest under and refresh. Make sure to wear sunscreen to prevent sunburn at your hairline and nape of your neck!
  4. Dress Airy – trade in warmer clothing for breezy outfits preferably constructed of natural fabrics for breathability.
  5. Hydrate – Drink, drink, DRINK! This will cool and replenish your body.
  6. Lightly and Spicily – Eating lighter foods in extreme heat will help you feel cooler. And if you dare, try spicy foods – they make you perspire, which cools the body.
  7. Pay Attention – change your wrap to something lighter if you’re starting to feel overly hot.
  8. Abandon Shaper – try just a No-Slip Headband and/or volumizing scrunchie under your scarf.
  9. Unstuff / Restuff – try filling your shaper with a different type of stuffing that will allow for more air circulation and result in a cooler feel
  10. Shpritz – carry a small spray bottle with you filled with oil of peppermint and water. Keep this in the fridge when you’re not out. When it’s schmoiling outside, just shpritz your schvitz away (schvitz is Yiddish for sweat)!
  11. Raise the Bar – go a smidge higher above the nape of your neck with your first knot

OK, so here we go with a bit more detail!

  1. Lighter weight/weave fabrics. How simple is this? Like you change your clothes for the seasons, it’s time to change your scarves too. Warm, tighter weave scarves like pashminas take leave of your storage to make room for open and airy scarves and natural fabrics. Try a Wrapunzel 100% cotton Israeli Tichel, Petalsoft or Cornerstone Scarf for cool breathability. Also, strive for lighter colors that don’t absorb the sunlight in the way darker ones do.
  2. Cold Pack. This may seem ridiculous to some, but actually inserting a small flexible cold pack between your head and your shaper or in with your shaper’s stuffing can make you feel like you’re in the arctic tundra! Sounds silly, works wonders.
  3. Shade/Screen. This is important. Carry an ‘ultra compact’ large umbrella in your bag when you’re out on a hot day. It will create a barrier between you and Mr. Golden Sun, creating your own little cool climate bubble underneath. Also, you can try a veil-style wrap that drapes over the nape of your neck! And make sure to slather on the sunscreen, especially near your hairline and the nape of your neck to prevent dreaded “scarf lines!” Sunburns wreak havoc on body temperature….ain’t nobody got time for that!
  4. Dress Airy. Imagine a bright, sunny day and you, running across a flowery field in a parka and snowpants, NOT! Break out your coolest fashions as the weather heats. Think skirts and button down blouses in flowing styles. Stay light and loosey, goosey.
  5. Hydrate. Perhaps the most important on this list for your hot weather health. We lose so much water during the summer months that it’s paramount to replenish it – large quantities and often. Simply put, drink as much as you can and as often as you can. And the water’s temperature isn’t as important as you think. Drink whatever temperature water you can most easily ingest, and try electrolyte drinks for added hydration. And if you’re a coffee drinker, make sure to drink 2 cups of water for every 1 cup of coffee you drink, ounce for ounce. Coffee is a diuretic (it will make your body lose water!).
  6. Lightly and Spicily. Changing your diet in the blast of the heat will prove comforting and hydrating. Think salads and juicy fruits for dessert. All of those water-full vegetables and fruits will hydrate your body while not making you feel weighed down. And if you’re adventurous and can tolerate them, spicy foods are a great bet. Residents of hot climate countries such as Mexico and India have got this down pat. Strive for chili-peppery spices – the capsaicin in the peppers (ever heard of Scoville Units? look it up!) will heat up your body from the inside, making you perspire, activating nature’s own body-cooling method!
  7. Pay Attention. If you’re feeling any symptoms of overheating, change your wrap, or if you’re able, remove it altogether. Don’t wait. Don’t let things develop into a medical situation. Adjust your wrap, stop, sit, and see #5! Lather, Rinse, Repeat.
  8. Abandon Shaper. Shapers…you know they make your wraps, and you, look incredible. But the blasting heat of summer isn’t the time to be overly concerned with your look – it’s most important to be concerned with your health. Take OFF that shaper and opt for a Wrapunzel No-Slip Headband and/or Featherlight Scrunchie instead! If you’re too much of a shaper fan, you can try Wrapunzel’s Bobo Shaper this summer. It’s a long band of pouf that ties with fabric ties and is open in the back so you can catch a breeze!
  9. Unstuff/Restuff. Sometimes, there’s just too much polyester on your head and it’s stifling. Try taking the poly-fill stuffing out of your Wrapunzel Shaper through the intentional ‘hole’ in the cap and re-stuffing it with a more breathable, lighter media. We’ve heard of everything – lamb’s wool, nylon shower puffs and yes, even old pantyhose! Your results will be just as much loft at a lesser heat price!
  10. Shpritz. Yes. Put a small spray bottle of water with a few drops of peppermint essential oil into your fridge at night and grab it and go in the morning. Spraying your (close your eyes!) face with this concoction will cool and sooth you when it’s searing out!
  11. Raise the Bar. This is pretty self-explanatory. If you bring your first knot up in the back, you’ll have a bit more neck/skin exposed to the air. Just be sure to sunscreen because it will be exposed to the sun too!

#Springsurpriseswrap Challenge!

Change is good. Turn over a new leaf. Take a step out of your comfort zone. There are so many little sayings about the act of change. Change is an action, it’s movement. It’s putting a new view on life into place and leaving the past behind. Some find it fearsome, others find it fabulous. But no matter how you slice it, it’s something different. It’s leaving the present and stepping into the unknown future. Change is exciting and new and filled with wonder.

So take a looksie, Wrapunzelistas! We missed a lot of you on this challenge, but we certainly understand it was a busy time of year! Well, those of you below were able to take one wrap and make it into numerous changing looks – from the front, from the side…you all brought it! Here’s a glimpse of the many looks that transpired during this lovely season!

#Widesmilewrap Challenge

In memory of our dear Charlene Smith-Stewart, who was not only a fierce Wrapunzel advocate and community member, but also an administrator of the Community Group.

Sweet Wrapunzelistas, you really shined your light with this challenge. You turned those frowns upside down to memorialize Charlene Smith-Stewart in the way that best represented her true essence – JOY! Smiles, her favorite color of orange, all melded together in one big happy moment to reflect on the incredible impact that this special lady had on our Community. Take a look at all of your radiant faces and remember Charlene’s soulful self. We will miss her dearly.

Head Wrapping for Anxiety and other Mental Health Issues

Most of us have heard about someone having an ‘out of body’ experience. Well, quite a few head wrappers wrap for the reason of emotional regulation and lately we’ve heard it explained often that, most importantly, wrapping this way causes the phenomenon of an ‘in body’ experience – that wrapping the head draws ones thoughts and negative energies out of the head and into the body, where they may be dealt with in more healthful ways than by them manifesting in anxiety and other mental health issues.

Before we get started, we want to mention that by no means are the contents of this article to be considered as medical diagnosis or treatment advice. That being said, we took some time to read a bit and to chat with three wrappers to learn about their trials and tribulations with this interesting type of natural healing!

Nikki W. shared the following with us. Anxiety had been a constant companion of hers since childhood. She grew up as a blind child in a sighted world. Simply the anxiety of getting from point A to point B in a world that was not designed for the way she had had to function was, in itself, an early source of anxiety. Add to that continuous bullying, her growing up as a “latch key kid” and various traumatic experiences throughout her lifetime, including the death of her first child, and she ended up developing a plethora of anxiety disorders. Her official diagnoses over the years include Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Social Anxiety, Generalized Anxiety, Post-Traumatic Stress and Panic Disorder. The impact that these various forms of anxiety have had on her life have been debilitating to the point of rarely, if ever, leaving her house and little to no in person socialization. Oddly enough, she is a performer and that brings her no anxiety whatsoever. She has never experienced stage fright. The stage and her home are the two places she feels “safe”. Her love of performing is actually what led her to start wrapping, along with the encouragement of her two daughters.

Nikki has been treated with medications and therapy at different points in her life with varying degrees of success. The efficacy of medications tends to decrease over time as the body builds a tolerance to the medications in use. Treatment with certain antidepressants is common in the managing of anxiety disorders, but for her it created more anxiety. Treatment with anti-anxiety medications works better, but the tolerance builds quickly and can lead to dependency. She currently uses anti-anxiety medication to help stave off nightmares related to post traumatic stress.

For Nikki, one extremely helpful therapeutic tool has been meditation. Consciously slowing the breathing, letting thoughts drift away from the mind, provides temporary relief. The problem that she has in using this method in the past has been that she can only meditate for very brief periods of time when she is in a state of hyper anxiety and not at all if a panic attack has been triggered. At that point she simply has to ride it out and wait for it to end.

Both of Nikki’s daughters have covered their hair for years for their own personal reasons, for both of whom includes anxiety. Nikki never understood the benefit. In her mind she saw it as fabric and didn’t see it as something other than that. “If a powerful medication or therapy isn’t going to help me, how is a piece of fabric going to work?” She simply dismissed the idea.

In September of 2021, Nikki was performing in a local production of Noel Coward’s “Blithe Spirit” as the eccentric medium Madame Arcati. Her costume included a beautiful gold turban. Her eldest daughter, who was in the play with her, loaned Nikki her Wrapunzel Cloud 9 shaper and No-Slip Headband to wear underneath the turban to provide more volume. When she first put the costume on in the dressing room, she immediately noticed a calmness settle over her. She didn’t think it was related to the head covering, at first, but night after night the same sense of peace and focus came over her as soon as she covered her head with the shaper and turban. The show ran for three weeks and by the end of the first week she began to really understand what was happening. Nikki’s sense of anxiety returned every evening when she took off the the head covering. She sat down with her eldest daughter and asked her why this works. Her daughter explained to her the theory that she had heard is that in covering the ‘crown chakra’ it helps to dampen the overwhelming emotional energy that someone who is very empathic is bombarded with on a regular basis. It acts as a protective barrier. As many other childhood trauma survivors know, one becomes an empath out of necessity. One needs to learn to “read the room” in order to feel safe and even survive. It’s a conditioned trauma response.

By the time Nikki and her company had reached the second week of performances, she never wanted to take her costume off. Her birthday was coming up very soon during the show’s dates, and her daughters asked Nikki if she’d like a Wrapunzel Kallah Kit – one of Wrapunzel’s specially curated collections of scarves, accessories and underpinnings (to achieve grip and shape while head wrapping.) They said they would go in together to buy her one as a gift. Nikki was absolutely thrilled! She had a few personal scarves at that point and had begun trying basic wraps that she saw on the Wrapunzel YouTube channel, starting with The Regal Wrap. She was a little nervous about public reaction, but the relief that wrapping was giving her was not worth giving up. No, it did not fix all of her anxiety. She doesn’t want to give the impression that it completely went away, but it was more relief than she had ever experienced from any other treatment. She also discovered that when wrapping she could meditate more deeply and for longer periods of time. That gave her extra relief for her anxiety and panic.

Nikki’s collection of head coverings has expanded from 12 personal scarves to 117 scarves, pre-tieds and hats since the beginning of October 2021. She has nothing but gratitude for the amazing art of head wrapping. She’s become more social, confident in her every day activities, and at peace with herself and her journey. She has found something that truly expresses who she is and allows her freedom from severely debilitating anxiety and panic. It also aligns beautifully with her religious beliefs as a Pagan and follower of Hestia. She endured a great deal of hair loss from fibromyalgia and a nearly fatal case of COVID-19 in 2020. Now she no longer feels self-conscious about that hair loss because she has beautiful head coverings. She can openly express her creative energy in her every day life. In general, people have been amazing. People of all ages and backgrounds complement her wraps. She smiles at people more. She stops and talks with people that she doesn’t even know, and she’d never done that before. Even her 19 month old grandbaby loves her scarves. When her granddaughter sees her in a new wrap, her whole being lights up and she exclaims, “Mimi Pwetty!” Even that sweet, small response brings Nikki peace and joy.

(Pictured Below: Nikki’s costume for “Blithe Spirit”. This is the head covering that started her wrapping journey. )

Another wrapper who has experienced this phenomenon is Rachel D. She’s had anxiety for most of her life. For a long time, it was one of those things she just trudged through or put to the side while taking care of the people she loves. A lot of people do that. The first time she wrapped her hair was kind of on a whim because of a particularly bad hair day.  She immediately noticed an internal shift, something just clicked into place. She called it the “rightness.” The feeling was a sense of calm and grounded energy. It was a feeling she wanted to chase. 

One thing led to another, and she found herself on the Wrapunzel Community group on Facebook. In reading through some of the comments, someone said that ‘wrapping helped with their anxiety. Their wrap felt like a gentle hug throughout the day’ and others chimed in with similar comments about energy, and so on. She recalls literally yelling, “That’s it! That’s the rightness!” into her computer screen.  

She had never considered that sensory issues could be contributing to her anxiety. She used to always wear her long hair up in a clip because she hated the feeling of it near her face or brushing against her neck and shoulders. Wrapping has been a fun, creative way for her to solve that problem and feel calm, poised, beautiful, and focused. She can’t say that she hasn’t experienced any anxiety since she started wrapping, but she can say without a doubt, that her anxiety has been noticeably and consistently reduced.

Rachel lives and works in a community where head covering is not common. She’s only had positive feedback and when people ask her why she does it, she tells them that it’s ‘because it’s creative and helps with her anxiety.’ If she can help, even a little, to normalize head covering in her community and have honest conversations about mental health with strangers, then she feels like she’s paying forward all the good things that wrapping has brought to her life. 

So far, we’ve seen that both of these ladies experienced some sort of ‘paradigm shift’ when they put on their head wrap. There’s a sense of a ‘hug,’ a security one feels when wrapping that is unmatched. Let’s hear Rebekah B’s story, and see what happens when she puts on her ‘cure crown.’

When I was a small child, my mother taught me to crochet. She taught me as her mother taught her, my hand in hers as we guided the needle gently along. And as we formed each small stitch, my mother told me stories. The one that captivated me most was the story of how women long ago would weave strands of their hair into each blanket or scarf they created, securing bits of themselves into their work. It gave each piece, I thought, a soul of sorts. And so, in my mind, hair became a testament to the soul. How little I knew of what trouble that testament would cause me.

I began pulling out my eyebrows and eyelashes in middle school. Forever on the receiving end of teasing and taunts, my anxiety grew out of proportion with what my little mind could carry and so, the leftover anxiety left my body through my fingers, and through my fingers, my hair. With the tug of each strand came a temporary relief – a balm – and I craved that release when tension built up inside of me. And so I pulled more and more until eventually my hands found their way to my head.

I don’t need to tell you that I tried to stop. Oh, how I tried. What was once a relief was now a compulsion that I despised and desperately wished to quit. My whole life people had fawned over my thick, wavy head of hair. A plain child, it was my claim to beauty. And now, my hair thinned. Bald patches peeked through a copper curtain. The story of my pain and anxiety was no longer private, but on display for all to see. And so, I hid.

I tried wigs. They were fun, for a while. I played around with different styles, trying on different personalities for each day of the week – an interesting metaphor for a time in my life when I wasn’t sure who I even was, and who I was shifted from day to day. But the world is not always kind to those who are different, and when you are secretly self-conscious about those differences, the sideways glances and offhand comments sting a little more. I began to feel like I was wearing a costume every time I went out. I thought I was wearing a wig to look more like myself, but really, I felt less and less like myself and my identity dissolved until I felt like nothing more than a painted doll on a shelf.

My loss of identity escalated, and in my young adulthood, I continued to seek it. I developed anorexia and lost the remainder of my hair from lack of nutrition. During my recovery, I decided to throw caution to the wind and shave my head. But that too felt inauthentic. My appearance didn’t tell the story I wanted it to tell. I wanted strands of hair to weave into blankets – a way to leave bits of myself inside the grand story of the universe. But without hair, there was no way to tell my story. Or so I thought.

I grew out my hair for a while, then, due to the increased anxiety that came along with my weight gain in recovery, began pulling it out again. I didn’t want to go back to wigs. To go back to anything felt like defeat. My story was one of brokenness. And it literally showed in my physical body. But I didn’t want people to see someone broken when they looked at me. After all, I had been near death and come back. Not unscathed, but stronger. How could I show the world that? How, when they looked at me, would they know who I am?

That is when I discovered Wrapunzel. A community of women who covered their hair – for all different reasons – and were proud of it. Late one night I stumbled across their website and scrolled through pictures of gorgeous scarves and wrap styles and women who looked like queens. I grabbed a few scarves I already owned and followed several tutorials that very night. My heart hammered inside my chest. I felt enlightened. A peace and familiarity flooded and warmed my body. This felt right. I ordered several scarves, and my wrapping journey began.

In the act of wrapping, I became one with my Creator. This was an act of creation. This was storytelling. I wove my story with each twirl and tug of fabric. Instead of hiding myself, through wrapping, I began to express myself. I could be bold and colorful and, I felt, I looked strong. I looked like me. My soul was wrapped up in each knot and braid. And I told my mother, it was impossible to hang my head when going out wrapped with my scarves. I began to hold my head high.

Something else began to happen. Wrapping was not only a barrier to my hair pulling, but it made me feel cherished. Covering my hair protected my hair and made it sacred. By covering it, I honored it, and because hair and the soul were so connected for me, by wrapping I honored my soul as well.  For the first time since losing my hair, I respected myself. I could tell the story I wanted to tell about myself.

And the story is that she is strong.

All of the above is what might be experienced by donning a head wrap while one experiences anxiety or suffers from the symptoms of other mental health issues. The ‘just right head hug’ gives comfort and an inner peace that soothes and provides relief that not much else can. The confidence one gains by wearing wraps may even help stave off the anxiety to begin with – before it becomes overwhelming.

And you will be strong.

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SOME IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT ANXIETY AND RELATED ISSUES

First of all, when examining this phenomena, it is important to understand a bit about anxiety and its mental health manifestations, as well as learning about when it may be time to see a medical professional about ones anxiety symptoms.

Anxiety can produce numerous symptoms that may impede normal function in daily life. The physical signs of anxiety may include but aren’t limited to insomnia, feeling weak or tired, sweating, tremors, rapid breathing, an increase in heart rate or even gastrointestinal issues. Psychological/mental signs of anxiety may include, but aren’t limited to feelings of tension, nervousness or doom, trouble concentrating or thinking about anything but your worries, having difficulty controlling worried feelings and avoiding things altogether that may trigger anxiety.

Anxiety disorders vary in severity. Persons with Generalized Anxiety Disorder worry about routine events and issues. The worry is excessive compared to the actual problem, and effects how the sufferer feels physically. Generalized Anxiety Disorder may present along with other mental health issues such as depression.

Anxiety may show itself when a person is suffering from a physical issue and is worried terribly about their health. In addition, it may cause Agoraphobia (a fear or avoidance of certain places or situations) or Panic Disorder (sudden, repeated episodes of intense anxiety, fear or terror that come on within minutes and cause heart palpitations, shortness of breath or chest pain)

In children, anxiety may present as Separation Anxiety Disorder (brought on by departing from parents or caregivers), Social Anxiety Disorder (brought on by certain feelings of embarrassment, feeling self-conscious or feeling judged in specific social situations), or even as selective mutism (a child’s failure to be able to speak under certain circumstances that worry them).

The above are only a sampling of ways that anxiety may disrupt the everyday, routine function of an individual at home, work, school, etc. One can certainly see how these symptoms may be quite troubling and bothersome.

When should someone seek professional help for their anxiety symptoms? If one feels as if they’re worrying too much, or are having troubles at work, in their relationships or other parts of their lives, or they think their anxiety may be linked to a physical or mental health problem, they should seek professional help. And without a doubt, should they begin using alcohol or drugs to quell their symptoms or experience any suicidal thoughts or behaviors, they should seek professional help immediately. They should not wait things out for them to improve on their own. There are many methods of treatment for anxiety disorders that are proven and effective.

#Lacebyyourface Challenge!

Hi Wrapunzelistas!

This month’s Wrap Challenge turned out to be ethereal! You brought us so many lovely, lacey looks that our heads went spinning. From sweet and innocent to dramatic and head-turning, framing your face was amazing with lace – and you all rose to the occasion. Check out some of your fancy filigree fashions below!

#Somethingnewforyou Challenge

Hey Wrapunzelistas! This challenge really brought out the courage in you. You tried new styles, new colors, new bling – all types of things! For some of you it was like dipping your toe into a chilly creek. Before, you may have pulled that toe back in with all the speed and might you could muster, but this time? None of that! You threw yourself into the great ‘beyond’ with courage and gusto and strength. And your fellow Wrapunzelistas were made all the better by seeing the products of that fortitude. All strength to you, sweet Wrapunzelistas, for taking the plunge!

#Accessorizeyourwraps Challenge!

Hey Wrapunzelistas – We asked you to BLING us your most ‘dudded up’ wraps – and you really, really BROUGHT IT! From Sari Strips and Sashes to baubles, bangles and beads – and even EARS!, showing up in this challenge were your most incredible accessories – pins, necklaces, headbands and more. Accessories galore by the score! It was so great to see you draw attention to your wraps with extra OOMPH. We hope you had as much fun with this one as we had dreaming it up for you.

#ShinyandSparklyWraps Challenge!

Here you are in all your radiant glory! All of our sweet Wrapunzelistas who took time out of their busy shopping schedules (ahem…can we say Black Friday 2021?) to strut their stuff in the shiniest and most sparkling style! Look how they GLOW! Perhaps you’ll see something to inspire you to embrace the glimmer any day of the week. Who knows? 🙂

#Allthecolors Challenge!

Hey Wrapunzelistas!

This was a fun one!

Wrap your pretty little heads with all the colors – rainbow, (red/orange/yellow/green/blue/indigo/violet.) Celadon, vermillion, verdegris, azure, chartreuse – whatEVER!

Take them all, twist them, tie them, tease them, turn them into all of your incredible wrapping creations. You had the opportunity with this challenge to really show us what you’ve got – and man, oh man, did you deliver 🙂

Here are just a few of your amazing examples – a painter’s palette for the ages!

#Monochromaticwraps Challenge!

These wraps may have been in one color scheme, but they were certainly NOT one-dimensional! The wrappers in our Wrapunzel Community Group on Facebook twisted, turned and tasseled their way into creating the most amazing monochromatic styles – and we were floored! Take a look at some of their handiwork for the last two weeks of October 2021 🙂

Elli Leppä – Multi-Faceted Human and Lady Wrap Star!

Hi there! My name is Elli Leppä and I live in Finland, in the Northernmost part of Europe. I work as a pharmacologist and I also write poetry (my second collection is coming out in the autumn). I’m interested in mythology, folklore and various sciences like astronomy and ecology, and I try to incorporate these things into my writing. Some of my role models are Margaret Atwood, Ursula LeGuin and Neil Gaiman. I’ve read science fiction and fantasy literature since I was a child, and these literary circles, as well as the live role playing community are like my second family. I also sing in a small folk music ensemble.

A few years ago I was diagnosed with autoimmune alopecia, which lead me to wrapping. I have always paid quite a lot of attention to my clothes and accessories, and I wanted to find a new way of expressing myself to compensate for the unavoidable changes in how I looked. A wonderful Finnish friend pointed me to the Wrapunzel website and Facebook group, and right from the first moments I felt so welcome and cherished! Taking photographs of my wraps and posting them in the Wrapunzel group has really helped me to process my illness and to find a new kind of joy in choosing fabrics, textures, patterns and styles for my wraps. (I have also accumulated a truly hilarious amount of scarves and I despair of keeping them in order. I suspect they multiply at night when I’m not looking).

My friends, family and colleagues have been very supportive of my wrapping. Wrapping is not common where I live, and I felt self-conscious at first, but positive comments have helped dispel my self-doubts, and these days I don’t worry about standing out anywhere, be it in professional meetings, with my hobby friends or at formal events. Although I’ve had short hair for most of my life, wrapping takes me back to my teenage years when I had hair past my shoulders and wore it in a variety of styles. Choosing a scarf and a style every morning reminds me of doing my hair. I don’t consider myself very dexterous, and initially I found it difficult to find easy beginner styles. Wrapunzel tutorials on YouTube were a great help. I began with the Regal Wrap style and gradually increased to more intricate wraps. I still struggle with narrow pleats, but I’m confident there isn’t anything I can’t learn if I put my mind to it. Currently my favourite scarf type is the Harmony Sari (I won’t reveal how many individual sari scarves I have. You’d faint!). They have a wonderful versatility and flair, and they can be used to create so many styles, from formal to wildly eccentric.

When choosing a style for the day I often like to balance and coordinate my wrap with my outfit in several ways: patterns in my top or dress go with a wrap with little or no pattern. If I choose a completely black outfit, my wrap can be a firework of colors. And lots of detail in the wrap call for a simpler outfit. For the longest time I thought that high, turban-like wraps wouldn’t work for me, but currently a two-scarf turban (for example, a Petalsoft underscarf and a Sari for a sash) is my favourite combination. Sometimes I add a hair clip or a brooch for pizzazz. I dress somewhat eclectically, and it’s taken me a while to explore the whole gamut of ways of expressing myself with scarves. I like to think I can nowadays create both feminine, romantic ensembles as well as darker, edgier and more androgyne looks.

Having your hair visible is the standard way to look where I live. Deviating from this norm for whatever reason (for example illness, religion, spirituality, fashion statement) tends to make you reconsider beauty norms and societal expectations. That you don’t have to look a certain way to be appreciated. Although I’ve been very lucky in that I haven’t had to defend my choice to wrap to anyone, I feel a certain solidarity with everyone who has been criticized for their wrapping. The supportiveness of the Wrapunzel community is nothing short of amazing. I’ve been moved to tears several times, when someone has brought their sorrows over having had their wrapping aggressively questioned, and been consoled and empowered by the wonderful people there.

I strongly recommed the Wrapunzel community to anyone who has already started wrapping, anyone who has wrapped for years and wants some new ideas and anyone who is a little bit curious what wrapping is about. The inspiration, practical tips, advice and really just the warmth and kinship of the lovely Wrapunzelistas are like sunshine on a dark day.

And to wrap this text up (heh), here’s a translation of a poem I wrote that reflects some of my feelings concerning my hair loss.

I weigh these things in my hand

before throwing them away:

useless stuff

hopes regrets

combs brushes shampoo bottles

upon fields and courtyards I have shed
my hair eyelashes eyebrows
have birds nested in them?
have squirrel mothers made small blankets
for their babies

I know precisely the shape of my skull
the smoothness under my fingers;
not everyone has been granted this
exploration of downy hills
the wonder
to feel
questioning raindrops on my head
this gift wrapped in this loss

Your Wrapping Journey Begins Here!

A New Wrapper’s Guide On How To Get Started – by Rikki Breuer

Are you new to wrapping? You may have seen how gorgeous ladies with beautiful head wraps look and would like to try them out, or you may have a medical or religious need to cover your hair, and would like to do so in the most beautiful way possible. Well, we’ve got good news for you. You are in the right place – we’ve got you covered!

Here is a guide to everything you need to know to master the art of head wrapping: 

First off, take a deep breath, and get ready for this enlightening journey to explore your inner beauty! 

Next, know there are thousands of women just like you who have also started out without knowing where to start. They too started here, and now they are their own wrapping experts. They practiced, experimented, and most importantly had fun along the way!

The Wrapunzel Community consists of beautiful women from all over the world, and from all walks of life. There are so many different reasons to wrap, and different WAYS to wrap. The most important thing to remember is there are no rules. Just play around, and the possibilities will be endless. 

This is so important! Essential tools are ESSENTIAL! We can’t say this enough. Just like you wouldn’t start a painting without a canvas on which to paint, you wouldn’t want to create a head wrap masterpiece with no base. Without placing a Shaper or No-Slip Headband under your scarves, your wrap will move and slip. Bigger and thicker scarves definitely need to have a place to sit and grab. And if you are wrapping due to hair loss or have short or very fine hair, a shaper will give any scarf room to sit neatly. It may seem overwhelming to see all the shaper options we offer, but don’t worry, we realize that, and have therefore created lots of resources for you to learn which shapers work best for you. Check out our shaper comparison chart;

Also, our 60 second shaper review and all these other shaper tutorials will help tremendously. Plus, use this video to learn how to correctly measure your head for our No-Slip Headbands! Keep in mind different shapers work better for different wraps! And, most of our shapers’ pouf sizes are adjustable. Just adding or removing stuffing gives you some leeway in wrap/scarf options.

Next. Now you have your base, what now? Where do you begin? Grab your popcorn and sit down to binge watch some fun tutorials! We have a playlist specifically for beginners just like you. Master a few basic techniques before trying to create more complicated wraps. Mastering the basic techniques will give you the skills needed to move onto the next level. A few great wrap styles that will teach you indispensable techniques you’ll need to start with are the Beginners Luck Knot and the Regal Wrap. These are simple to do and once you’ve mastered them, you will have the skills to learn many, many more wrapping techniques. The Lazy April and Shira Tails also utilize simple techniques that will get you far. Take a look at those too. Practice, practice and more practice these same techniques over and over and you’ll get it in no time! Check out the Beginners Tutorial Playlist and One-Scarf Wraps playlist for more great styles to explore.

Keep in mind, different styles suit different faces. Play around, try different styles and see what works for you, and what you feel most comfortable in. Wrapping is an art, and you are the artist. Be creative, and allow yourself to make mistakes. Many times mistakes create the most amazing art! 

Wow, that’s a lot of new information to learn! But, we know you’ve got this! You’ve got your techniques down pat, you’ve figured out which shapers you need, but now, you need to fill up your collection with stunning scarves. With so many options on wrapunzel.com, where do you start? There is no simple answer, since everyone has different tastes and different clothing in their wardrobe to match with. But, a good place to start is with some solids, in colors you tend to wear most often.

Great and easy for beginners, solid scarves are Petalsoft Scarves, Tuff and Original 2-in-1s, as well as the Back To Basics and Cornerstone Scarves. These are lightweight, and therefore easy to maneuver and even layer when you get brave enough to have fun and experiment with layering scarves and sashes. Check out our Solid Scarves Comparison Chart, to learn all about our solid scarf options, their dimensions and which wraps they are best for:

Patterned scarves with lots of different colors featured in the pattern are beneficial, since one scarf alone could match many items in your wardrobe. Wrapunzel has many gorgeous patterned scarves to choose from. Watercolor 2-in-1’s, the Can’t Catch Me Scarf, the New York Brights Scarves and the Dreams Come True Scarf are great for beginners as they are light and easy to wrap. 

For fancier occasions, Wrapunzel’s Shiny-licious, Sparkle-licious and Dewdrop Sparkle Scarves are lightweight and super pliable, hence great for beginners. And, if you are looking for cozier scarves, the Lakeshore Bliss Scarves, Soft Pashminas, and our Signature Scarves are great starters. They are soft and stretchy and wrap like a dream. No matter what you’re looking for, we’ve got you covered!

Join beautiful Wrapuzelistas from around the world on the Wrapunzel Community Facebook Group. In this wonderful group, women from all walks of life unite in their love of head wrapping. They share practical wrapping tips and tricks and cheer each other on as they master technique after technique. They can be a wonderful support system as you embrace your crown!

The world of wrapping is full of color, beauty and joy. It’s a way to express yourself, express your inner voice and inner beauty! It’s your journey. The world is your oyster. Express yourself in your own way! Most importantly, don’t forget to have fun and enjoy your wrapping journey! We are so glad you chose us to join along with you!