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From Day into Evening

Read on for some awesome outfit transition advice from Wrapunzelista Meira Shneider-Atik!

A lot of fashion gurus talk about the “day into evening” dilemma that pops up a lot. You have your regular work during the day, but then you have a dressy event afterward and you don’t have time to go home and completely change clothes. This dilemma is easily solved by planning ahead and using a base and changing your accents.

I had this dilemma myself on Sunday. I had to take my daughter to a high school open house in the morning and then I had to go to an engagement party in the afternoon and another in the evening. But I planned ahead and used color and accents and it wasn’t difficult at all.

I started with a black base- shell and skirt- and just added colored accents.

For the open house, I wanted to look polished and pulled-together but also warm and approachable and not overdone. So I chose olive green for my accents. I wore my red Cranberry scarf with the olive green side showing and I wrapped it in a 1920’s style turban (favorite everyday wrap). It coordinated nicely with my olive cardigan. Olive is a color found in my irises and so it’s soft and warm and not too formal.

Once I got home, I just changed into my teal cardigan and teal Cranberry scarf (again in a 1920’s style turban). Teal is a much more dramatic color on me, so it comes off dressy, making it perfect for the engagement parties.

In all of those, I looked and felt just right. And I didn’t have to drive myself crazy.

Yes, these situations do happen, but with a little planning and strategic use of color, you can do this.  

Love, Meira

Head Wrapping in the Professional World by Lila H.

Here it is! Part 2 of “Head Wrapping in the Professional World” by government agency worker, Lila Halpern Besser! Enjoy and take notes!

Hi ladies! Andrea graciously asked me to write something about wrapping in the professional world. I understand not every “professional” environment is the same, but I wanted to share my personal feelings so that it may help someone have the confidence to wrap for work.

A little about me-I’ve been wrapping since my wedding almost 2 years ago, and I live near Washington DC with my amazing husband. I met Andrea shortly after I got married through a mutual friend, and have been inspired by her in my wrapping. Some of you may recognize me from the Wrapunzel website (I had an awesome time modeling the midsummer line with Yehudis) and from the fangroup, where I post almost daily. Sometimes I need to see myself through a camera lens to see the outward image I am projecting for the world to see, and what better way to do that than sharing with the amazing and supportive Wrapunzel community.

What makes an outfit professional? (including my shopping tips)

Everyone has a different definition of what is considered professional. I work for a government agency where all of the men (and some of the women) are in suits every day. Dress pants and blouses and sometimes sheath dresses are present as well. That is what “business professional” standardly looks like. And yes, while I love to rock the sheath dress as much as the next girl (see pics below), that isn’t the be-all, end-all of dressing professionally.

First and foremost, confidence and tidiness are key. Even if you are in a suit, if you don’t hold your head high and your clothing is disheveled, you won’t look professional. And while wearing your tichel proudly, you allow your confidence to shine through. It may take a little practice to get a tichel looking neat and tidy, but master the Beginner’s Luck, the Regal wrap, and maybe a turban if you want and you will never go wrong.

My fashion tastes tend to be a little loud at times (pattern mixing, bright colors), but I keep it all professional by following a few simple rules:
1- A sheath dress with a cardigan or jacket, regardless of the color or pattern of the dress, is always an easy way to look put together (especially when your tichel coordinates with colors in the dress.
2- A line, pencil, or flared skirts, even in colors or patterns, are flattering and look great, but it always depends on the top. An outfit can hinge on a corresponding top.
3- Tops with collars, whether form fitting like dress shirts or a little more flowing, are amazing closet staples. Personally, I love the sleeveless, loose fitting button down tucked into a flowy or pleated skirt with a cardigan for a polished look. It’s pretty much my go-to most days.

How do I express my creativity while still remaining professional?
Part of it is the clothing I choose to wear, but tichels play a major part it in. Sometimes I want to do a fancy wrap with multiple scarves and feel creative, and some days I just want a simple Beginner’s Luck with my favorite sari scarf, or a turban with a T-shirt tichel. It all depends on how I feel, but my color choices in both my clothing and my tichels allow me to express myself and show the face I want the world to see.

Do I feel constrained or more free in my wardrobe choices due to wearing a tichel to work?
I think sometimes it’s both, but more often it makes me feel free. I’ve woken up some mornings wanting to wear a particular scarf and decided nothing matched, or had a hard time matching a scarf to an outfit I wanted to wear (in these situations, my husband usually comes to my rescue and suggests some fantastic combination. Don’t be fooled, ladies, some of my best outfits were chosen by him). But most of the time, I love being able to match scarves to outfits, pulling in some small color from my dress, or wearing a neutral outfit and brightly colored scarves. I also believe that accessories pull and outfit together and make it look polished. Tichels are as much an accessory and part of my outfit as makeup, jewelry, shoes, or a jacket, so I love to coordinate whatever bling I’m wearing on my tichel (headband, pin, sash) to the rest of my jewelry
to pull it all together.

What would I say to someone nervous about wearing a tichel on her first day of work?
To be completely honest, I’ve been there. I started my job two months before my wedding, and the first day going back to work, I had a really hard time getting dressed. I had been planning on wearing a wide headband, but somehow it just didn’t feel right. My husband was watching this dilemma, and he told me to just wear a scarf. So I chose something neutral and understated (black/white/grey ombre 2in1 with a silver headband), and went to work. The first week, I got a few questions from my supervisor and co- workers, but I was ready with my response: “Some Orthodox Jewish women cover their hair after marriage, and that is what I have chosen to do”. And everyone accepted that. Over the next several weeks, as I became more comfortable, I started branching out with brighter colors and more intricate styles, and no one batted an eyelash. Do I still get funny looks in the bathroom sometimes? Of course.

Do people occasionally ask why I cover my hair? Absolutely. Do random people stop me in the halls? All the time. But when I smile at staring people in the bathroom, they smile back. And I tell the people who ask that I cover my hair to signify my status as an Orthodox Jewish married woman and it is a part of my religion. And the people who stop me in the hallway? They usually just want to tell me they like my scarf, ask how I tied it, or where I got it.

What are some of my favorite professional outfits I’ve worn?
Check them out!

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Sometimes a solid dress in a color you feel confident can be a neutral. I paired it with a teal aviary scarf for complimenting colors and pearl jewelry (Wrap: regal with a teal aviary and headband)

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Bright colors are the best way to beat the Monday blues! This shirt is one of my most worn, and this skirt gives me the ability to pull so many colors! (Wrap: 2-scarf regal with a pin)

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Sometimes a belt completes an outfit! I love this color pairing, and the scarf pulls out the blues and reds from the whole outfit (Wrap: Regal with scarf of the month scarf and clip)

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Some people don’t mix red and pink, but the darker pinks in the top match the burgundy of the skirt! And even though the florals aren’t on the same background color, they coordinate well (Wrap: turban with a pin)

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Sheath dress is fun colors is still professional. I chose a sari that had two colors from the dress, and toned it all down with a black cardigan. (Wrap: beginners luck with a pin)

 

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Pattern mixing can be intimidating. This is a simple take with a top with a small pattern and bottom with large pattern, using two neutral colors and red. The shades of red sari is a perfect compliment (Wrap: beginners luck with the tail tucked)

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a simple business-like top paired with a bright and colorful skirt allows for some great scarf color combos! (Wrap: regal with t-shirt tichel and lace sash)

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This pattern mixing is very bold, but the peach in the top matches the skirt really well, and the black cardigan tones it down. The scarf color int a perfect match, but its in the same family (Wrap: angled regal with a Ray of Sunshine scarf)

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Sometimes I love to pair a neutral color with a bold scarf and accessories! (Wrap: turban with a signature)

Meet Elena from Åland!

Everyone, I am so excited to introduce you to Elena Isabella, a woman who takes head wrapping to a whole new level! Love her story, her sense of style, and knowing that she is out there on her tiny island rocking these awesome scarves!

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Hello!

 My name is Elena and I live in Åland, a small island in between Finland and Sweden. I live here with my significant other and two cats. My mother lives right next door, it’s kind of like a sitcom at times. Lots of shouting and there’s always coffee brewing.

Except for the two years I lived in Sweden studying to a makeup artist (among other things. I also took social psychology classes), I’ve lived here all my life.
It’s quite isolated, everyone knows everyone and we’re always about two years behind, but I can’t think of a better place to live, really. Instead I travel as often as my bank account allows me.
I like cats, tea, cake, colouring books, scarves, video games and music (everything from Edith Piaf to King Dude)
My favourite colour is teal and I will never miss an opportunity to make a bad joke or tell a random anecdote.
I started wrapping a little more than a year ago. I’ve always liked the look of wraps, like the retro turbans and the flowing scarves from the 60’s and 70’s, but I could never get the fabrics to stay on my head, no matter the amount of bobby pins and hair grips.
One day I found a video of Andrea tying a tichel. I had no idea what that was or who she was, but I binge watched pretty much every wrapunzel video available at that time, and shortly after, I orded my first velvet headband and a whole new world opened before me.
My main reason for wrapping at that time was to let my hair rest. I hade fried it with bleach for the second time in 5 years and didn’t dare to do anything with it anymore. I had experimented with extensions and wigs for some time, but in the end it was too much of an effort, and a bit uncomfortable really. I used to say that I suffered from a chronic case of bad hair day.
After some time I felt that I still couldn’t do the awesome wraps shown in the videos and went all in and ordered a Wendy and a bunch of scarves to experiment with.
I found the Fan group and after many days of hesitating, I finally dared to join.
After some months of weekend wrapping only, I realised that the scarves ment more to me than just covering bad hair (that was starting to improve whohoo!), I had, in a way, found myself again.
Flashback a few years, I had a rotten divorce that left me alone, confused and not sure about myself anymore. Style has always been a big part of me and I’ve always loved experimenting with my looks. But suddenly I didn’t feel like dying my hair bright orange anymore, makeup didn’t look right and I felt -old-. I didn’t want to be seen anymore, I was tired and just couldn’t be bothered to make any effort anymore. I just didn’t care.
The scarves made me feel “cool” again. I felt more put together, more age appropriate and proud, and even if I didn’t realise right away, covering my hair has helped me let go of the bad times more than anything else. Life is fun again!
It might have been noted that I like to wear makeup. Lots of makeup. The scarves inspired me to use colours again and be creative. I usually try to match my makeup to my scarf, so if you ever see me in a total miss-match, there was a tantrum that day 😉
I know living in a small area can be tough for someone looking different, but I’ve been lucky. I’ve always looked different, everyone knows who I am, one way or another. I’m either the tattooed postman-girl, Pia’s daughter (My mum used to work in a tax free store. Things like that will make you famous around here.) or simply “the makeup girl”. This is just my current “thing”.
The wrapping community has given me the opportunity to learn more about the world, religion, philosophy and totally random things, like what to do with a butternut squash.
I’ve found some amazing ladies I would now consider friends, that I probably would never met without this community, and I’m very grateful to have had the opportunity to get to know them.
Love to all
//Elena Isabella

Can You Wear A Wrap as a Professional? Yes You Can!

Hi everyone! Meet Arrianna, second year medical student who is rocking the wraps while doing training in an environment where professionalism is strict. This is Part 1 of our blog series on Wrapping in the Professional world. Enjoy!

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I’m a second year medical student. We had our first clinical exercise of the year at the VA hospital today. I almost didn’t wrap, concerned as we always need to be about strict professionalism while in our white coats. But in the end I did with a simple 2-in-1, and gold rose headband. My classmates loved it, and one patient’s wife even asked me how I did that, as her hair was thinning and she’d been thinking about starting to wear scarves. I didn’t have time to show her how to do the wrap right then, but I wrote down some information for her, and I hope that now Wrapunzel’s youtube channel has a new fan.

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My advice? Keep it simple, especially in the beginning until you really know your work audience and they’re used to you. In my situation, medicine is a fairly conservative profession and I deal with people of a huge range of ages, backgrounds, beliefs, socioeconomic status, hopes, and needs. I want the image I present to be professional, but not austere. When people see me, I want them to see a competent medical provider first and not to be distracted by my scarf, much like I wouldn’t want people distracted by my jewelry or my clothing.

Being in healthcare and being around patients who may be losing hair for many reasons, I’m very uplifted by the fact that wrapping in this environment is going so well. Much of healthcare has an underlying theme of the effect of health problems on self-image, as hair (or the lack thereof) figures so prominently into our society’s idea of what makes both men and women attractive. Personally, I hope that wearing a wrap in the workplace will encourage those who may be too shy or embarrassed to talk to their doctor about hair loss to ask me questions. I would like them to see me and think: “there is someone who will help me without judgment”.

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Lady Wrap Star Nancy!

I am delighted to introduce you to Nancy! A regular face on the Wrapunzel fangroup, she has quickly blazed an inspirational trail for all stylish head wrappers! She truly knows how to put tichels and outfits together, and is such a warm and lovely person – I can’t wait for you to meet her!

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meet Nancy

“What a honor it is to be asked to be a Lady Wrap Star.

A little about me, I was born and raised in Southern California. I now live in Palm Desert, California about 20 minutes away from Palm Springs. I’m married to a wonderful man and have two children a daughter 42 and a son 40. I’m also blessed with three beautiful grandchildren. I’m so luck to still have my 89 year old Mother that is as spunky as a 40 year old! She’s my best friend, I love her so much.

I’m very active at my Temple. Im co-chair of the Social Action Committee, visit those confined to live in care facilities, pick up elders for Shabbat Services, deliver food to the needy every Tuesday and collect clothing and toiletries and deliver them to the migrant workers on the farms. Hashem has called me to do this and so I do.

One night about two years ago I was going through You Tube and I came across a Wrapunzel tutorial, a huge gift from Hashem, that night was the beginning of my Wrap journey. The next morning I placed my first order, ran to the thrift store to get some scarfs to practice with while awaiting my order and I was off and running never to look back.”

“Wrapping has literally changed everything about my life. I feel more grounded and centered. I feel more spiritual and closer to G-d.

My wrap styles vary depending on the scarf. Saris wrap different then 2n1s or Pashminas and so on. I think I wrap in a beginners luck and Amped up beginners more then anything.  I still look at tutorials everyday to get new ideas and to refresh my memory. Andrea has been a huge influence on me. I’ve learned about self esteem, modest dressing , Shabbat and of course beautiful wrapping.

I want to thank all the Wrapunzel ladies for all your love and support. You have been there for me in good times and bad. I feel you’re all my friends, REAL FRIENDS!!! I wish one day we could have a huge Wrapunzel  get together so we could all meet face to face.  Love and blessings!”

Check out Nancy’s beautiful outfits and how she incorporates her wraps!

Meira’s Wedding Disaster (turned success!)

My husband and I had a family wedding and we had to travel, first to Monsey to spend Shabbat with my parents, then to Baltimore for the wedding. Our sons helped me load luggage into the car and the four of us had no trouble getting to Monsey. But while traveling, I realized that we had forgotten to pack along my bag with mitpachot. The only head covering I had was my Artistic License scarf that I was wearing that day.
As it was, I had picked out a dress for the wedding, but I hadn’t chosen a wrap style. So I had packed a few different mitpachot and I figured that I would try a few wrap styles and see what worked.

But now I was stuck.

However, some of my most creative ideas come when I’m stuck. As soon as I realized that I only had my Artistic License scarf, the wheels began to turn. That scarf went just fine with my Shabbat outfit (navy top and black skirt- both classic neutrals which go with everything) and would go with my teal dress for the wedding (same color family). Now my challenge was to find a wrap style that would a) look appropriate for a wedding b) hold up well during dancing (Jewish celebratory dancing is very lively and aerobic).
After Shabbat, I tried on a few different wrap styles – here are the ones I didn’t choose:

Eventually I chose the rose turban. It reminded me of British “fascinators,” so if I’m ever in the UK and invited to a formal daytime event, I know what to wear. Meanwhile, at this wedding, the rose turban worked. My husband liked it and I got tons of compliments. More importantly, I felt great.
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Sometimes, the best ideas come when you think you’re stuck. Don’t give up.

The Tichel Orchestra

The following was written by Devora Sara Alon, Rabbanit of Kehilat Kol Yisrael Achim, after she hosted a beautiful Wrapunzel event in Great Neck.

 

Screen Shot 2017-07-24 at 7.31.41 PM“I originally became interested in Wrapunzel as simply another tool in the hair-covering toolbox.  I had not known how practically to keep all my hair covered securely in (nor thought that I had the features for)  anything other than a sheitel.

Upon revisiting your site, I was struck by how Wrapunzel is reclaiming beauty.  Society dictates that beauty means being young, skinny, have long flowing hair, etc. yet, we as Jews are supposed to be a light unto the nations. We should not be taking our cues from society at large. We know that aging is actually a gift (after all, Avraham Avinu asked for it), and older people are to be respected and venerated.  We know that our bodies are a vessel for our most essential selves: our neshamot.  We know that Hakadosh Boruch Hu created each woman’s body with intrinsic beauty, so much so, that we cover our bodies lest they detract ourselves and others from recognizing our true essence.  [Andrea’s] analogy of an orchestra really struck a chord with me: each instrument plays its unique part and together we have a symphony. Had we only recognized a single melody, without all the different and unique harmonic lines, our musical traditions would have missed out on a whole world of polyphonic possibility.  As a former amateur singer, (way back in high school) I loved singing in large choirs.  I loved having my voice blend with the other singers.  I vividly recall how on occasion, “diva” singers could completely throw off an entire section or choir simply because a singer was more intent on standing out than allowing her (or his) voice to be part of something bigger.  Yet, it is still each singer’s unique voice that creates the stunning quality heard in choral pieces.

I likewise like to use the analogy of a circle: each point on the circumference is unique, though equidistant from the center.  It is only when we have all the different points on that circumference that the circle is complete. We never, chas v’shalom, ultimately gain from trying to stand out alone at others’ expense.  When we recognize that everyone has intrinsic value and beauty, including ourselves, that is when we can begin to appreciate the artistry of Ribbonu Shel Olam.

When browsing through Wrapunzel’s website, one sees models of every size, color, and age.  Strikingly, every model exudes her unique beauty.  How do they do that?  Is there some special filter being used on the cameras?  No, there is no chicanery occurring.  Each woman is beautiful and in dressing modestly with joy, and her true beauty just radiates!   Thank you for reminding us what we should be realizing all along, for truly being a light unto the nations, and standing well above what society dictates as their  (false) version of what a woman should look like. This has undoubtedly led to unhealthy self-image in countless women and girls throughout the world, but Gd willing with all of our personal efforts towards change we will merit the coming of Moshiach and experience the joy of finally singing our unique melodies together in harmony.”