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Wrapunzel was in the Jewish Press!  All in all this is totally what Wrapunzel is all about!  Thank you so much for writing such a gorgeous article!  (Please note that Andrea gave the interview in January even though the article was just published.)  The easiest way to view these pages is to click on the page you want to view, and then zoom in on the article.  Here are the links to the two pages of the article:

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June’s Mishpacha Article!

We keep getting emails asking us to read the Mishpacha article from last June!  There is only this available online, so here is the transcription for you (obviously without photos etc.)

Wrap Artists
Andrea Grinberg and Rivka Malka Perlman elevate the tichel to fine art
By Barbara Bensoussan

Wrapunzel, Wrapunzel, let down your…tichel?

Throwing on a tichel was once considered a comfortable, at-home way to cover hair—but many frum women would’ve been mortified to wear one in public.  But wow—times have changed!  There’s been an explosion of style in the tichel world, and what was once considered a shmatteh best worn for washing floors has turned into high style headdresses that confer an air of royalty and elegance.

Yehudith Levy (aka Judith de Paris), who sells stylish French and Israeli head coverings, says the French influx into Eretz Yisrael has catapulted the tichel to new heights in headwear.  She says with a smile, “You have many Sephardic women who follow Chacham Ovadia’s shitah to cover hair with a hat or headscarf, but since they’re French, they want to do it with style!  They’ve created many beautiful innovations in head coverings.”  She herself agreed to wear only hats and scarves when she married her Tunisian-born husband, the rabbi of a Sephardic congregation.

But you don’t have to be Sephardic—or even Jewish!—to appreciate the possibilities of tichel-wearing, or “wrapping,” as Andrea Grinberg and Rivka Malka Perlman like to call it.  These two friends first connected online through their shared loved of creative tichel wearing.  Andrea, a professional cello performer and teacher, as well as an inspired baalas teshuva, had started a blog with the charming name “Wrapunzel,” in which she documents her own discoveries and inventions with tichels and invites other women to share theirs.

Andrea’s blog attracted an unexpectedly broad following.  There are women who post their stories on the blog (Andrea dubs them “Wrap Stars”); some of them aren’t even Jewish.  There are fundamentalist Christians enamored of the idea of modesty, and Muslim women who cover for religious reasons.  A Jewish clergywoman who started her own blog and posted a “Wrap Star” entry now covers her hair all the time, professing a longstanding fascination with hair covering.

As Andrea Malka began blogging, Rivka Malka had been busy publishing her own blog designed for kiruv.  At the time she was the director of the kiruv organization WOW in Maryland, which reaches out to young professionals.  When she considered adding a video to the site, as a means of reaching a wider audience, a friend advised her to post a clip about how she wears her headscarves. “That sounded funny to me, but he said, ‘If you do what you love, and what you’re good at, people will respond to it.’  He was right—I did clips on several different topics, but it was the hair covering clip that was the most popular!

“That taught me a lesson about the power of a mitzvah.  Sometimes we want to make mitzvahs sound more neutral because we think they’ll be more palatable to the unaffiliated, but Torah speaks for itself.  If you share from a place of raw sincerity and authenticity, people will respond.”

Today Andrea and Rivka Malka demonstrate tichel techniques and sell them through a site called Wrapunzel.  I meet them in a Flatbush home a couple of hours before a sale; with characteristic warmth, they usher me through the controlled chaos to a couch to chat, as Rivka Malka’s husband and a couple of her children haul in boxes and pile tichels on tables.  Tonight Andrea’s face is framed in a navy tichel layered with a patterned sari scarf (made of sewn strips of sari fabrics) and topped with a row of pearls; Rivka Malka is wearing striking layers of teal and rust.  Both women have delicate features that shine under these “crowns,” radiating wholesomeness and purity.

So how do two Ashkenazic women become icons of tichel wearing—and the creators of a whole new style?  In Andrea’s case, she started her married life in Eretz Yisrael, where wigs are less de rigueur than they are chutz l’aretz.  When she moved to Chicago so that her husband could pursue a masters degree (he’s also a musician, a violinist), she was told, “In Chicago, you’re going to have to wear a sheitel.”  So she went out and bought an inexpensive one, but never wore it in the end.  “I wasn’t against wigs, and I’m not usually the type to stick out in a crowd.  But the tichel was just me; I loved wearing them,” she says.

Rivka Malka, nee Klatzko, grew up in a warm, open frum home in Cleveland; like her brother Rabbi Bentzion Klatzko, she exudes enthusiasm for Judaism tempered by sensitivity and practicality.  She says she always had a “a yen for more color,” surely a reflection of her bright, open personality.  What she didn’t want for herself were the discreet wigs and dark clothing she saw a lot of in the yeshivish circles of her childhood.  “It’s my inner hippie, my artsy side,” she says cheerfully. “Anyone who knows me knows I hate black!  I need lots of color.”

Like Andrea, she bought a sheitel after she got married, although she mostly wore berets and scarves. “My husband told me, ‘You can wear anything on your head but a snood, I don’t like snoods!’” she laughs. “My mother-in-law always wore tichels and looked great in them.”   Over the years she developed the tichel look she wanted, and began wearing headscarves exclusively (it’s now been 20 years).  “For awhile I was wearing my wig only to weddings,” she says.  “Then one evening I went to a wedding, and there was a woman wearing a beautiful tichel.  I thought, hey, if she can do it, I can too!  After that I retired the wig for good.”  Before long she began buying tichels in bulk and selling them in tzedaka sales.

Hashgachah pratis pushed things along when Andrea’s husband got a scholarship to continue his studies in Baltimore—right near Rivka Malka’s neighborhood!  It seemed absolutely bashert for two women who already felt like soul sisters.  The two couples ended up living just a few houses away from each other, and davening in the same shul. Now they were able to give each other chizuk and exchange blogging ideas in person, in each other’s kitchens and living rooms.

They soon realized they needed to help the women reading their blogs put their ideas into practice.  “We were busy teaching people techniques to tie tichels, but we also needed to give them the tools—the access to beautiful tichels,” Rivka Malka says. “So we put our heads together and came up with the idea to open a business.”  Their husbands were supportive—both became involved helping—and the Wrapunzel store opened this past January in Andrea’s cello studio.

Perhaps Wrapunzel’s most novel move was to take a booth at the International Head Wrapping Festival in Dearborn, MI, where they were the only Jewish merchants among 45 booths of Muslim vendors and over 500 participants.  Their booth was so most popular at the show—so much so that when the Detroit Free Press wrote up the event, they chose to spotlight Wrapunzel.  “They caught our positive spirit,” Rivka Malka says.

Andrea and Rivka Malka appeal because they’re fresh and enthusiastic.  For them, wearing a tichel is a means of taking tznius to the next level, elevating the mitzvah to an art form and making a very public kiddush Hashem.  Both of them dress in stylish, sometimes funky clothing and bring an equally creative touch to headscarves, often combining two or three to fashion braids, twists, rosettes and woven effects.  They combine all manner of colors, patterns and textures to create wearable head art—and complete the effect with brooches, strands of pearls or lace, or sequined headbands.  “Sometimes people question if it’s tznius to wear a very striking head covering,” Andrea says.  “But there’s a difference between beauty and physical allure, between framing the face and distracting from it with hair.”

Women frequently tell them, “I don’t wear a tichel because I don’t have the right face for it.”  But Andrea and Rivka Malka pooh-pooh that idea.  “Everyone can wear tichels,” Rivka Malka says firmly. “It’s a matter of find the right style and colors for your face and personality.  Most people need a little height, some more to the back, others more on top.  You might want to cover or not cover your ears, depending on their size and your hairline.”

“Many women feel so beautiful when their face is highlighted by a gorgeous tichel,” Andrea puts in.  “We recently had a hearing-impaired woman let us use her for a demo at a show; she’d been wearing a severe black scarf.  We chose a lavender and gray tichel that looked great on her, and the audience yelled to her, ‘You look amazing!’  She actually started crying from happiness.”

The time has flown by, and now women are starting to come through the door for tonight’s sale.  Andrea and Rivka Malka have a talent for connecting with their clientele, many of them repeat customers and online contacts; they liberally dispense hugs and compliments.  There’s a strong, almost palpable sense of sisterhood among these women who share the passion for “wrapping.”

By now everything has been put in place; the dining room table is piled high with a rainbow of pretty scarves.  There’s more eye candy on added folding tables, and the room becomes crowded with chattering women fingering the scarves and oohing over new styles.  There are glittery scarves studded with sequins or shot with sparkling threads; filmy ruffled scarves; shimmery stretch scarves; solid and brocade-like pashminas; scarves ornamented with appliques.  “It’s fun to shop for tichels, because unlike clothing, it’s not about your size!” Andrea says with a grin.  It’s also a lot easier to throw a scarf over your head to appraise the color than it is to try on a whole outfit (they’ve strategically placed mirrors all around).

Doesn’t it take a lot of time to tie on so many layers?  “You get faster at it,” Andrea says.  “I take about five minutes in the morning to wrap my hair.  But putting on a wig and styling it also takes time.”  A tichel also has the advantage of never needing to be schlepped to a sheitelmacher for upkeep, and they’re economical: “You could buy every tichel in this room for the price of a custom sheitel,” Rivka Malka points out.

The Wrapunzel ladies sit down their clients and show them various ways of tying the tichels, offering suggestions on how to match colors and fabrics and ornament with a strand of pearls or jeweled headband.  I run into my friend Devora, who’s shopping for something to wear to the wedding of a close friend.  Rivka Malka expertly outfits her with a gold pashmina scarf layered with cream lace and a jeweled headband—tres elegant!  The enthusiasm is contagious;  Andrea and Rivka Malka clearly love interacting with other women every bit as much as they love gorgeous headscarves, and the room buzzes with the fun of grown-up women playing dress-up.

“Our mitzvahs of tznius and marriage are so beautiful—we consider them a joy, a treasure,” Rivka Malka says. “We’re trying to be an ohr l’goyim; when you go out, you represent Judaism to the world.  Even when you’re not teaching, you’re teaching by example.”

Andrea’s well placed to speak; she wears her tichels even when she plays her cello at professional concerts.  It’s not surprising she chooses a musical metaphor to sum up her outlook:  “We want to sing a song to Hashem with our mitzvahs,” she says.

***Sidebar:  Wrapunzel tips on Wrapping a Tichel

1)      First, Andrea says, breathe! Everyone feels awkward at first.

2)      Buy a wig grip headband.  This will keep your tichel from sliding back—even the silky-slippery ones.  If you don’t have one, you can do what Rivka Malka did in the days before wig grips were available:  cut the legs off a pair of pantyhose and use the top as a non-slip liner.

3)      You might want to buy a volumizer, a padded cotton cap that goes under the tichel and gives a fuller look (as if you have scads of thick beautiful hair underneath!).

4)      Add a second and/or third tichel to the first.

5)      Find one style that you like and looks good on you.  Now practice, practice until you can tie it quickly and well.

A Pleasant Tichel Surprise!

This morning was definitely one of those “run around and throw on whatever catches your eye first” kind of mornings.  It was only later in the afternoon when my husband saw me and said, “Wow I think that is one of my favourite tichels that I’ve seen you wear.  Ever.” that I realized that I actually had something pretty nice going on!  The combination of the Sari Scarf with the Israeli Tichel was nice enough… but the angled sequin headband just made it super awesome!

Wrapunzel Sari Scarf with Israeli Tichel and Sequin Headband

I’m so excited because we finally (finally!) found more sequin headbands for y’all… and they are going to knock the ball out of the park!  Can’t wait to share them with you!  (Hopefully early next week!)

Wrapunzel Sari Scarf with Israeli Tichel and Sequin Headband

Have you ever had a “tichel surprise” like this happen to you?  Like, when you don’t even remember putting it on and then later in the day you are surprised to find out that there’s actually something pretty fantastic going on there?  It definitely made me smile to realize!

All my love,
Andrea

Tichels vs Sheitals – What Wrapunzel Has to Say!

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There’s a lot of talk about tichels versus sheitals happening lately, and Wrapunzel seems to be brought up a lot in this debate.  Here is what we have to say about it! (Scroll down for a written transcript.)

(Btw I made a mistake with the job titles in this video-oops!  Yedida is our On-Site Coordinator. Naomi Rose is our Director of Operations!)

Here is a transcript of what I said in the video – thank you Tamar Adina for transcribing this!!

Hello!

I want to speak to you a little bit about tichels versus sheitels.  For those of you who don’t know, tichels refer to a headcovering that Jewish women wear.  It refers to a scarf, or kerchief in Yiddish, also known as mitpachot (plural) or mitpachat (single) in Hebrew.  So tichels are the scarf type of covering.  Sheitels are when a woman uses a wig to cover her hair.

So there’s been a lot of talk lately on tichels versus sheitels.  And for those of you who don’t know, my name is Andrea Grinberg, and I am from Wrapunzel, which is a hair covering community and website – just this huge explosion of women who have started wrapping their hair with scarves.   And with all this tichels versus sheitels talk, I’ve often heard it said that I’m on “Team Tichels”.  And I’m used as an example for that.  So this is the official video where we actually come down and talk about this, and I’m actually going to be making a statement as Wrapunzel.

The title of this video: “Tichels Vs. Sheitels” is actually a misnomer.   I despise the word versus.  And I think that there has been a lot of polarization in Judaism lately, which in many ways is fine.  To be different, to have differences is fine, and we’re actually supposed to have differences, but to say that “I’m right and you are wrong” is where the problem lies.

So I’m going to say a little bit about the word “Shalom”.  Shalom is often translated as “peace”.  And a lot of people believe that in order to have world peace, we have to all think and do the same thing.  And that’s simply not the case.  Shalom actually means harmony.  And harmony means that we are all playing the same piece of music, and that we have the goal of making the world a beautiful, vibrant place, but we are all playing different instruments.  We are all playing different notes, we are doing different things.  That is what ‘shalom’ is.  And that is what I hope I’m doing with my little part in Wrapunzel.  That is what I hope is going to happen in the world one day.

So let me tell you a little bit about Wrapunzel, because I think that not everyone knows how Wrapunzel was created.  In a nutshell, I was a blissfully happy newlywed who had just moved to Chicago from Israel, and I loved covering my hair because it honored my marriage and it was allowing me to be creative – and it was just really really really fun!  People were always asking me questions about it and I realized very quickly that somehow I was an “odd one out” because I loved covering my hair.  All the women, really, ALL the women that I talked to in Chicago, did NOT love covering their hair.  They saw it as a burden, they weren’t finding any joy in this mitzvah.  And I felt so sad for them! Here I was in my little blissful newlywed boots covering my hair, and these women weren’t finding joy through it.  So the reason why Wrapunzel was created was through a very naïve hope of mine that if I could share my joy in covering my hair, maybe these other women could find that joy as well.  I in no way wanted to tell women to stop wearing their sheitels.  I just wanted them to find joy.   A lot of women [in Chicago] were telling me that they felt like they either had to wear a sheitel (a wig) or they had to wear a black pre-tied snood, and they felt like they had no other options.

So when I created Wrapunzel, I just wanted to give women options.

That’s really all I wanted to do. 

So that’s how Wrapunzel was created.  And thank G-d, it seems that we’re able to do that, because we’ve all come together as women to give each other options.

In Judaism we have the halacha (Jewish law) that a married woman should cover her hair.  It doesn’t say with what, it doesn’t say how, just that a married woman should cover her hair.  And whether you cover your hair with a tichel, a sheitel, a hat, or a combination, you are fulfilling the mitzvah.  You are covering your hair.  And that is that.  That is what I believe.

For those of you who don’t know, I have a sheitel.  I own a sheitel.  And even with all these years of never wearing it, I haven’t given it away, because you never know.  I’m keeping it, and I think sheitels can be beautiful (and modest).  Okay?

So, the halacha is to cover your hair.  How we do that, how we find ourselves in that, how we reveal our unique personal light, that’s up to us.  And we really really have to look to ourselves and be honest with ourselves about how we are going to do that.

Now, I will mention that there are sects of Judaism that really hold strongly that covering with a tichel, a mitpachat, is the only way to cover and that sheitels are not valid.  And there are some sects of Judaism that hold that covering with a sheitel is the only way to cover your hair.  I’m not talking from any of those vantage points.  Both of those vantage points are valid, and both I will point out, acknowledge that there are other sects of Judaism that have valid ways of looking at things.  Judaism is not about all of us doing the same thing in the same way.  We all have the same goal, but we are not doing things in the same way.  That’s the whole point.

Okay.

So, this video is not talking to those that have to do one or the other.  I don’t come from those sects of Judaism, and the majority of women that have found Wrapunzel do not come from those sects of Judaism.

I want to give you an example.  Because I hear often that the whole “tichel movement” has become this huge movement and women are feeling liberated and joyous for the first time in their lives, and somehow they feel that “if I go back to wearing a sheitel” then somehow I’m a failure, or somehow Andrea won’t approve.  No. No. No. No. No. No. Really.  No.

I really want to give you an example, because we are supposed to find our own unique joy in doing this mitzvah.  And I want to give you an example of someone that might have found her joy actually through stopping wearing a tichel.  And how she is really really doing this mitzvah.  This is a completely hypothetical example.  Let’s say that there is a woman who is very introverted, spiritual, and very soft and kind, and absolutely beautiful, a wonderful graceful woman. And she’s been wearing tichels.  Now, because she’s so beautiful and so kind she gets a lot of attention for these tichels. She is a very modest, very introverted woman.   But she gets a lot of questions when she goes out about what she’s wearing and how she’s doing it and she doesn’t like that.  Because she feels like first of all somehow it’s not modest, she doesn’t want to go out and make this constant statement about who she is.  She just wants to be a Jew instead of constantly being asked about what this is on her head.  And it’s distracting her from her family and being with her kids and doing what she wants to do – it’s this constant conversation starter.  And she doesn’t want to have that conversation.  That is not her avodah.  That is not what she wants to be doing in this world. 

And she’s found that once she switched to a sheitel, she could actually, finally be herself.  She could finally leave her house and not get those constant questions.  Now for me, I love getting those questions and I love expressing myself in this way, but for this woman, this is not who she needs to be.  She doesn’t want those questions and she shouldn’t have to deal with those questions.   And for the first time in her life, now that she’s covering with a wig, she actually enjoys covering, because now she really feels like she is honoring her marriage instead of being part of some doctrine, or some movement it’s like making a constant statement about how she covers her hair.  She doesn’t like that.  Now she feels like she is really covering her hair for herself, her marriage, and for Hashem. 

I really want you to think about that because that woman is completely valid.  She has found herself, she has finally found her joy in this mitzvah.  Now will she go back and forth?  Maybe.  Will I ever wear a sheitel? Never say never! You never know!  We are constantly evolving and constantly trying to find ourselves. You have to be honest and really true with yourself.  So in that example, this woman who has found herself and found her joy through covering with a sheitel, we have to acknowledge that a woman might need to do that.

I just want to clear something up because I have a lot of friends that get married, and they seem to think that if they get married and they choose to cover their hair with a sheitel, oh well, “don’t tell Andrea, she’s going to be disappointed with me.”  You know, G-d willing if I have a daughter I don’t want her to think that she has to be me.  Or that she has to cover with a tichel.  That’s really not the point here.  We want people to find their unique joy through doing this mitzvah.

Now I have been asked numerous times, and so have other women who work at Wrapunzel have been asked to come out and make a statement about tichel wearing versus other ways of covering (ie wearing a sheitel).  And I want to say this now and I want to say this clearly: that’s not going to happen.  That is not what Wrapunzel is about.  That is not what I set out to do.  I’m not here to make “sides”.  Sides are not the point. I’m not going to do that and I don’t believe that.  It’s not going to happen.  So please, if anyone wants to send any more people to me asking me to do that, just. don’t…  The answer is no.  Because that is not the point.  And telling someone that what she is doing is wrong when she is covering her hair, she’s doing the mitzvah.  That’s not what it’s about.  Yes, I want to expose people to the joy of covering their hair this way, because that’s my joy and I want to share that.  But beyond that, I’m not interested. 

So interesting fact, and I’m going to leave you with this.  There’s a woman that works for Wrapunzel and her name is Yedida, she is basically the mover and shaker, everything, she keeps the tichel room from falling on my head when I walk in.  She is so organized and wonderful and joyous.  Yedida is our on-site-coordinator.  Now, don’t get me wrong, Wrapunzel is an extremely tiny, just women-coming-together business, we only have three people actually that work for Wrapunzel, but we need those three people to make things happen because there is a lot that needs to go into sending out your tichels all over the world and bringing women together.  When Rivkah Malka had to step down, and I was about to have a baby, we really really needed some help to make things happen so things would not fall apart when I had Shalomy.

So, who is Yedida? Yedida is our on-site coordinator.  She is amazingly organized and has innovative ideas about how to makes things better and how to make things work, and she is the person that allows me to be here making a video like this instead of having tichels fall onto my head when I walk into the room.  That’s why I’m able to make this video and I’m able to take care of my baby.

So, thank G-d we have Yedida. 

What does that have to do with this video?  Yedida is a sheitel wearer.  She wears sheitels I’d say 95% of the time.  Sometimes she wears hats, and once in a while she wears a tichel.  But she wears sheitels.  And she looks beautiful and modest and wonderful and absolutely shining in her sheitels.  When we hired her, some people expressed some surprise.  We had a lot of women applying for this job, and many of them were big tichel wearers.  When we hired Yedida some people were like, “Why would you hire someone that wears a sheitel to work at Wrapunzel?” And my answer was “How could I not hire Yedida?! She’s amazing!” I didn’t even really notice what this woman was wearing on her head.  The whole point of Wrapunzel is bringing women together and this woman is going to help us do that, she’s going to help us be able to do that.  In the end, this is really what Wrapunzel is all about.  Bringing women together.  Helping women reclaim their joy, express their creativity, and shine their light upon the world in their own, unique way.  So it’s not that we hired Yedida because she wears a sheitel, but it’s actually perfectly fitting that she does because that is what Wrapunzel is all about.  It’s about all women.  It’s about the full woman.

I hope you enjoyed this video.

Again, there are no sides.

There’s just us as Jewish women trying to reclaim our joy, express ourselves, to be who we need to be, and giving women options.

All the best.

Bye bye.

Naomi Rose: Haircovering for Intense Workouts!

Hey Wrapunzelistas! I made this short video before going running yesterday. I’m no world-class athlete, but as a kid/teenager I was VERY active (ice skating, ballet, swimming, etc.) and I started running in middle school, working my way up over the years to a half-marathon in 2013 (fun fact – my husband proposed to me on our first 10-mile training run together!).

For serious workouts, whether it’s running, Zumba, hiking, African dance, or anything else, those of us who cover our hair need an extra dimension to our technique. A good workout tichel:

1) should be comfortable and breathable,
2) must NOT budge, EVER,
3) ideally would be something you feel good in, appearance-wise. I find that having workout clothes that I look forward to wearing (as opposed to feeling ugly in) can actually help me exercise more.

After lots of trial and error, this is my failsafe running tichel. I’ve also gone swimming like this, and worn it on a bike!

 

It’s a simple-but-sweet Israeli Tichel tie over the fabulous No-Slip Headband, and let me tell you, it won’t go ANYWHERE! I have yet to find the activity that will dislodge this wrap.

Do you have a favorite way to cover your hair for exercise?? Share it in the comments! We’d love to hear from you!!

 

Tamar Adina: Help Me Pick My Colors!

 

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Hi Wrapunzelers!

Do you like to read Dear Abby? I do! Well, sometimes we at Wrapunzel get our own version with the following kinds of questions:

Dear Wrapunzel – I really like the 2 in 1s and the pashminas, but I’m not sure what colors I should buy. How do I pick colors? I’m on a limited budget but I want to really look nice!

   Sincerely,
   Colorless and Confused

Dear Wrapunzel – Andrea did this amazing video and I liked it so much that I bought all of the tichels and tried to wrap it at home. I managed to tie it properly, but it just doesn’t look nice on me. Why don’t my tichels look as nice on me as they look on the models in the store?

   Signed,
   Feeling Frumpy

Dear Wrapunzel – I really want to dress using more color, like Andrea and Naomi Rose. But every time I try to wear something colorful or if I try to not match perfectly, I wind up looking like I got dressed in a dark closet. I usually end up defaulting to black as a result. Can you help me ditch the black?

   Signed,
   Accidental Goth

 

I feel your pain ladies; all of you are basically having an issue with the same thing: color. As I’ve mentioned before, color is relative, and when a particular piece of fabric is placed next to your skin, it will appear different than when it is placed on someone else’s skin. As for our Accidental Goth, would you believe that I suffered from too-much-black-itis as well? I have always had a closet full of colors but I never really wore them. It took me a long time to lose the black. After all, the media and current cultural climate have bombarded women with the message that black is slimming, glamorous, and always a good choice for a frum wedding. And I want to look slim! I want to look glamorous!

But the truth is that looking great is not just a matter of putting on any figure-flattering outfit.   The cut of your clothes is only half the battle – choosing the right color clothing can mean the difference between appearing vibrant and glowing – or looking strung out and ill. Wearing the right color can take years off your appearance or it can age you by ten years. Colorless, it sounds like you need a return to color theory class.   A color wheel can help you to determine what colors look best for you. And as for Frumpy, the various nuances in individual skin coloring is altering how a specific color looks. On Andrea, a certain color is fantastic. On you, the exact same combination is merely “meh.”

So that Little Black Dress should sometimes be the Little Blue Dress, or the Little Orange Dress, because the LBD just doesn’t work for everyone. Individual variations with a person’s skin tone (namely if you are warm or cool — see previous post HERE) can radically change how a color appears.

For the quick refresher course that I promised – cool people have pink-based skin tone. Their skin often has rosy cheeks and shows blue or purple veins. Their eyes can be very dark brown, dark blue, grey blue or hazel. Cool toned individuals have natural hair color that trend towards blue-ish black, dark brown, medium ash brown, or golden blonde.  To further narrow it down, there are “summer cools” (picture Reese Witherspoon) and “winter cools” (think Anne Hathaway). But that doesn’t mean that cool toned people only have light skin! Skin shades can range to include brown with a reddish or blue undertone (think model and fashion designer Alex Wek) to pale with pink undertones.

As a rule of thumb: people with cool tones look best in fabric with a blue-base like a vivid raspberry, a deep emerald green, royal blue, sapphire blue, dark teal, and pure black. Those with lighter shades of skin can wear rose-based pinks, aqua blue-greens, pure whites and soft whites.

Warm-toned people have a more golden or apricot complexion. Skin can be brown, medium or pale but all will have golden (or peach!) undertones. The vein test yields results that look a bit more greenish than blue.  Natural hair color ranges from golden blonde, reddish brown, strawberry, red and all the way to black. Eyes tend to be amber, golden brown, hazel, or green. For celebrity color matching inspiration imagine Jennifer Lopez, Naomi Campbell, and Beyoncé.

People with warm tones glow when wearing bronzes, camels, mochas, sage greens, mango oranges and burnt oranges. They also look great in greens in the shade of moss, olive and jade. In summer, they can add lime, celery greens, ivory, or oyster whites.

Check out the following helpful chart:

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Credit: http://www.thegloss.com/2014/06/11/beauty/how-to-choose-flattering-makeup-colors-hacks/

 

So what does this mean for tichels? Tichels follow the same rules as finding your favorite clothing fabric! However, whereas you can have a bit more leeway for your skirt, anything that is RIGHT. NEXT. TO. YOUR. FACE can have a drastic effect on your overall appearance. So, what’s poor Colorless to do? Well, fear not!

 

If you are cool toned, try out the following “staple” scarves from Wrapunzel:

The Shinylicious: in Silver, White, Teal, or Silvery Black

2-in-1s: Black, Pewter, Light Gray, Dark Brown, White, Olive, Very Light Blue, Slate Blue, Dark Blue, Teal, Purple, Lilac, Lighter Lilac, and burgundy.

The Shimmery: Royal Blue, Aqua, Ice Blue, Teal, Light Teal, Beige Gold, Brown, Black, Silvery Black, Pewter, Silvery White, Navy, White, Light Purple, Purple

Solid Pashminas: Black, Bright Purple, Berry Wine, Eggplant, Navy, Wine, Rivka Malka’s Teal, Pewter, and Dark Brown.

For accessories – try things that are silver based. Check out Vintage Beauty (An absolute FAVORITE of mine!), Hibiscus Haven, the Ruffled Waves sash in Black, and the Razzmatazz in Silver.

 

Burgundy and Teal Liezel

 

If you are warm toned –

Lakeshore Bliss: Green, Pink and Red Sherbert, Brown,

New York Brights: White, Pink, Red, Light Purple, Orange, Yellow, Brown with Color, Brown, Colorful Grey.

Soft Pashminas: White, Brown, Deep Purple, Sky Blue, Aqua, Yellow, Light Pink, Magenta

Solid Pashminas: Dark Forest Green, Green, Olive, Light Brown, Pink, Pumpkin, Berry Plum, Red, Andrea’s Teal, Yellow, Orange, Seafoam Green

For accessories try items that are gold-based and sashes in the same color schemes as the above tichels. I love the Razzmatazz in Gold, Cosmic Wonder in Brown, the Empress Circlet, and any of the Braided Wreaths.

 

As for Accidental Goth, breaking out from the bad black habit can be hard. If you are used to wearing black on a daily basis, adding colors (even though you want to do it!) can still feel outside your comfort zone. My best advice is to start slowly. It is shocking to (both your sense of self and to your wallet!) if you abandon your deeply cultivated sense of black-themed clothing. So don’t start off by suddenly purging your entire wardrobe. I personally started adding patterns into my wardrobe by buying a few maxi skirts that had black somewhere as an accent color, but not as the main focus. The first few times I wore the skirts, I paired them with black crew tops. After a few wears, I started wearing crew tops that matched the purple in the skirt, or the burgundy…then I paired them with blue. The Wrapunzel Signature Skirt can be a nice gateway to creating a less monotonous wardrobe.

But what if you are in a professional setting where maxi skirt fabric is a bit too casual for the office? Well, I bet that right now, your gut instinct is probably to grab a black bottom to match whatever nice top you have in your closet. Although it’s hard, start the transition by selecting a different solid color to wear instead of that black skirt. Don’t try to complain that you need the black skirt in order to appear ten pounds lighter. You can help to minimize a larger derriere by choosing a solid dark color skirt (think navy, brown, dark gray, burgundy, dark teal and even deep purple!) While you are at it, try to swap out your black blazer or jacket for a non-black option.   Become creative with your color combinations. Use the color wheel when you make combinations! It’s sometimes easiest for beginners to pick colors that are analogous (next to each other), but you can also just start combining cool colors with other cool colors. A teal top can match a burgundy skirt. A dark brown skirt pairs well with blue, pink, purple, gold, red, and green tops. Cream, mango, and tan look fantastic together. Deep purple pairs really well with a cool, dark green (there are tons of Wrapunzel posts about this). Deep purple also pairs nicely with gray.

 

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In the height of my black era I wore a black skirt, a white or black shell, and a colored top daily. My current personal goal is to try to avoid the stark white shell underneath a colored top and to instead pair different colors together. Now, does that mean that I gave up all white shells? Nope.

 

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See?

 

I just stopped wearing this:

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What will your color goals be for yourself?

Good luck! I can’t wait to see the selfies!

 

Love,

Tamar Adina

Yael’s “Turban Regal Wrap with a Twist!”

This is my new favourite summer wrap – invented by Yael!  It’s perfect for our new Summer Solid Pashminas!
Here is a little about Yael, in her own words:

“I am Italian, I´m born in Florence and I lived there till I was 25. Then I made a PhD at the Hebrew Universty of Jerusalem, on Purity/Impurity in Biblical Hebrew. I meet my husband there, who was born in Hamburg Germany and we lived then in Jerusalem for 10 Years. At the moment we live in Germany in a little town near Frankfurt, where we´re the only jewish orthodox family (besides a very old couple). Therefore we are trying to leave Germany, in order to find a living jewish community, in Europe, America, Israel, in which we can live our yiddishkeit together with other …. Our kids (three) need friends and structures in order to develop themselves… Actually my english is better than in the tutorial (a part my Italian accent), but I was very excited to make my first video at all and I am not yet comfortable with the tichels and wrapping vocabulary… “

Well… I certainly think she did an incredible job!  LOVING this wrap!