Here’s the story behind this epic wrap:
“How do I know if a wrap suits me?”
This is a question that we are forever trying to answer here at Wrapunzel, and really, it is a question with infinite depth. Since each and every one of us has huge potential and complex personalities that change day by day, moment by moment, how is it possible to dress in a way that suits us? How is it possible to dress in a way that truly reflects the inner beauty of our souls?
The answer, of course, is that it is impossible to do perfectly. We live in a physical world in which it is not possible to convey the infinite beauty of our souls in ANYTHING that we do, but don’t let this deter you – let this inspire you! While we can’t do it perfectly, we can strive to do it better and better. And as we learn, we will be able to reveal the beauty of our souls through what we wear. Life is a journey of learning and growth. It’s wonderful to know that you will always be evolving and changing! And it IS possible to learn how to dress in a way that is deeply satisfying and liberating. We wake each day with new moods, new challenges, and new perspectives. We want the clothing we cover ourselves with to honor who we are.
This is going to be a short story in which I tell you about my (Andrea) experience that I had with wrapping before Shabbat.
I was super inspired by Naomi’s Duchess wrap, and wanted to try it! I also had found a sari scarf that I really liked… similar to one I gave away ages ago and missed. I had in my mind a vision of how the Duchess wrap would work with a sari and lace… all lovely, flowy and hippy dippy.
This is what I had in mind – nice eh?
I had a great outfit to match. I have been trying this year to wear more white/cream on Shabbat and have had a lot of success doing so (when I say this year, I mean since Yom Kippur.) A long lace skirt, lace top, and berry shell. Simple, but so me 🙂
I tried to do the wrap… and do it, I did! It looked AWESOME… seriously epic. But something felt wrong – I felt like I was wearing a costume. It was too high on my head, too “hippy” (who thought I’d ever say that?) I just wasn’t feeling it. My husband and I had planned an in Shabbat, just our family and no guests, so we could recharge. This wrap was too extroverted for the internal bonding experience that I hoped to have.
I asked my husband what he thought and he looked at me and said, “Well, by the look on your face, it’s obvious you don’t like it, but the Wrapunzel ladies are going to love it!” How right he was. It really was an awesome wrap, but I just wasn’t feeling it. I made him come outside to snap some photos of me though.
So what’s the conclusion? Well… I am definitely going to revisit this wrap in the future – perhaps for a wedding or some sort of event where I want to reveal my exuberant hippy side. But as soon as Yonatan was done snapping photos, I hastily ripped it off my head and did another wrap.
Here’s what I did:
Much better! But guess what… I STILL wasn’t feeling it! While I would wear this most other days, I really was feeling introverted and introspective, and this wrap was still a little ‘undone’ for how I was feeling. I needed to feel held and stabilized by my wrap. So after snapping these photos, I decided to redo it AGAIN!
(Can you tell that we ready for Shabbat early this week? This is not normal for us, but definitely left some room for me to think about and experiment with this train of thought.)
So here is what I ended up with! I wanted to wear this sari scarf, but I didn’t want tails. I decided to forgo the lace (I had enough of it in my outfit). I wanted comforting, neat, warm, and stable. As soon as I wrapped it I felt immediate relief, like I had found myself.
So are you going to have time to do this process every day? No, certainly not. And keep in mind that I was rigidly excited to try something new, even though my mood was not appropriate for the original wrap. But as soon as I tried on that first wrap and felt that whole “this isn’t me” feeling, I knew I had to explore this idea and share the experience with you.
Sometimes it’s good if your wrap feels somewhat like a costume, especially on days when you are going to need to do things that you might not be in the mood for. In this way, a wrap can help you do what you need to do, step into different shoes, and reveal aspects of your personality that you may not even know existed!
Other times, your wrap should feel like stepping into a warm bath – comforting, warm, and reflective. It should feel like you have become more YOU.
All in all, wrapping should be a process of self revelation, discovery, joy, and most of all, should honor the beautiful soul that resides within you.
It’s an honor to be on this journey with you – I can’t wait to hear your thoughts an experiences!
Wishing you all much happy wrapping!