My husband and I are at this stage of our lives during which… how to I put it? In short, we have a lot going on. A lot of options, a lot of brachas, and a lot of opportunites in terms of how to spend our time. Between running Wrapunzel, two non-profits, performing as musicians, teaching, my husband doing his doctorate, living in a vibrant community where we love to host huge meals, and oh! most importantly, striving to be present as much as possible as parents, we are being stretched with opportunities. Not to mention Pesach prep, which we are hosting. Sometimes, one needs to take a step back and realize that by saying “yes” to wonderful opportunities, one is saying “no” to something that is infinitely more important. There is a lot to say on this topic, but needless to say, we hadn’t spent much quality time together (aka not working and actually bonding) and we missed each other.
So while our commitments and obligations were looming, we decided to say “no” to everything else and “yes” to each other. We hired a babysitter for the night and went out on a date, with all work talk banned.
Needless to say, we were excited.
It was such a treat, getting dressed in colors that I know he loves, putting on (minimal) makeup, putting time into my appearance for no one else but my soulmate (who is a part of me, so really, putting time into myself). I chose a dress that made me feel great, and wore Gryffindor colors in my tichel, which I knew would make him happy.
I wore a dark red comfort and a shimmery sash that I ripped from my old gold shimmery. Here are a few more photos of my tichel:
How was it? It was under two hours, and it changed our lives. And all those other stressful obligations? They have become so much more manageable and less stressful now that we have invested time in what matters most. Shalom bayit is the greatest gift that we can give ourselves, our spouses, our children, and the world. For all of you that think you don’t have the time or can’t go out. I am here to say yes you can. Say “no” to something else and say “yes” to your marriage. You won’t regret it 🙂
Wishing you all a stress free (or at least, as little stress as possible) Pesach prep!