More Israel Photos!!

It’s been a coupla months since I was in the holy land, but the impact hasn’t waned!  I stopped posting photos while there because of the political situation, but they are such joyous photos and I really want to share them with you!!  Here are some of the tichels and head coverings I wore and places I went in them!  Enjoy the kedusha!

 

Smiling before Shabbat in Baka!  (This is my in law's back yard.)
Smiling before Shabbat in Baka! (This is my in law’s back yard.)
A brown NYB and cute headband!
A brown NYB and cute headband!
I BOUGHT A SNOOD!!!  *Gasp!*  And I love it!
I BOUGHT A SNOOD!!! *Gasp!* And I love it!
In Tantura - Hof Dor - exploring the excavations!
In Tantura – Hof Dor – exploring the excavations!
The floppy hat and Israeli tichel underneath were perfect for climbing in Tantura - you can see the Roman bathing pools behind me!
The floppy hat and Israeli tichel underneath were perfect for climbing in Tantura – you can see the Roman bathing pools behind me!
Israeli vintage headband?  Yes please!
Israeli vintage headband? Yes please!
And yes, Israeli earrings are backkkk!!  Love these!
And yes, Israeli earrings are backkkk!! Love these!
Mmmm NYB, Braided Wreath Headband and 2 in 1!
Mmmm NYB, Braided Wreath Headband and 2 in 1! Outside our apartment in Nachlaot!
This one was so light and cool!
This one was so light and cool!
And a perfect sunset <3
And a perfect sunset ❤

 

I hope you enjoyed these!!!  Wish you could have been there with me!  Would love to hear your thoughts!!

Four-Strand Braid Rainbow!

This is one of my favourite outfits that I wore in Israel… the dress allows for so many tichel colour combinations!  This 4-strand braid always makes me so happy!!

… walking down the back streets in the neighbourhood of Geula:

And standing on the hill where my husband and I got married!  You can see the wall of the old city behind… such a holy place!

In these photos I’m wearing four 2 in 1s – I was out all day in the boiling heat and stayed quite cool!  I would, however, if I wanted it to be cooler, choose a style without so much hanging tail on the side… but it was super fun in the breeze!

Shabbat shalom, world!  (And Shavua Tov to those of you already in Shabbat that will see this afterward!)
Love, Andrea

Last Day in Israel

Hello Beauties!

I’m sorry for my absence on the blog.  For those of you that have been reading the news and following me online, you’ll know that the last couple of weeks in Israel have been difficult, and even though I’ve continued to rock beautiful head wraps every day, for some reason posting them just didn’t feel right.  I do have lots of photos, though, and Gd willing they will be posted when I get back!

So here is a lovely double braid, for your viewing pleasure.  Do you ladies think I’ll ever get tired of discovering new combinations to do this with?  With a solid collection of 2 in 1s, you can match pretty much any article of clothing perfectly!

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This dress is another gorgeous Jerusalem find!  I love its modesty and subdued colours!
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Hope you are all doing so well, and thank you for all the emails, calls, and messages.  I feel like you’re all right here with me and the support means so so much.  All my love,
Andrea

Look ma – no shaper!!

Many of you have been asking for fancy styles that are possible without the shaper, so I’ve been experimenting for you!  Here’s the lowdown: if you like a lot of volume by your face, prefer a less layered look, and don’t care if the bun part of your head is either not there or small, then you don’t need a shaper.  However, if (like me) you don’t benefit from having lots of volume by your face and like to do lots of layering (just not right on top of your head), then a shaper is a must!  I have, however, really enjoyed experimenting with having more volume/layers around my face… but I’m realizing that it’s just not the best look for me!  Luckily I do have enough hair to allow me to do some layering at the back, but not enough for my taste.  I was asked today, by someone that sells mitpachot, what kind of shaper I’m wearing, so maybe I’m just biased – what do you think?

Here I am wearing two ombre 2 in 1s and one regular navy 2 in 1:

It was definitely harder to keep the layers neat without the shaper!  On first try, the tichel itself looked good but *I* didn’t because there was so much layering around my face!  On second try I was able to move the layers back a bit, but the result wasn’t as easy and neat as when I have the shaper to wrap around.

And here I am wearing just a gold shimmery!  This is actually something I really liked, and I definitely got approval from my mother in law! It looked so fancy yet was so easy – thoughts?

Chaya Lester, the Poetry Slam ‘Kabbalist Feminist’ is a Lady Wrap Star!

A beautiful photo of Chaya being awesome, before we met!
A beautiful photo of Chaya being awesome, before we met!

You may recognize Chaya from this video, which has spread around the hair covering world like wild fire!  Before I came to Jerusalem, Rivka Malka contacted her and we all agreed that we had to meet and connect, as well as get Chaya Wrapunzeled!  Little did I know, that the Shalev Center, where Chaya lives, is less than a two minute walk from where we’re staying!

We started off with some Wrapunzel makeovers, both with my wrapping Chaya, and her wrapping herself while asking questions!  We figured that would be super helpful to everyone here… like having a coach in your own room!  We ended off with an interview, and I must say, if you watch one video out of all of these, watch this one!  But really, watch them all – she is so awesome and I’m super happy that you get to meet her!

We first started with a sari scarf and shimmery together:

And then Chaya wanted to try doing it herself!  Awesome!

And now… the quick and easy Waterfall twist!  3 minute video, and it shows both my doing it on her and her doing it herself!  Win!

Finally, here we are doing an interview.  Seriously deep insights into hair covering and what it means to be a female!  She is just so cool – I hope you’ll learn as much from this as I did!

Soft Emerald Olive Grove

Can someone tell me why I’ve never worn this gorgeous color on its own??  I wore it two days in a row and can’t wait to put it on again!!  Have you ever tried wearing olive or emerald?  What do you think?

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This wrap is the green “Shimmery” (it has a olive-y hue) and an olive 2 in 1 paired with a strip of lace that my sister-in-law lent me!  And after snapping this first photo I realized that I had the perfect necklace which belonged to my mother to use (with the regal clasp) as an accessory:

This new pencil skirt (30 shekels in the shuk – huzzah!) was a perfect match for the lace top and tichel!  Here I am taking a moment to relax on our patio where we’re staying in Jerusalem.  (Did I say hammock?! Woohoo!!)  I hope you are all doing so well and I am sending you so much love and hugs from the holy land!  Keep on Wrapunzeling on, ladies!

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Lady Wrap Star – *Yael* !

I am so excited to introduce Yael to you!  I was lucky to get to see her during my recent whirlwind trip to Israel, and during our time together, so many beautiful thoughts about hair covering spilled from her mouth that I had to whip out my video recorder.  There is so much to say about this woman, so instead of telling you all about her, I will instead let her speak for herself:

I know, eh?  Our first Lady Wrap Star on video!

Can you believe that Yael’s married name is Sunshine?  How perfect is that!  Here are some photos of her with her husband:

Yael is incredibly vibrant, warm, and honest.  I’m sure y’all want to ask questions and hear more from her, so please tell us what you think in the comments section and Yael will do her best to respond!

Introducing… Batsheva!

Batsheva is our newest lady wrap star!  You may remember another Batsheva being featured on Wrapunzel (the one that makes gorgeous jewellery), and this Batsheva also lives in Israel!  So don’t get them confused…

I met this lovely lady through the wonders of the internet, since she also happens to be friends with Tamar, another previous wrap star.  I was immediately taken in by her honesty, humour, and insight, and after looking through some of her photos, I had many questions that I wanted to ask her!  Here she is!

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Hi Batsheva!  Can you tell us a little about yourself?  (Ie: where are you from?  Where do you live now?  How to you choose to spend your time?  Family, friends, special interests, etc.?)
Hi Andrea, and Wrapunzels!
I’m so excited to be featured as a Lady Wrap Star.
A little about me: I was born and raised in Chicago, Illinois, and currently live in the City Center of Jerusalem, Israel.
When I’m not working, I love spending time with my friends, exploring new areas, catching up on my sleep (I’m going to be honest here), and cooking, and enjoying the company of my husband and kitty!!!
How long have you been covering your hair?
I have been covering my hair is November 23rd, 2012. This was the first day after I was married, and on this day, I started my ticheling adventures.
Tell us a little about your hair covering adventures;  What do you usually cover with?  What are your general feelings about covering?  How do you feel about the way other women cover and societal pressures, etc. and how has this affected you?
I have over 150 individual scarves, 12 flowers of different colors, hijab caps, and little pins to accessorize my tichels. 
On a daily basis, I wear a solid scarf and a patterned scarf together, with little something extra, currently I’m into the flowers.
I LOVE covering my hair. 
While I have always had very pretty hair, this is so much more fun.
I am able to match what I’m wearing with scarf colors, add little accessories that show my mood, like flowers verses spikes, and sparkles are always fun.
(I also love the reaction I get to my pretty and adventurous tichels!)
I love living in such a creative area, where women cover their hair a million different ways.
You can see women who wrap like me, wear sheitels (wigs), snoods, scarves that just cover part of their hair, and the list goes on.
I wouldn’t say that I feel pressure to cover my hair, or cover it in a certain way because of other women. I do look at the beautiful sheitels that I see around me, but I won’t be getting one unless my Fairy Sheitel G-dmother gets me one. I think I’m sticking to tichels.
How do others in your community cover their hair?
My husband and I daven/pray at Chabad of Rehavia, and so there is a great majority of women who wear sheitels, but other women like me wear tichels. Many of the younger women show some of their hair, whether it be the first inch or two, or the ponytail.
I cover all of my hair, and try not to let even the stays show, but I still love how other women wrap.
What are your favourite ways to tie your scarves?
I haven’t figured out my favorite way to wrap my scarves, but my husband loves and requests the twist! If I don’t have the twist, and I ask his opinion, he says “It’s beautiful, but where’s the twist?” He says it’s royal, classic, and just makes the whole tichel look better.
What do you look for when shopping for scarves?
That’s a great question!
I try and remember the colors that I don’t have, and believe me, they exist. But in the end I have just been buying patterned light scarves, because it’s getting very hot here.
I have been collecting scarves since 2004, and so I have everything from thick to thin, every solid color I can think of, and now accessories, and from all over the world.
I try and examine the scarf when I’m in the store, make sure there are no snags, and no holes. 
I also try and think to myself “Do I have any clothes to wear this with?!’, but if I really want it, I assume that a black outfit will work…
Let’s hear some of your hair covering advice + tips and tricks!
Sheitel bands! Buy them, buy more than one, and make sure you also have it on correctly!
Don’t worry about what other people are doing, or what others think. It’s easy for me to say that because I can work in an office and wear a tichel, and in America it might be harder to do so, but overall, make sure you’re happy.
I have a friend who gets a lot of problems from people for how she covers her hair, but in the end, she has to be okay with the mitzvah she’s doing. And everyone else should bud out.
Going from displaying your hair one day to covering can be hard and traumatic for some women.
Don’t cover for anyone but yourself, and don’t cover any way that you don’t feel comfortable!
Can you tell us a bit about your relationship with other religions/ways of life?  How has this influenced you to grow and how does it affect you as a Jew?
I love this question.
I grew up in an amazing area of Chicago which is very mixed.
I learned about different cultures, religions, sexual orientations, and way of life for as long as I can remember.
When I went to university for my undergraduate degree, I saw the real Chicago. Chicago is one of the most segregated cities in the United States, and while the city might not enforce this separation anymore, people tend to live by others that look, feel, and relate like they do.
Long story short, I made a very serious effort to befriend and get to know the Muslim girls on campus. I love Islam, and saw the connection between it and Judaism.
I also was becoming religious, and was trying to find my place in the Jewish world.
My Muslim friends, especially the girls, taught me that I could be modest/tznius, but still be fashionable. 
They also taught me about a connection to G-d, how important it is, and that it’s not the outward appearance of being tznius that is what’s important. It’s what you do inside.
I also got great wrap ideas and skill from them! 
And it was re-enforced a lot to match match match! Hijabis have an amazing way of making the extra color of their shoes, purse, strip in their shirt to their hijab. I only try.
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Has hair covering enhanced these relationships?
I believe that if I lived in America, closer to my Muslim friends from university, that we’d be able to share tricks, scarves, etc. Now I just look on Facebook, Twitter, and follow Hijab tutorials on Youtube.
While I’m here, ladies look at one another, and give that look of “nice tichel”. It’s in the eyes, but it’s the look of approval and understanding.
 A cute story was when I was in Phoenix, Arizona for my sister-in-law’s wedding. I was in a mall when I saw this woman with this HUGE wrap on her head.
I have a twitter-feed, all about all kind of women who wrap, so I asked her if I could take a picture.
I also complimented her on her wrap, and she looked me up and down and said “You’re pretty fly yourself!” I was very proud at that moment.
What are your hopes and dreams for Jewish women and the future of the world?
I don’t hope for only one group of people. I’m not sure I know how to. 
I would say in general, I hope that we can all just get along.
In so many situations, differing groups live side by side, ride the same trains and eat in the same restaurants, and shop at the same stores. Yet they never speak to one another. How different could they be, if they are so similar as well.
I just think energy could be used better, than mindless hate. 
In many occasions in the past, the women have been the game-changers. I can only hope, as women, and hopefully as Jewish women, we can rise to the occasion.
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What are you grateful for right now?
I’m grateful for my health, my happiness, the ability to live in a world so far away from my home town, without calling home every day…
I’m grateful for my amazing husband who puts up with a lot from me, my unbelievable relationship with my parents, and their health and happiness.
I’m so grateful for my friends here, and all around the world, and all the joys and adventure this year will bring, and all the years to come.
I’m also very grateful for the confidence I have covering my hair, and how it makes me so happy!
 
Here is her twitter feed! – @togetherwrapped

Ticheled Tamar!

I “met” Tamar over the summer when a friend of mine commented on a photo of hers and it showed up on my facebook feed.  Besides the fact that it’s a bit creepy how facebook seems to know me, I am very glad that this meeting happened!  The name of her album was so wonderful that I just had to add her as a friend.  The album was entitled “Tichels Are Cool” and was filled with various photos of her showing her experimentations and gorgeous wraps… definitely meant to be.  Here she is as this week’s Lady Wrap Star!
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Hi Tamar, can you tell us a bit about yourself?  (ie where do you live, what do you like to do, family, interests, etc.)
My name’s Tamar Goldschmidt and I live in the heart of Jerusalem, the grooviest place in the world! I moved here almost 3 years ago, met my husband and now have an amazing little baby boy, Shlomo Nachman B”H…I’m currently studying to be a doula and besides my typical hobbies, including writing, art, reading, analyzing poetry, being a mommy and an orthodox jew with the funk etc – I continuously try to discover new tichel ideas! As a married Jewish woman, it is our job to officially rock!
Where did you learn how to wrap scarves?
I taught myself at around 12 or 13 when I began collecting them. I always knew I was going to cover my hair. I felt so connected to the idea of making something so normal so spiritual and special in a marriage. And since growing up, my dream occupation was to be a wife and mother (with a few novels up my sleeve as well) the idea of covering my hair was something i could identify with.
How long have you been covering?
Well I’ve been covering my hair  “full time” since I got married in 2011…
What tichel wrapping advice/secrets do you have to share with us?
Two words that are so essential they have to be typed in caps: TICHEL BAND…You can get your beauty sleep while wearing the craziest and heaviest tichel ever and it wont move an inch off your head! You can find it in any tichel shop!
Are there any specific ideas that you would like to share about what you have learned about covering based on your face shape, colouring, style, etc.?
If you have short hair: FEAR NOT! There are so many ways to get the looks you want. Everything from voluminazers to socks. This too, requires experimentation. Whatever feels more comfortable! I find that one tichel is never enough though…because it’s not. Go crazy 🙂
Do you have a favourite style of wrapping?
I take pride in my princess-do…and my beehive-do…In short, it’s difficult to choose. I guess it depends what I’m feeling that day.
Most vivid tichel wearing memory?
I remember when I discovered that I could do my princess-do with literally ANY tichel…not just the triangular ones. This was life changing for me!  [Anyone else itching to get her to do a tutorial?]
What do you love most about covering your hair?
I LOVE walking down the street, passing other married women and seeing different styles of tichel wrapping. There was a few times where someone’s tichel caught my eye and they were thinking the same thing about mine…I can’t tell you how many times tichels have been number one conversation starters.
What are you grateful for right now?
I’m grateful for having been given the opportunity to be featured on Wrapunzel!

Lady Wrap Star Melissa!

Meet Melissa, a woman with an infectious smile and well-thought-out Modern Orthodox Jewish perspective!  After discovering her blog through a friend’s post, I knew that we had to have her on here as this week’s Lady Wrap Star.  [drumroll]… here she is!

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Hi Melissa, can you tell us a little about yourself? Such as how to do you choose to spend your time, interests, family, where you live, how you describe yourself, etc.?
Hi! I feel like there are so many possible answers, but I don’t want this to become the whole post. So the short answer is that I currently live in Jerusalem with my husband and am learning full time at Nishmat (and next year I will be joining my husband to learn at Pardes). I am a social worker by education, a Jewish communal professional by vocation, and a writer and educator by passion. My primary interests are women’s issues, halacha, and social media and my long term goal is to combine them – so stay tuned to see how that pans out over the years!

How long have you been covering your hair?
I have been covering my hair in some fashion for over five years now! I started working up to it before I got married, and then transitioned to full coverage thereafter. I actually wrote about that recently here

You have a blog where you have written some of your thoughts on hair covering already. Could you share with us links to those articles?
This is such a fun question because it got me to read back into the archives of the blog to see all the various posts I have made on the topic, and it made me realize that I don’t write about it nearly as often I used to when it was new and unusual – both to me and my community. (I identified as a “Traditional Conservative” Jew when I got married, and even after moving to the “Modern Orthodox” world full time coverage with anything other than a wig was very uncommon. But now I’m in Israel and its just so normative!)

Here are some of my favorites:

General:
It’s all about the Hattitude!
Head covering in the hospital
When the personal is public
How much is enough
Reflections on a year of hair covering

Scarves:
Sneakily Styling Scarves
Happy hair-aversary

Sheitels:
Life without a sheitel
I’m only going to say this once

What is your favourite aspect of covering your hair?
Honestly, I love that I get an extra accessory! Even better is that I get a spiritual and religiousness connection from putting it on.

What do you dislike about hair covering? (This can be personal or communal.)
Ironically, the only thing I can say I truly dislike is both. I dislike feeling personally judged by communal norms and expectations about covering. There are often ideas of “if you cover like X than you must be Y” or “if you are A you must cover like B” – and I generally don’t fit any of those ideas, expectations, or boxes.

How do you usually answer people when asked about why you cover?
Now that I am living in Israel, it obviously doesn’t happen nearly as often so I’m having a hard time remembering how I used to address it!
I do find that more often than not a simple “I cover my hair for religious reasons” tends to be enough to strangers, and to those looking for a more real answer, it can be catered to the moment and the person. When it is old friends who ask I answer very differently and more emotionally, while to people I am interacting with in a professional environment I am apt to keep it more simple and legalistic. As with anything, I like to be cognizant of where the other person is coming from and how I can make something which can seem so bizarre make sense in their world view.

Have you feelings about covering changed over time? If yes, how so?
Yes and no.
On a personal level my feelings about the big picture have remained very stable, but there are small things which shift frequently like how much I am comfortable showing and what types of coverage work best for me. I’ve recently accepted that I don’t have to have just one model and its ok to interact with it differently on different days or in different settings – so now I anticipate even less changes.
On a communal level, this is another area where being in the middle of Jerusalem after being in a community that was not so diverse has also been a really interesting experience. My understanding of the variety of ways in which women interact with hair covering has greatly expanded.

What is your favourite way to cover your hair? Do you have preferred scarf/accessory type?
I love to wear scarves during the week and hats on Shabbat, though in the winter I wear more knit beret style hats. How many scarves I wear and how I tie them depends on the weather, my planned activities for the day, and whether or not I have a headache. (I also always keep an extra plain cotton tichel and/or knit beret in my bag in case I need to change if I overheat or get a migraine.)

What do you look for when selecting/shopping for scarves?
I look for fun and interesting patterns, designs, and colors. Some of my favorite scarves were purchased from Target or other similar stores where they were clearly not intended to be headscarves!
I also look for random things which can serve as accessories, like fabric belts, pretty ribbon, or fun hair-ties. I am of the mentality that head-covering inspiration is everywhere – you just have to look for it!

What have you learned about hair covering in regards to your personal style, face shape, colouring, hair type, etc.?
I look best with a bit of hair showing on my hairline, either my bangs out or tucked back but with a finger or two’s worth of my hairline exposed and have to put my scarves behind my hears because of my piercings. (I have six holes in my middle and upper ear.) I also have a lot of hair, but it is very fine, so I like to wear a wig grip and something to add volume, but what that is also depends on what sort of scarf style I am tying. I also don’t like having a lot of height on top of my head (I’m tall enough) or bulk to the sides (I’m pretty narrow), and I don’t like having tails hanging down (distracts me) – that means I often wind up with a lot of bulk on the back of my head.
As for hats, I look best in the cloche style hat which sits close to the face. As much as I love big floppy hats, they just swallow me up!

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Can you share with us one of your happiest and/or most vidid hair covering memories?
I have to share two, ok?
I remember having a huge dilemma for my wedding. I had already been wearing wide headbands for months and couldn’t imagine not having some sort of head covering on my wedding day – despite people reminding me that it was my last chance to not cover my head. So, I knew I needed a veil for the ceremony, but I didn’t really want to wear a veil all night because it just wasn’t going to work with my style. Eventually, I decided to wear a birdcage veil and just folded it back on top of my head for the reception and got my wide headband look and veil in one, and it worked with my style! It was a total win-win.
The other distinctive thing is a total Israeli thing. Here I have discovered that if I am wearing a knit beret or a hat, people tend to speak to me in English or give me an English menu, but if I am wearing a scarf I am approached more in Hebrew and always given Hebrew menus. One day, I told someone I didn’t understand what they were saying and they repeated it in Hebrew, and I again told them I did not understand, and the person yelled back at me “but I am speaking Hebrew!” to which I had to clarify that I don’t speak Hebrew well. So sometimes now when I want to just want to do my errands quickly, I intentionally wear a hat and don’t respond in Hebrew and get to play tourist a bit.

You have a very interesting and informative blog that you and another woman have created. How did this blog come to be? How has it evolved and what are your hopes for it?
We actually wrote a post recently for our third anniversary about how the blog came to be:
As for my personal hopes, I have to say that they have all been vastly exceeded at this point. We wanted a fun outlet to share our thoughts and hoped we’d get a few readers, well we have many more than a few now and are constantly amazed and humbled by the community which has developed from it. I can only hope that I continue to have things to say which other people are interested in reading, and give a unique perspective which adds to the conversation.
I do also hope to have a spin-off project (for lack of better vague description) in the future which has largely been inspired by the wonderful conversations and connections which Redefining Rebbetzin has provided.

What are you grateful for right now?
I am beyond grateful for the opportunity to live and learn in Israel for two years with my amazing husband.
I also want to thank you, Andrea, for adding your blog to the communal conversation. We need more women who are willing to stand up for the beauty in covering and the meaningful ways to enhance this mitzvah. It is an honor to be included in your Wrapstar project amongst these other fabulous women!