Embracing Black (but not too much!)

I used to wear a lot of black (goth teenage stage)… then I stopped (hippy university stage)… then I wore almost all black and dark colours (embracing the norm of my Israeli neighbourhood which wasn’t really healthy)… then all bright colours (made aliyah)… and so the cycle continues.  My relationship with black has always been conflicted; it is the dress code of concerts in the music world, and I always wasn’t a fan of that – though it DOES work in terms of looking sophisticated and not distracting from the music.  I actually do find that it can look beautiful on me, as long as it’s not a norm, because it doesn’t always work well with my skin – I do find it very easy to slip into wearing it too much for my personality and features.  Sometimes when I wear it now, I almost feel rebellious.  ANYWAY – here is the tichel I wore!  I was going for sophisticated and simple:

And then I decided to experiment and add some more pins!  Not sure if I’m convinced by this idea… but I’m gonna work on tweaking it!  I was trying to go for a flower bouquet look… maybe it will work with differing styles of pins?  Let me know what you think!
black tichel wrapunzel andrea grinberg

37 thoughts on “Embracing Black (but not too much!)

  1. Stephanie

    I like it. The first one is very sophisticated and simple so mission accomplished.. The second one is nice too. That was a really clever.. What happened to showing the outfit too? I got really good ideas.


  2. Chanah

    It looks good. You are not wearing black on your outfit, so you are not being overwhelmed by black. I think the regal wrap looks better than the one with hanging tails, especially if you are concerned about the black being too much. Instead of having three pins, I would like to pair this black with something silver, like a sash, shiny or sparkle scarf, or a chain. (This might work well with a pale gold colour too.) One silver or gold colour pin would also look nice with it (with the sash).

    Or, you can have on single bright colour of sash or ribbon as a highlight.

    The occasional black can look really nice, and it looks nice on you.


  3. motherendurance

    They both look good, but I like the cluster of pins best on you – you have a vibrant personality and the ‘bouquet’ matches it:-)


  4. Shoshana

    The last one looks much better on you with the tichel flowing down on the side…
    And the pins make it!! (Otherwise it’s too harsh)


  5. Chaya Tovah

    I prefer the second picture with the long scarf. I think the three pins look great. They turn a somber scarf into one that is upbeat, colourful and a little funky.


  6. The “pin bouquet” works perfectly with the solid black tichel, and I love how it picks up the colors in your shirt. When you already have a lot of floral print going on, sometimes a solid scarf with some coordinating accents is exactly what you need to balance things out. Perfection!


  7. Paulina

    I have got similar issues with black. A black headscarf seems “to much” at the moment. But I do wear black with a colorful scarf or bright, sparkly jewellery on formal occasions.


  8. Since getting fancy-fancy with my scarves, I try avoid black. It always just seems so dull no matter how many pins, headbands etc I put on. But I really like the 3 pins you have going on there. It POPS in a way that one pin might look a little lonely.


  9. Rachel Chaya Leah

    LOVE THE PINS…..in my opinion as a clarinetist (no laughing) Pins make the Teichel and bring the eye to your face! wonderful


  10. Fun and sophisticated at the same time! I wonder how it would look if you added another black scarf that has little hints of color or sparkle as an accent with the pins? Can’t wait to see more! 🙂


  11. Heather

    I think basic black is lovely. It’s low key, and classic. The idea of putting multiple pins never occurred to me, but it looks very nice!


  12. Vicki

    Andrea, it looks lovely on you! With your fair skin, you would also look wonderful in grey. You are so talented and are doing such a great job with the blogs and the store! I, too, miss seeing the outfits you put together. When I would see them, I would think to myself, “Duh! Why didn’t I think of that?” You are so gracious to be teaching us how to dress in becoming ways that brings honor and glory to G-d. If you haven’t heard it recently, a big ‘Thank You’!


  13. Deborah

    There are times when black is necessary, and you look great in that tichel! I’d like to see it with one or more of the harmony or metal petal pins.


  14. Mirjam

    Hy! You look actually very cute like this, and I am definitely going to try some “flowers” on my tichels too some times! This is funny, I was just about to write you a question about colours, so here it is:

    What is your answer when very orthodox tell you that wearing red is not tsniut? Red is one of my favourite colour, I wear it a lot and at the same time respect the tsniut lenght of skirt+shirts/t-Shirts. Yesterday I just had a small talk with the kodesh teacher of the school where I am teaching, and she was wearing a beautiful black shirt with big red roses, and a tichel like her shirt, she was great! I have also a lot of colourful tichels, I got A LOT of compliments for it (by the way, thanks a lot for your tutorials!!!), but they are a few times when some other women said that I am not tsniut because of the colour of my shirt… 😦 I think that if HaShem created red, why should this colour be forbidden?

    I am a musician too (violonist), and I also don’t like black at the concerts. Actually, the best orchester I had the privilege to play with was the national orchester in Lyon, and the conductor was for a few sessions the assistent of the conductor from the philharmonic from Berlin, for some other sessions the assistent from the conductor from the symphonic from Boston. It was always great! And gess what: the dressing for the concerts was black pants/skirts + colourful shirts for each one of us! When you see all the orchester with about 80 musicians dressed with red, blue, green, yellow, pink etc. shirts on the top of a formal black skirt / pants, it is so great, and actually does not at all distract from music! It gives a lot of joy to the public, personaly I was enjoying these concerts more than others where we had to be all in black. Too serious is not good neither… Have you ever been to the 5th symphony of Tchaikovsky or the Violin concerto from Schostakovitch with a great “rainbow” on the stage and not a “flock of penguins”? LOL! It makes it so much greater!!! The sessions with the assistent of the conductor from the philharmonic from Berlin were special also because the conductor came on the stage for the concerts dressed in a burgundy suit!!! Wow!

    Anyway, what do you answer about RED???

    Hugs from France (and sorry for my mistakes in english),



    1. Dear Mirjam!
      I would love to chat so please send me an email to andreaesthergrinberg@gmail.com !! Sending love to another fellow musician!
      My answer on red is simply – wear it. There are some very strict Jews that shy away from it because kaballistically it represents gevurah (judgement/limits) but many have extended this to ALL bright colours. I obviously don’t fall into this category 😛 I personally do not wear BRIGHT red but I do love burgundies and soft red, which kaballistically are VERY good colours!
      Essentially, it’s complicated – and most Jews, even though they might not want to rock the boat and show up at a wedding in a bright red dress, they still think it’s okay to wear. Most say that if it’s a red pattern it’s also no problem. There have been some studies that the colour red evokes desire in some people (coca cola and mcdonalds definitely know this) so this probably plays some part in the deeper meaning.

      Hope that explains a bit! Personally, I like wearing burgundy a lot 🙂

      Love, Andrea


  15. Looks great! Personally, I really like black. It’s classic and versatile. It’s only drab and depressing if you wear tons of black and don’t break it up with other colors. In your case the shirt offsets it so it’s not overwhelmingly black.


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