I Wrap Just Because … Part Three

Sure, many head wrappers wrap for religious obligation, modesty, hair loss, headaches, other medical reasons, fashion, or whatnot. But what about those that wrap ‘just because.’ Here are some quotes from some who wrap for reasons that may seem more ‘out of the box,’ but they’re just plain ‘real.’ The bottom line is that one doesn’t need a reason to wrap! It’s just an excellent method of self-expression that brings nothing but joy to those who choose to do it – for whatever may be their fancy! In responding to the thread, some Wrapunzelistas may have talked about their wrapping for the more ‘obvious’ reasons stated above, but we just couldn’t help but to hear everyone’s reasons for wrapping! Check out all of these comments from some of our Facebook Wrapunzel Community Group!

Ray S. – ‘I have always felt a call to wrap but never took the plunge until last year. I do have thinning hair, but that isn’t the reason I wrap. I wrap for religious reasons and because it is so beautiful. It is also a way for me to express myself.’

Grace E. – ‘I am a Christian, from a church background that mandated head covering for women. I wrap partly because of my heritage, but also due to my adopted heritage as I moved to central Africa as a missionary three years ago. Indeed, I am blessed to call the continent my home. Head wrapping is a common part of the culture(s) of this beautiful continent. I also wrap because it keeps my hair tidy and healthier. Most of all, I feel beautiful and confident in a wrap. My nickname is Last Born, Queen of Africa.🤣

Rachel R. – ‘Just because…I want to feel as beautiful as the women on this Wrapunzel FB page look!’

Hattush R. – ‘I wrap for religious reasons (I’m Christian) but I also love how happy the scarves make me. 😜 I feel confident, comfortable around people, and even a bit pretty. None of that happened before. I hated my hair before, so covering it has been a relief. It feels more sacred, because it is something that only my immediate family gets to see. It’s also been a great conversation starter! ‘

Amanda M. – ‘About 10 years ago I thought my hair was thinning. It very well may have been, I have PCOS, and that was around the time I got diagnosed and started managing it, though that is no longer a concern.

But I thought hair wrapping was beautiful. I do historical costuming and saw hair coverings from that angle as well. I realized how recent it was that women no longer covered their hair, even just in terms of practical aspects (not religious). I came across the wrapunzel blog and read the article stating hair wrapping was for everyone who wanted to do it. And with my hair seeming to thin, I nervously took the plunge.

I loved it, still do. It felt very me. It surprisingly calmed anxiety. I did it for years every day, until I moved to a far more conservative area and wasn’t sure how it would be received (and it was not for relgion so I had no religious conviction to back it up and ended up in a job where it was not allowed due safety concerns). I’ve recently restarted. Most of it is still packed away, unfortunately. But the nice part is that I’m now postpartum and covering again has made me feel human, put together, and not like I’m totally sleep deprived haha.’

Cassandra W. – ‘I started covering my head at least 15 years ago. i lost several family members in close succession and the grief made it hard to deal with things, like my hair, so wearing a beanie made me less self conscious and I could at least look like I was doing ok. it just became a part of who I am. it evolved a few years ago now when I stumbled upon wrapunzel and the blog posts and I started reading and found out I could cover like all the other women. so I did. and it has been wonderful. I have more confidence and can be as big or as small as I want to be that day. I don’t have to worry about if my now curly hair is going to behave, or if i’m going to have a sensory meltdown because of gnats. I get to feel beautiful and seen for my face, not just my hair.’

Tanja M. – ‘I started wrapping my hair because I think it looks pretty. Since my hair is so thin and soft, it makes me feel pretty and confident. I live in a small German town where I’m the only one with these wraps.’

Carrie M. – ‘I recently started wrapping for religious reasons. Its a sign of my covenant relationship with ישוע. I havnt been wrapping daily as this is all very new, my spiritual relationship included but im trying to get more consistent with it just as my spiritual walk and journey is daily.’

Myriam D. – ‘I’ve just started wrapping a couple of weeks ago as my Faith is deepening. It’s part of my spiritual journey. I also find it refreshing as it is easy and fast compared to doing my hair in the morning. I find it so elegant and versatile. Game changer physicaly and spiritually.’

Linni T. – ‘I have wanted to do something to cover my hair for the last few years. I had a massive hair loss due to out of control blood sugars (650 and above), and my hair is so thin now! Then I found Wrapunzel! I love seeing the beautiful wraps you all do! I bought 2 of the pre-tieds, and wore my first one on 05 June! I really want to learn some of these beautiful wraps you all do! Need to get my confidence up!💜

Karen F. – ‘Like others, I began wrapping continuously due to chemo hair loss, although I already used scarves more than many. After months of baldness, my hair grew back curly and wayward. Continuing to wrap or half wrap helps control it and keep it out of my eyes. It helped a lot during a recent trip my daughter and I took to get a break from thinking about illness. I don’t want to cut it as soon chemo is starting again and I will be again fully wrapping due to hair loss.’

Mariann F. – ‘Religious reasons (Christian) and also practical. Was cleaning my basement the other day. Covered my hair to avoid dust getting on it. I don’t cover full time but every time I go to church and when it’s practical.’

Theo K. – ‘I wrap first for fashion, I like how it looks, second because I’m self conscious about my hair line/hair loss, and third for the religious feeling behind it. I don’t wrap all the time tho, just as I want, so I say fashion 1st. I am a pagan.’

CK L. – ‘I wrap for a variety of reasons, but mostly for volume because my head and hair (my hair especially) feel too small for my body. 😂 💗

Susanne M. – ‘I wrap because… i love it! Im not jewish but when i visited israel i became facsinated by the female, creative and queenlike way they wore their mitpachpot. Why not follow their lead? I feel pretty in it and love the way i can create and play with colours and materials.’

Maja K. – ‘Thanks to you, I was able to look in the mirror again. My hair fell out for health reasons in the middle of the pandemic. There was no one I could turn to for help since there were no wraps in my country. So I found you online. Here there were nice ladies who helped me to keep my Wraps in place. I learned a lot and was later able to help others. Today, my hair is back. It’s enough for a short hair look. I still wear my scarves with joy and pride. I like being a part of us here.’

Rowen H. – ‘I began covering when I embraced the path of a Sufi Muslim. The emphasis was less on modesty (although that was part of it) and more on covering being a form of spiritual protection and as a gesture of ‘going within’. I am no longer as devoutly active in that tradition as I was then, but my primary focus in life continues to be walking a sacred path, and I still cover for the same reasons. I love the feeling of having my head covered. It helps me feel perpetually ready to dive into prayer at any time, as well as serve as a reminder that every act I commit can be sacred and a form of living prayer as I go about my day.’

Lisa W. – ‘I started wrapping because I decided to grow out my very short hair and don’t want to deal with the in-between stages. Now, I love it so much that I doubt I’ll quit wrapping when I do get my hair to the length I want.’

Kathy M. – ‘I wrap because I love the way they look and feel. It makes me happy. I started many years ago after a discussion on a long hair forum. People were posting pictures of beautiful wraps and I wanted to try it. When I became a Christian, I stopped for a while because I didn’t want people to think I was weird. It was silly to even worry about it. Eventually, I realized that there was no reason to stop doing something that brings me so much joy.’

I Wrap Just Because … Part One

Sure, many head wrappers wrap for religious obligation, modesty, hair loss, headaches, other medical reasons, fashion, or whatnot. But what about those that wrap ‘just because.’ Here are some quotes from some who wrap for reasons that may seem more ‘out of the box,’ but they’re just plain ‘real.’ The bottom line is that one doesn’t need a reason to wrap! It’s just an excellent method of self-expression that brings nothing but joy to those who choose to do it – for whatever may be their fancy! In responding to the thread, some Wrapunzelistas may have talked about their wrapping for the more ‘obvious’ reasons stated above, but we just couldn’t help but to hear everyone’s reasons for wrapping! Check out all of these comments from some of our Facebook Wrapunzel Community Group!

Cathie W. – ‘I wrap simply because I think it’s pretty and because it allows me to have 100% of my hair out of my face and off my neck. It’s prettier and looks more put together than a ponytail while providing me with the same “out of my face” relief. The lightweight nature of the Original, Tuff and Watercolor 2-in-1s is absolutely perfect for this.

Thank you for being such a lovely group of women. I am heartened every time I see the same enthusiasm toward a woman who wraps for fun as someone who is wrapping as a part of a religious practice or because she’s lost her hair, or for whatever reason. The space [the Wrapunzel Community Group] is so warm and welcoming. I just adore it. It’s like a big exhale in a group of friends.

Bridget M. – ‘I wrap just because! I find the effect to be beautiful, certainly, but I love the space for intentionality that choosing a wrap for the day gives me. I love the slight separation from mass society that I experience when my hair is wrapped. I feel that when I make this choice to be outside the norm of mainstream society and culture, I am more myself, more personally powerful. When I choose to wrap, I do feel more sovereign, more self-possessed, and self-contained. Wrapping for me adds a degree of rigor and strength to my bearing. I admire the long, long history of wrapping across cultures and spiritual and religious traditions. I like the way strangers respond to me when my head is wrapped- more respectful in some ways. At this time in my life, I appreciate that but if it’s distance that wrapping affords me, it gives me the chance to feel my way into myself.’

Maria L. – ‘I’ve been drawn to wrapping for at least a decade, but it never turned into action outside of the occasional playing around in front of a mirror because I had the idea in my head that you were only “allowed” to wrap if you were obligated to in some way, whether through religion, occupation or personal modesty.

Then about 3 years ago, postpartum changes turned my hairline into something quite unmanageable. My hair had once been a place of fun and creativity with various kinds of braids and styles, but no everyday I was just thinking to myself, how can I hide the weird looking spots? Fortunately for me, at this point I had already been silently following along with the Wrapunzel Facebook group, and had learned that in fact, people wrap for all sorts of reasons, difficulties with their hair being a common one. So I gave it a try! Nearly two and a half years later, I haven’t looked back, even though my hair is now in much better shape again. I just so enjoy the variety of things I can do on my head with scarves, the way I can express myself with different fabrics and styles, the fact that my little kids can’t pull on my hair! Also, at this point I have a great big stash of scarves, so what else am I going to do with them?! Wrapping has become a part of who I am, and I’m in no hurry to take it off.’

Marie L. – ‘My old lady hair has thinned. No style or length satisfies me. Hair on my neck bothers me, yet I hate very short hair. Wrapping restores comfort and style. It looks and feels so much better than my hair! Also, it sets me apart— no woman in my community wraps, for any reason. I get looks, but that is OK. Perhaps I inspire other women who are frustrated with not being able to make their hair attractive or comfortable. Let’s face it, we do want to present an appearance that is both comfortable for us and pleasing to others.’

Nicole B. – ‘I wrap for cultural connection, spiritual protection and stylish beauty!’

Leslie C. – ‘I started out wrapping due to alopecia. I fell in love with it, though, and still wrap occasionally. The bigger aspect is that through learning to wrap, I met many Jewish women locally, encouraging me to pursue Jewish conversion. I’d wanted it for decades but never thought it was possible. So, I lost my hair, gained a beautiful practice, and found my spiritual home.’

Michaela O. – ‘I wrap because wrapping is “me.” Wrapping revealed a deep and essential part of myself that I never knew existed until I started doing it.’

Ann S. – ‘Yes. I wrap mostly because I don’t like my hair. My hair is stick straight, won’t hold a curl, and lays very flat to my head, and I never cared for it. I decided to try wrapping once I discovered shapers to help give volume and grip (thanks Wrapunzel!) and never looked back! I adore the variety i can achieve with wrapping, the addition of color and “flair” to my daily uniform of scrubs, and the individuality I can express. It just feels more like me than my hair ever did.’

Kelli C. – ‘I started wrapping during chemotherapy. Now I wrap because my hair is coming back and it’s a weird length right now. It’s more for comfort now than anything else really. But the tails of those scarves have dried so many of my tears over the last year.’

Janna L. – ‘I wrap because as a massage therapist and reiki master, I believe that covering my crown chakra protects my personal energy. The covering acts as a filter, allowing me to “see” the existence of the negative energy, while preventing the negative energy from entering the crown chakra.’

Sarah D. – ‘I wrap because I enjoy it mainly. I’ve wanted to wrap since I was a young child, my mother can attest to that, but we didn’t have the resources to learn how, as we weren’t in a Jewish household or any other kind of community that did wrapping. In church, it actually almost feels discouraged to be wrapping, like because we don’t HAVE to do it, we SHOULDN’T be doing it. Now, as a married woman and mother, my hair actually annoys me when it gains any length, especially during the summer months. I’m very active with our kids, farm, and garden. I started wrapping more just in the last few weeks, and I love it! There are so many resources for styling and securing the wraps on my head! My family is very supportive, although my hubby is a little leery of it as it’s new to him and he just wants me to be myself. I actually feel freer to be myself when I’m wrapping right now. Will I always wrap every day? I don’t know, honestly, I’m just having fun with it right now and seeing where it takes me.’

Beth T-R. – ‘I have always been interested in wrapping and played around a few times, but when I decided to grow out my grey naturally I decided to start wrapping every day to cover the transition!

What I didn’t expect was how empowering it feels, how much my hair looked affected how I felt about my reflection, and when it was no longer on display, my confidence rose. I’m now one haircut away from being entirely grey (before 40!), but I’m not sure I’ll ever stop wrapping, not entirely anyway ☺️.’

Lizzie R. – ‘I wrap because I don’t like my hair, and my hair has started to thin. And it’s a wonderful way to express myself!’

Yvonne G. – ‘Hello. I’ve been wrapping for about a year or so now. As I am getting older the texture of my hair is changing & I do not like it but that’s not the main reason for my wrapping. I’ve developed a stress coping thing and began pulling out my hair strand by strand. The rougher/coarser textured ones mostly. Even though my hair is cut fairly short, having it wrapped & under a shaper or velvet headband prevents me from being able to pull out my hair. I searched for ways to wrap and where to purchase accessories & that’s where I found the lovely Wrapunzel Community!’

Amanda M. – ‘Just because + yogic spiritual hygiene.’

Gloria C-M. – ‘I wrap to feel pretty during chemo.’

Julie B. – ‘Been wrapping since ’17. Lost my (long) hair to chemo. I don’t care for hats. My wig was itchy and really bothered me. So I tried wrapping. Was hooked. Worked through it. Was respected and admired for it by men & women. My hair grew back very sparsely. I’ve got walls of beautiful scarves. It has become my ‘trademark’ or ‘signature’, so to speak. People recognize me and compliment me on it. In turn, if I see a woman with a lovely wrap or a Sikh gentleman, I always compliment them. It costs nothing to lift another’s soul even if it’s just for a few minutes.’

Lorna V. – ‘I started by buzzing my hair off during Covid lockdowns, then when it started growing back, I started wearing wide headbands and dying my hair bright colors. I realized I don’t like my hair touching my neck and back or getting in my face, but I still want to grow it out, even though it is thin. So I decided to sometimes wrap because it keeps my hair off my neck and out of my face, I like how it looks, and I have started to enjoy the feel of it. The rest of the time I wear wide headbands or bandannas.’

Shahnjayla C. – ‘I wrap in between trips to the hair salon and because I love how they look and feel! And I can’t wear a baseball cap to church!’

Rebecca W. – ‘I’m Jewish, but not very observant. I wrap occasionally because it helps me feel connected to my people and my heritage.’

Lady Wrap Star Molly – Part Two!

What inspires your head coverings?  Have you always been this creative?

History is my muse! I like pulling color combinations from art history and imitating the shape of
Tudor hoods or Italian Renaissance headdresses. Folk-inspired looks also get me going; I’ve
become very fond of Eastern European traditional clothing and how a neat wrap can give them
a modern look. I was a dress-up girl from the beginning, so this is a natural expression for me.
Especially if there are big pockets involved!


Strong crayon colors are my go-to, especially my unpopular favorite, yellow! I’ve been expanding
my range a bit lately with some less saturated looks. The Wrapunzel surprise bundles have
been so fun — I tend to be very stuck in my ways about the colors I pick for myself, but the last
few striped delights have surprised me with how much I can like plum when it’s just the right
shade. I was once bullied by someone who loved purple, so I’ve been reclaiming my ability to
enjoy it. Purple didn’t hurt me, after all. That said, I’m still very much in a “bright and bold” phase
of life. I spent my late 20s and 30s trying hard to resist my love of wearing all the colors all the
time, so being able to put together exciting wrap-and-outfit combinations has felt like Spring
returning.


Please tell us about your style – how do your head coverings help you express your
personality?
– Do you match your head scarf to your outfit or the other way around?
– What are your favorite colors/styles to wrap?

When I’m in a zone, and the muse is with me, I start with one item I really love and then build a look
around it. My mother and I sew, and I also buy a lot of handmade clothing on Etsy, so I have fabrics and styles that are already quite unusual! I really, really love Tolkien’s Middle Earth; a
few of my favorite outfits are excuses to wear my Lothlorien leaf pin or look like a hobbit. I’ve
also taken inspiration from art history and mythology. I was Medusa the gorgon for Halloween!
(My Instagram handle is Medusa.in.a.scarf, so there’s a theme here…)

One thing I’m planning to play with when my hair grows out more is medieval and Renaissance
veil and cap styles with laced braids peeking out of my tichel edges. I’m happiest when I look
like the illustration in a fairy tale.

Here I am dressed for work on Halloween… or is this my true form? They’ll never know!

What is your favorite tichel?

Oh my goodness, I am such a scarf goblin! I want to sit on top of them like a dragon on a hoard.
I think of my collection as a palette more than individual pieces, and I need each shade to paint
the picture I want for the day. The only way I can bring myself to part from one is if I’m giving it
to a friend, and then I feel like it’s going to a good home.

But that marigold crossroads sure does get worn very often! I once had a dean get stuck to it at
a meeting and it’s a minor miracle that she didn’t pull it off my head. That Wendy has grip!

PLEASE share with us your tichel-tying tips and tricks!!

It feels so funny giving advice! Compared to other Wrapunzelistas, I am so new at this. All I did
pre-2023 was tie squares around my head and hold them on with barrettes. But here are a few
nuggets from a new-ish full-timer:

Buy a shaper early, before you buy a lot of scarves even. I would have started wrapping sooner
and more often if I had a quality base layer! Your relationship to your tichel will change when
your foundation layer is right.

Learn to do a mediocre regal. A mediocre regal looks great! Do it enough, and you’ll level up
soon. Mediocre is fine! Mediocre still looks good! Mediocre is normal and comfy! People will still
be impressed.

You will find one beginner scarf you finally are the boss of, then want to buy 100 of it. Don’t do
that! Your skills and tastes will evolve. Try one of a category first – a 2 in 1, a crossroads, a
lakeshore bliss, a back to basics. Give it a month or so before you decide you don’t like a
certain shape or style, because as your skills improve, you’ll find your needs change. Pay
attention to what you’re really using consistently.

What you like in a scarf won’t necessarily be what you like in a shirt. I never would have thought
For instance, I’d end up wearing so much orange, but it makes a great accent color. Colors suit
you differently when they’re on your head. I used to be pretty rigid about color season palettes
(I’m a deep winter!), but it’s not been as helpful with tichels. I’m supposed to look great in grey or strong olive, but my grey scarves don’t spark joy. I’m not supposed to wear orange or plum or
dusty shades, but some of my favorite scarves contain all three!

Don’t be afraid to try things, and make a friend who also likes scarves so you can swap. I just
descended on a colleague who has some hair loss and dropped a grocery bag full of square
tichels on her desk. She’s bringing me her orphaned scarves next week. Exciting and
sustainable! And friends are awesome!

How has your life changed since starting to cover?

One surprising thing that has happened is that I don’t feel the need or desire to wear makeup
the way I did before. This was a surprise! I really do enjoy doing my makeup in the same way I
enjoy styling tichels and clothing. But I found that I don’t need as much makeup to get to the
point where I feel ‘done’ and ready to go face my work life. I think it’s because I’m happier now
with my starting point in the mirror. I’m not seeing a haircut I don’t like and didn’t want, and I
don’t feel the unsettled tickle of hair on my face and neck. I feel less exposed – naked, even! –
and the comfort shows in how my face looks back at me.

I was raised to think modesty was about keeping other people’s eyes off of you. But I’ve found
that it’s not at all like that for me! Covering my hair and, now, more of my body is very much
about keeping a part of myself for myself. Now that I’m dressing just to please my sense of
what’s comfortable and beautiful, I have so much more energy to give to connecting with the
people in my care. I haven’t really noticed if people are giving me weird looks because I’m not
monitoring the room for people’s reactions like I used to. I’m more focused on the ways that
covering, draping, and styling my clothes adds to my sense of grounded sincerity.

I used to wonder if women who cover look at people with their hair showing and were secretly
judging them for it. When I started covering this year, my biggest fear was that someone would
see my tichel and assume I would judge them as less-than if their hair was showing. But it’s just
not that way! My needs and choices begin and end with me, and I love seeing everyone else out
there being comfortable in their own style. I am really happy for all of us.

What recommendations would you make to someone who is just starting to learn how
to tie?

You aren’t the person on the tutorial, and that’s ok! Find one look you can tie that you feel good
in, then do it a lot. And stop when you’re getting upset. Hats exist for a reason!
You don’t owe anybody a why, but that will not stop them from asking and wondering. If you, like
me, compulsively answer every question posed to you, you’ll want to plan ahead. Practice a few
standard lines so you don’t get flustered when (and if) it comes up. My default is “I’m so much
more comfortable with my hair off my face and neck, and aren’t the scarves pretty?” I tend to
avoid discussing my religious reasons unless I’m talking to someone else with a religious cover;
“I’m Christian and this reminds me that God’s with me to help me live my faith.” I’ve met some
wonderful interfaith friends this way.

However, “It’s comfortable!” uttered in a chipper fashion followed by a subject change is reliable
in a pinch.

Any inspiring words for the ladies on the Wrapunzel blog?

Your joy can make you so brave and so strong. Joy isn’t frivolous; it’s essential.

You deserve to feel beautiful, safe, worthy, and dignified, no matter what you look like or what’s
on your head. Full stop. Listen to what your soul needs because kindness and dignity begin with
how you treat yourself. If you can do it for yourself, you’ll be much better at doing it for other
people too! Mr. Rogers was right; you’re likable just the way you are.

What are you grateful for right now?

I was so worried about how covering my head would change the way my students and
colleagues see me, and I am so grateful for every supportive, affirming comment I’ve gotten.
Even the baffled kid who finally broke down three months into the semester and blurted, “What’s
up with the scarf?” was very sweet about it. This decision could have gone so badly, but it didn’t.
How wonderful to be in such a place with so many kind people! I wish everyone’s experience
was like mine; we all deserve to be loved no matter what’s on our head.