Judith de Paris!! {+ giveaway!}

It is my greatest pleasure to feature a visionary woman and seller of stunning hair coverings.  Many of you have already heard of Judith Levy, the founder of Judith de Paris.  I have been hoping to interview her and share her ideas and stories ever since this site was founded.  And, even better, she wants to do a giveaway exclusively for Wrapunzel members!  Giveaway details at the bottom of this article, but now, here is Judith’s story, as well as some special interview questions:

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Judith de Paris – The Story

My name is really Judith and I am actually from Paris 😉  I moved to the USA three years ago when I got remarried. I live in Silver Spring MD where my husband leads the Sephardic minyan hosted by YISE.

I have always been in love with words, and therefore I am an editor. I work with the French edition of Artscroll for more than ten years, proof reading the guemara and the chumash. I also translate from English and Hebrew to French.

Before I got remarried two and a half years ago, my husband to be asked me if I would consider switching my beautiful, long trendy sheitel for a kisuy (as they say in Hebrew) according to the Sephardic halachic rulings.

“No way, Jay!” In France, women switch from tichel to sheitel because they don’t want to be mistaken as Arab women!

Plus, this scarves look like nothing. No style, no character, nothing. My smart fiancé accepted my decision and I went to the chupa with my long sheitel.

After a few months in Silver spring, my husband hesitantly asked me what I thought would be a good answer to give to those people in his minyan who didn’t really understand why the rabbi’s wife wears a sheitel when he himself keeps telling them that Sephardic women should cover their hair with a kisuy. My answer was immediate but in some way I didn’t really measure the consequences of these few words: I told him to tell them that I am going to try.

For my husband it was carved in the stone and he took it for granted: from now on his wife will wear a tichel. I actually did it every day but not when we were going out to weddings or any kind of events. Then, we had an important wedding in the community and I was really eager to please my husband and give him due respect by showing to everybody out there that I was sensible and receptive to my husband opinions and advices. (For me nothing was more precious than to succeed where I had once failed : my marriage. I was therefore ready to go out of my way for that. My Moroccan background also taught me that the honor you give to your husband is the cornerstone of the home you try to build.) I looked for a nice kisuy and found a casquette, very Parisian style. Perfect for me.

Then came the great news, my son got engaged and was to be married in England in July. My first concern was not my dress but my hair covering. Along with my stepdaughters, we toured the whole Baltimore to find THE hair piece. We found either old fashioned (mother in law kind of hats 😉 ) or plain scarves.  Since we couldn’t find the perfect one, I bought around ten different scarves matching my dress even a piece of expensive lace (that was used later for my stepdaughter’s wedding outfit). But deep inside of me, I knew that I was not totally ready to wear this “thing” for my son’s wedding. These “things” are an insult to an elegant evening dress !

Come July, I packed all my scarves, all the matching accessories and my beautiful sheitel that I intended to give to one of my sisters. The wedding was full of emotion and some tension too because of the situation of the chatan’s parents. My first child was getting married and it was the first “family” reunion with my ex in-laws since my second marriage a year ago. The stress was at its peak and my trembling hands were not able to tie this mitpachat, the way I wanted it to look. I got dressed, tried to tie the tichel and kept failing. I asked the make up lady who was taking care of my daughters at that time if she had ever took care of a sheitel which had been sitting for months in a drawer and travelled to England in a random bag in the bottom of my suitcase. She tried her best, the result was acceptable. That was my last experience wearing a sheitel.

From England we flew to Israel where my daughter got engaged and where I met my first volumizer (and my first son in law). I wore it for the first time for her engagement party without a wig grip under it (I didn’t know such a thing existed!) I promise you, you don’t want to see the pictures that were taken at the end of the evening…

Since my husband was sick during most of our vacation, I didn’t really have a chance to visit the plethora of mitpachot stores that are available in Jerusalem.

For my daughter’s wedding, I had two months and lots of energy to find a kisuy.  I didn’t even try to find something in the USA. I just surfed the web to find the most elegant stores in Israel as I had decided to do my shopping when I will get there. I met Rinati Lakel on the web but visited her store two days before the wedding. I was wonderfully welcomed by an awesome hostess who took the time to exchange my volumizer ( I had bought the higher one which was not necessary since I am 6ft) and to pick with me the exact color and the exact head jewel I needed. We spent quite a long time in the store tying and retying till I felt comfortable enough. During the pre wedding shopping, we got to know a fair amount of mitpachot stores where we got a few mitpachot for my daughter and myself. When I came back home, I felt so fortunate to be able to go to shul with a neatly tied kisuy.

I felt like I was accomplishing a real kiddush Hashem.

Somehow, I started to feel like I should share my “discovery” with the ladies of our community. I told my husband that somebody should really think about bringing those hair pieces from Israel and help American married women to cover their hair with elegance.

“Why couldn’t you do it?”

“Me ? business ? Are you kidding me ? Everybody knows that I a much more comfortable with letters than with numbers. Nope, that’s not for me.”

That should have been the end of my idea but I couldn’t let go. Each time I went to shul, I noticed that the ladies around could really use some help with their hair covering. Most of them were very young and for a Parisian like me it was heartbreaking to see them with these scarves (either too flat or too bulky, nobody knew of a volumizer then and used a lot of smart artifacts in lieu of volume under the scarves). So I jumped and here I was again at my computer scrutinizing the web for the best designers. Eventually, I started with Sarah from Sarah creations who suggested me to order a few padded caps. I reluctantly ordered five of them (after all I had my own one and I knew for a fact that it slipped all the way down the head ten minutes after I have tied your mitpachat). She was right. The demand was immediately immense. As for today, we sold almost 300 of them around the country. When I understood that, I asked Rinati Lakel, who registered the boubou aka volumizer as a patent pending creation, to give me exclusivity on the volumizer for the USA.  I got the American mentality pretty fast : I have created this business for a mitsva and to help women but I kept in mind that all that work had to become an income for our extended family and allow my husband to learn while being free of financial concerns.

It’s been a year now and we are still not there… God willing, it will become a full time job soon!

Wow, what an incredible story!  Here are photos of the lastest summer styles from Judith:

How has Judith de Paris grown over the years?  Any future plans/hopes that you would like to share with us?
I always hope to be able to keep the quality and the style while lowering the prices. I think that might happen when we grow bigger and sell more. In the meantime, we sell our items at the same price as the actual designers do in their own store despite the shipping fees and all the work involved. we want american ladies to benefit from these beautiful products!
How have your feelings about hair covering changed over the years?
I always disliked hair coverings altogether. I found the hats to be to big or to totally hide the face. the more casual bandanas and wraps had a tendency to look like a piece of fabric on the head (especially before we discovered the wig grip). I didnt like that. I believed and still believe that a hair covering has to be a crown, a way to tell a message to the “world” : I abide to the torah requirements and I am feminine, elegant and beautiful. not contradiction between these concepts.
How do you cover your hair on a regular day to day basis?  What are your favourite “casual” looks?
I am a big kaly fan. Since I wear glasses and tend to suffer from headaches, a day in front of the computer with a lot of weight on the head can become painful. I just slip a kaly on the volumizer and then accessorize it with one or two headbands, a pin or a jewel headband depending on my day schedule.
What is your favourite formal head covering?
I love the satin turbans. they are now made out of a different fabric which has a richer look and doesn’t slip away (it is blended with silk and cotton). I like the versatility and the possibility to accessorize them to my taste. i usually chose to break away from my outfit color and wear a turban that is closer to a detail of the dress (buttons, flowers…)
What are some tricks and tips that you can share with us?  Any hair covering secrets that you would like to reveal?
For our benefit, you share most of the tricks I know in your tutorials and videos – the only thing I could add may sound a little weird but works very well; I recommend not to wash your hair right prior to an event when you will really not want your hair piece to move. when the hair is too clean, it is silky and has a tendency to repel anything you put on your head. So wash your hair two days before the big day and the day after !
What are your most popular products on Judith de Paris?
The volumizer is our best seller. It has become a staple and most of the designers take in it consideration when they design their mitpachot. The trend is now to a lower look, a lot of volume still but a more natural effect.
The kaly came out last year. both products are patent pending by Rinati Lakel and have required lots of work and efforts. the kaly is now made in different fabrics and colors to satisfy all the needs. prepare yourself to a surprise, a new version of the kaly will be available in a month or so. I am quite sure it will become a favourite !
Then come the veil turbans and the yom yom/yomi. Ladies got used to the volumizer but are not always able to wear another heavy piece of fabric. Those hit the spot. They are light, colorful and easy to tie. (i am mostly referring to those ladies who wear glasses and I am one of them )
Who and what inspires you?
My husband and my children. My husband is the one that encouraged me to share my discoveries with the american ladies and he is always by my side with his precious advices and encouragements. He trusts me and gives me the will to carry on when I share my doubts and concern with him. My children have been extremely supportive when I decided to switch from a sheitel to a mitpachat. I wore it publicly for the first time by my daughters wedding. This was a public statement and I now do it with a lot of pride.
What are you grateful for right now?
I am both grateful and apologetic to the One above. Grateful for all he has given me, gives me and will give me in the future. Apologetic for being skeptical and fearful of the outcome of some complicated situations I went through. I now have no more fear, I know to trust him even though i see only a small piece of the big puzzle of life.
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Aaannnddd… {drumroll!} here are the giveaway details!  
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To enter the giveaway, make sure to like  Judith de Paris on her facebook page  (and Wrapunzel too!).  Keep in mind that if you want to order something, you should definitely contact her personally, because she is incredible at offering personalized advice and suggestions!
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You could WIN this stunning hair wrap by Judith de Paris!  All you have to do is:
– Leave a comment in the comments section below, answering this important question:
…  “What are you grateful for right now?”
The contest will close before Shabbat next week and announced Sunday June 9th on the Wrapunzel facebook page (so make sure you “like” it so you can get updates!)  This contest is in honour of the amazing members here on Wrapunzel, and celebrating the fact that I will be meeting Judith in person on that Sunday at a hair wrapping event in Philadelphia!  Looking forward to receiving your entries and announcing the winner!

Too Much Volume: Is There Such a Thing?

My dear friend, Judith, from Judith de Paris, sent me a volumizer to try out and give my feedback.  It is a long, stuffed, velvet tube, that you wrap around your bun like a snake.  I was quite intrigued, and the results were certainly interesting!  The snake didn’t create that uniform, round volumizer look that I’m used to, and it created a LOT of volume!  For me, it almost felt like too much, but I’m sure it’s a look that I will want once in a while.  The snake also took a while to wrap, which was more time-consuming and requiring or wrapping skills than the regular volumizer that you just slip on.

The first time I wore it was over Shabbat day.  These photos were taken late in the evening, and the wrap stayed put for the whole day!  I found this surprising because it really looked like there was a lot of weight at the back of my head, but it did not budge!  I even took a two hour nap during the day!  I wore the snake with my bun a little lower than usual, so the volume was lower down.  What do you think?

 

The second time I wore it was yesterday, and I wore my bun a little higher.  I really liked the effect that was created, but again, it was much more volume than I am used to.  Do you think there is such a thing as too much volume?  Do you have any suggestions for ways to wear such a large volumizer?  Share your thoughts in the comments section!

Flowers ‘n’ Ribbons

I am really starting to look forward to opening my mail box.  There are so many artistic ladies on this site! My friend, Stephanie, who is a Lady Wrap Star (see her post here) is also starting to make her own scarf wrapping accessories!  They are gorgeous, and work very well because they are specifically made for those of us that cover with scarves.  I am loving this pretty gift of a yellow flower clip/headband – I can’t seem to stop wearing it!

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I hope that one day I can start being crafty like some of the ladies on here… but for now, I can just get excited about opening my mail box!  Here is the flower headband/clip on a different wrap:

Stephanie is also making hair clip holders (basically, a pretty ribbon – or two – attached to a loop that can be hung on your wall) and sent me one.  It holds my flower clips beautifully and is very practical for storage.  You can see it on the left side of this photo.  (On the right is how I store my pins.)  Yay no more crushed flowers!

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I am not sure, but I do think she is selling her creations and since everything is made by hand, will do special requests.  I will let her clarify that!  Thank you Stephanie!
(and FYI – she did not ask me to make this post… but how could I not? ❤ )

Grateful :)

There is something important that I would like to say, probably the most important thing I have said on Wrapunzel since creating the site:

“Thank you.”

Yes, you!  Over the last few days, I have received an overwhelming amount of love and response from this community.  It has been much more than usual, and is the reason why I am going through my days with a perma-smile!  These messages, comments, and emails have given me so much strength and encouragement.  It is amazing how much love and blessing I can feel through your words, and I thank you for giving so much of your love to me and the others on here!  It has made me reaffirm how much a site like this is needed in the world, and I am so grateful to have been given the tools to run it.  I am also glad to announce that over the past two days, Wrapunzel has achieved the highest number of daily site visits since its creation… wow!  Thank you so much to those of you who have been sharing the site.  I would have never guessed that hair covering could help build so many bridges and create so much love!

On Saturday night, I has the opportunity to teach a hair wrapping class to the largest group of women that I have taught!  The particular one was for a group of Sephardi women, and it was a wonderful experience.  I made new friends,  learned a lot, and am looking forward to doing many more events like this in the future.  If you have any ideas of places that could use hair wrapping classes, I would appreciate the connection.  I especially want to reach out to health centers in order to offer classes to ladies who are dealing with hair loss… I know that feeling beautiful during rough times can do wonders for self esteem and healing.

Anyway, I digress.  This post is about gratefulness and yesterday I received the most exquisite gift;  Batsheva, our “Lady Wrap Star” from the Golan sent me a package in the mail.  I opened it and after her beautiful note made me tear up, I discovered that it contained beautiful jewellery and hair covering accessories that she had made by hand!  I had no idea that she was such an artist, but now that I look back at her photos, I should have guessed!  She apparently used to sell them but does not do so anymore… but I’m thinking we should encourage her to start up again because these are gorgeous (she did not ask me to make this post, but I got her permission – her creations are just too beautiful not to share)!  I am especially inspired by her “Tichel Tiara” (the one in a spiral – it’s not a necklace), that is adjustable and will not cause pulling like the other headbands I use.  Can’t wait to wear it!  Here is what she sent me:

So, I want to wear them all at once, but since I realistically can only wear one pin with earrings and a necklace, here is today’s wrap!

Volume How-To

Ever wondered how to get that perfect bun and amount of volume at the back of your headwrap?  Here is the secret solution!  (Well, not so secret anymore.)

Actually, I gave you a grand total of 7 solutions in this video!

Here are the links to some of the places I mentioned in this video (fyi – these resources are not sponsored… just ones that I have used and/or know!)

The volumizer can be found through Judith de Paris.  And on facebook.  Judith is a lovely woman.  You can talk to her personally if you need advice on what size to get etc. – or just ask me for help!

The hijab hump bonnet can be found on ebay through this seller.  It comes from Malaysia so you need to have some patience when waiting for it, but there was a lovely handwritten note included.  I’m thinking of buying a cotton one from them as well.

My post on how to make it look like you have a huge bun using a long scarf is here.

The volumizer that can be made out of a loofah has a couple of diy tutorials on youtube.  Here is one that someone sent to me.

And this is what the hair donut I was describing looks like:
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Silk Discovery

A friend of mine recently sent me a link to a lovely woman’s scarf “shop” on etsy.com.  For those of you that don’t know, Etsy is a site that allows artistic people to sell their handmade creations via the internet.  I love this concept, because it allows you to buy beautiful creations directly from the creator.  Most of the prices are very reasonable, but even if some things cost a few dollars more, I will gladly pay that to support small businesses and be able to forge a relationship with the person that makes the products.  For me, that relationship is so important and something that my generation is often lacking.  Anyway, I messaged the woman, talked a bit, picked a scarf, and just received it in the mail!  It’s beautiful, colourful, and light.  I love the paneling and that it’s the perfect size to wrap around my head.  Anyway, her name is Norma, and you should check out her creations here.

Here is the scarf I ordered:

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The first wrap that I did, I used a purple israeli scarf to bring out the purple hues in the green one:

 

 

The second wrap (which I’m wearing today) is my father’s influence.  He spoke to me recently, telling me about a woman that he saw on the subway wearing a really cool headwrap.  He tried to describe it as best he could, telling me that the ends were hanging down on both sides like hair, and this is my attempt at recreating what he told me!

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