Archive | September 2017

Head Wrapping in the Professional World by Lila H.

Here it is! Part 2 of “Head Wrapping in the Professional World” by government agency worker, Lila Halpern Besser! Enjoy and take notes!

Hi ladies! Andrea graciously asked me to write something about wrapping in the professional world. I understand not every “professional” environment is the same, but I wanted to share my personal feelings so that it may help someone have the confidence to wrap for work.

A little about me-I’ve been wrapping since my wedding almost 2 years ago, and I live near Washington DC with my amazing husband. I met Andrea shortly after I got married through a mutual friend, and have been inspired by her in my wrapping. Some of you may recognize me from the Wrapunzel website (I had an awesome time modeling the midsummer line with Yehudis) and from the fangroup, where I post almost daily. Sometimes I need to see myself through a camera lens to see the outward image I am projecting for the world to see, and what better way to do that than sharing with the amazing and supportive Wrapunzel community.

What makes an outfit professional? (including my shopping tips)

Everyone has a different definition of what is considered professional. I work for a government agency where all of the men (and some of the women) are in suits every day. Dress pants and blouses and sometimes sheath dresses are present as well. That is what “business professional” standardly looks like. And yes, while I love to rock the sheath dress as much as the next girl (see pics below), that isn’t the be-all, end-all of dressing professionally.

First and foremost, confidence and tidiness are key. Even if you are in a suit, if you don’t hold your head high and your clothing is disheveled, you won’t look professional. And while wearing your tichel proudly, you allow your confidence to shine through. It may take a little practice to get a tichel looking neat and tidy, but master the Beginner’s Luck, the Regal wrap, and maybe a turban if you want and you will never go wrong.

My fashion tastes tend to be a little loud at times (pattern mixing, bright colors), but I keep it all professional by following a few simple rules:
1- A sheath dress with a cardigan or jacket, regardless of the color or pattern of the dress, is always an easy way to look put together (especially when your tichel coordinates with colors in the dress.
2- A line, pencil, or flared skirts, even in colors or patterns, are flattering and look great, but it always depends on the top. An outfit can hinge on a corresponding top.
3- Tops with collars, whether form fitting like dress shirts or a little more flowing, are amazing closet staples. Personally, I love the sleeveless, loose fitting button down tucked into a flowy or pleated skirt with a cardigan for a polished look. It’s pretty much my go-to most days.

How do I express my creativity while still remaining professional?
Part of it is the clothing I choose to wear, but tichels play a major part it in. Sometimes I want to do a fancy wrap with multiple scarves and feel creative, and some days I just want a simple Beginner’s Luck with my favorite sari scarf, or a turban with a T-shirt tichel. It all depends on how I feel, but my color choices in both my clothing and my tichels allow me to express myself and show the face I want the world to see.

Do I feel constrained or more free in my wardrobe choices due to wearing a tichel to work?
I think sometimes it’s both, but more often it makes me feel free. I’ve woken up some mornings wanting to wear a particular scarf and decided nothing matched, or had a hard time matching a scarf to an outfit I wanted to wear (in these situations, my husband usually comes to my rescue and suggests some fantastic combination. Don’t be fooled, ladies, some of my best outfits were chosen by him). But most of the time, I love being able to match scarves to outfits, pulling in some small color from my dress, or wearing a neutral outfit and brightly colored scarves. I also believe that accessories pull and outfit together and make it look polished. Tichels are as much an accessory and part of my outfit as makeup, jewelry, shoes, or a jacket, so I love to coordinate whatever bling I’m wearing on my tichel (headband, pin, sash) to the rest of my jewelry
to pull it all together.

What would I say to someone nervous about wearing a tichel on her first day of work?
To be completely honest, I’ve been there. I started my job two months before my wedding, and the first day going back to work, I had a really hard time getting dressed. I had been planning on wearing a wide headband, but somehow it just didn’t feel right. My husband was watching this dilemma, and he told me to just wear a scarf. So I chose something neutral and understated (black/white/grey ombre 2in1 with a silver headband), and went to work. The first week, I got a few questions from my supervisor and co- workers, but I was ready with my response: “Some Orthodox Jewish women cover their hair after marriage, and that is what I have chosen to do”. And everyone accepted that. Over the next several weeks, as I became more comfortable, I started branching out with brighter colors and more intricate styles, and no one batted an eyelash. Do I still get funny looks in the bathroom sometimes? Of course.

Do people occasionally ask why I cover my hair? Absolutely. Do random people stop me in the halls? All the time. But when I smile at staring people in the bathroom, they smile back. And I tell the people who ask that I cover my hair to signify my status as an Orthodox Jewish married woman and it is a part of my religion. And the people who stop me in the hallway? They usually just want to tell me they like my scarf, ask how I tied it, or where I got it.

What are some of my favorite professional outfits I’ve worn?
Check them out!

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Sometimes a solid dress in a color you feel confident can be a neutral. I paired it with a teal aviary scarf for complimenting colors and pearl jewelry (Wrap: regal with a teal aviary and headband)

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Bright colors are the best way to beat the Monday blues! This shirt is one of my most worn, and this skirt gives me the ability to pull so many colors! (Wrap: 2-scarf regal with a pin)

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Sometimes a belt completes an outfit! I love this color pairing, and the scarf pulls out the blues and reds from the whole outfit (Wrap: Regal with scarf of the month scarf and clip)

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Some people don’t mix red and pink, but the darker pinks in the top match the burgundy of the skirt! And even though the florals aren’t on the same background color, they coordinate well (Wrap: turban with a pin)

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Sheath dress is fun colors is still professional. I chose a sari that had two colors from the dress, and toned it all down with a black cardigan. (Wrap: beginners luck with a pin)

 

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Pattern mixing can be intimidating. This is a simple take with a top with a small pattern and bottom with large pattern, using two neutral colors and red. The shades of red sari is a perfect compliment (Wrap: beginners luck with the tail tucked)

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a simple business-like top paired with a bright and colorful skirt allows for some great scarf color combos! (Wrap: regal with t-shirt tichel and lace sash)

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This pattern mixing is very bold, but the peach in the top matches the skirt really well, and the black cardigan tones it down. The scarf color int a perfect match, but its in the same family (Wrap: angled regal with a Ray of Sunshine scarf)

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Sometimes I love to pair a neutral color with a bold scarf and accessories! (Wrap: turban with a signature)

Meet Elena from Åland!

Everyone, I am so excited to introduce you to Elena Isabella, a woman who takes head wrapping to a whole new level! Love her story, her sense of style, and knowing that she is out there on her tiny island rocking these awesome scarves!

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Hello!

 My name is Elena and I live in Åland, a small island in between Finland and Sweden. I live here with my significant other and two cats. My mother lives right next door, it’s kind of like a sitcom at times. Lots of shouting and there’s always coffee brewing.

Except for the two years I lived in Sweden studying to a makeup artist (among other things. I also took social psychology classes), I’ve lived here all my life.
It’s quite isolated, everyone knows everyone and we’re always about two years behind, but I can’t think of a better place to live, really. Instead I travel as often as my bank account allows me.
I like cats, tea, cake, colouring books, scarves, video games and music (everything from Edith Piaf to King Dude)
My favourite colour is teal and I will never miss an opportunity to make a bad joke or tell a random anecdote.
I started wrapping a little more than a year ago. I’ve always liked the look of wraps, like the retro turbans and the flowing scarves from the 60’s and 70’s, but I could never get the fabrics to stay on my head, no matter the amount of bobby pins and hair grips.
One day I found a video of Andrea tying a tichel. I had no idea what that was or who she was, but I binge watched pretty much every wrapunzel video available at that time, and shortly after, I orded my first velvet headband and a whole new world opened before me.
My main reason for wrapping at that time was to let my hair rest. I hade fried it with bleach for the second time in 5 years and didn’t dare to do anything with it anymore. I had experimented with extensions and wigs for some time, but in the end it was too much of an effort, and a bit uncomfortable really. I used to say that I suffered from a chronic case of bad hair day.
After some time I felt that I still couldn’t do the awesome wraps shown in the videos and went all in and ordered a Wendy and a bunch of scarves to experiment with.
I found the Fan group and after many days of hesitating, I finally dared to join.
After some months of weekend wrapping only, I realised that the scarves ment more to me than just covering bad hair (that was starting to improve whohoo!), I had, in a way, found myself again.
Flashback a few years, I had a rotten divorce that left me alone, confused and not sure about myself anymore. Style has always been a big part of me and I’ve always loved experimenting with my looks. But suddenly I didn’t feel like dying my hair bright orange anymore, makeup didn’t look right and I felt -old-. I didn’t want to be seen anymore, I was tired and just couldn’t be bothered to make any effort anymore. I just didn’t care.
The scarves made me feel “cool” again. I felt more put together, more age appropriate and proud, and even if I didn’t realise right away, covering my hair has helped me let go of the bad times more than anything else. Life is fun again!
It might have been noted that I like to wear makeup. Lots of makeup. The scarves inspired me to use colours again and be creative. I usually try to match my makeup to my scarf, so if you ever see me in a total miss-match, there was a tantrum that day 😉
I know living in a small area can be tough for someone looking different, but I’ve been lucky. I’ve always looked different, everyone knows who I am, one way or another. I’m either the tattooed postman-girl, Pia’s daughter (My mum used to work in a tax free store. Things like that will make you famous around here.) or simply “the makeup girl”. This is just my current “thing”.
The wrapping community has given me the opportunity to learn more about the world, religion, philosophy and totally random things, like what to do with a butternut squash.
I’ve found some amazing ladies I would now consider friends, that I probably would never met without this community, and I’m very grateful to have had the opportunity to get to know them.
Love to all
//Elena Isabella

Can You Wear A Wrap as a Professional? Yes You Can!

Hi everyone! Meet Arrianna, second year medical student who is rocking the wraps while doing training in an environment where professionalism is strict. This is Part 1 of our blog series on Wrapping in the Professional world. Enjoy!

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I’m a second year medical student. We had our first clinical exercise of the year at the VA hospital today. I almost didn’t wrap, concerned as we always need to be about strict professionalism while in our white coats. But in the end I did with a simple 2-in-1, and gold rose headband. My classmates loved it, and one patient’s wife even asked me how I did that, as her hair was thinning and she’d been thinking about starting to wear scarves. I didn’t have time to show her how to do the wrap right then, but I wrote down some information for her, and I hope that now Wrapunzel’s youtube channel has a new fan.

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My advice? Keep it simple, especially in the beginning until you really know your work audience and they’re used to you. In my situation, medicine is a fairly conservative profession and I deal with people of a huge range of ages, backgrounds, beliefs, socioeconomic status, hopes, and needs. I want the image I present to be professional, but not austere. When people see me, I want them to see a competent medical provider first and not to be distracted by my scarf, much like I wouldn’t want people distracted by my jewelry or my clothing.

Being in healthcare and being around patients who may be losing hair for many reasons, I’m very uplifted by the fact that wrapping in this environment is going so well. Much of healthcare has an underlying theme of the effect of health problems on self-image, as hair (or the lack thereof) figures so prominently into our society’s idea of what makes both men and women attractive. Personally, I hope that wearing a wrap in the workplace will encourage those who may be too shy or embarrassed to talk to their doctor about hair loss to ask me questions. I would like them to see me and think: “there is someone who will help me without judgment”.

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