Archive | January 2015

Wrapunzel Fangroup Guidelines

Here are the guidelines for anyone that wants to join the Wrapunzel Fangroup on Facebook!

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Dearest Ladies,
Welcome to the Wrapunzel Group!

Your Moderators are:
Heather Thompson
Tamar Adina Campbell
Rachel Stolley Gray

Tabitha Johnson
Kaede Fyrecreek
Penina Taylor
(nighttime hours)

If you’re new here, we are so excited to get to know you. Each woman brings her own special spark and makes this community vibrant and miraculous. This is the place to swap tichel wrapping ideas, answer questions, get inspired, and safely share with each other, no matter what background you’re from!  It is a place of love, understanding, and connection.

The details are what make any home special, and the Wrapunzel Fangroup is no exception.  Your moderators want to make sure you have the most positive experience here possible.  These rules have been created with much care and deliberation from to our collective knowledge and past experiences.  We’re very serious about your safety and making sure that no one takes advantage of the wonderful atmosphere here.

Wrapunzel Fangroup Guidelines:

By requesting to join this group, you affirm that you have read and understand these guidelines.  If there are any questions, please do not hesitate to contact us!

These rules are all based on the very important bottom line that this group is a community fostered and inspired by creative output of the ladies from Wrapunzel.  The rules are here to maintain the special, supportive, and safe atmosphere of the group.  Anyone wanting to join or already belonging to this group with any agenda that is not about personal growth and spiritual health (whether it be pushing your religious beliefs on others, money/business oriented motivations, political interests, or just general negativity, etc.) should please not join this group.  The following rules should help clarify this:

1. If you have any questions about whether or not it is appropriate to post something, clear it with a moderator before posting.  Do not post anything starting with something like, “Not sure if this is okay to post here but… “ or “Moderators please let me know if this can be approved…” or “I know this is off topic but…”  Any questionable posts need to begin with “[Moderator Approved]”, and the way to get this done is by asking a moderator before posting.  Please follow this rule so other ladies know to do the same.  See guidelines below for kinds of posts that may need to go through a moderator before posting, but when in doubt, ask a mod first!

2. This Group is for women only.  Please message a moderator if you have any questions about this (such as shared profiles with partners, gender identity etc.) and we will discuss with you how to best participate in the group.  If you are joining this group and have high privacy settings on your profile, please write us a short note telling us a little about yourself.  We will PM you when you request to join the group, so make sure that you check your ‘message requests’ folder for messages from moderators!

3. Please keep your posts and comments on topic (aka related to tichels!) and within the framework of what Wrapunzel is all about: a life affirming community that seeks to bring women together from all walks of life, bonding through the shared love of head wrapping.  This group is a safe haven for many; a place to come and experience joy, acceptance, and positivity.  We love sharing our personal journeys and stories of growth, and have built beautiful movements through this sort of sharing on here. Please keep in mind that personal posts such as these must be thought out before posting in order to keep our group an open and beautiful space for all; this is not a place for posting prayer requests, excess negativity, or simply venting.  Prayer requests must go through a moderator first.  However, this is a wonderful place to come to for advice on any struggles you might be having with hair covering and how it affects one’s life.  Treat everyone on here with the respect that you would hope to be treated with, and please do your part in maintaining the positive atmosphere of this group for everyone.  Sharing stories of overcoming struggles and dealing with personal growth challenges is highly encouraged, and the support system here is out of this world.   However, we need to always be aware of the power of our words, and be considerate of all the members that come here to experience the positivity and light that the Wrapunzel community has to offer!

4. Wrapunzel respects that each of us live different lives. We come together from vastly different backgrounds and the bridges that we have built are what makes this place so miraculous. While you may make mention of your place of worship, lifestyle choice, holiday etc., please do not overshare or attempt to influence others through religious teachings, other doctrines or misrepresentation either on the group wall or in private messages.  Note that any mention or allusion to missionary work/proselytization is strictly prohibited   If you witness anything of this sort happening, please notify a moderator immediately.  Since this rule is somewhat of a grey area, it is always best to ask before posting if there is a doubt.

5. With this in mind, please keep in mind that while Wrapunzel is a Jewish website run by Jewish ladies, the community of Wrapunzel comes from all over the world (and is only 1/3 Jewish!)  Ladies on here cover because they’re from different religions, for health and hereditary reasons, for fashion, for feminism, and much more!  When you post, please be considerate of the reality that the ladies here come from different backgrounds and try to define any terms that you use.

6. You may not use this group to solicit members for personal/outside ventures through posting or private messages unless you have been granted express permission from a moderator.  This includes sharing events, writing papers, trading of merchandise, personal videos that are not about hair wrapping, your own blog, looking for volunteers for a cause, etc.   If you have a something of this nature that you think would benefit the Wrapunzel community and would like to promote and share, you must clear it with a moderator before being allowed to post.

7. We encourage sharing creative ideas but please note posting affiliate sources (aka stores, online or otherwise) or links is not allowed due to past incidents related to #8.  While we understand the innocence in saying “Got this scarf at 50% off at X big box store!  Woohoo!” we sadly can’t allow this sort of sharing, because there is a huge grey area between this sort of sharing and advertising for said store.  Unfortunately we have had incidents in the past of businesses exploiting members of this group and we need to keep that sort of thing away from here.  If you want to know where someone got her outfit, please message her privately.  You must approach the person, and privately – she may not approach you.  (Posting your own personal tichel tying tutorials, as long as not related to another store, is totally fine!)

8. This community is fostered by Wrapunzel and the obvious effort that goes into building this type of trust and connection. It is unfair to the members of this group to exploit this closeness by using it as a business network rather than a social one. Therefore, if you are a vendor that sells tichels or scarves/accessories, please do not join this group. Using this forum (including the blog/site/page and privately messaging members) as a business network is strictly prohibited.  If you sell tichels, no matter how few, you may not post your products on here, however subtly you are showcasing them.  You may not use this group as a business network in any way.  If you witness anything of this sort happening, please flag the post and notify a moderator immediately.

9. Political comments do not have a place on this group. World events can be discussed elsewhere.  Please message a moderator if you have a question about whether or not a post may be political.  Here we focus only on our own personal journeys. For further clarification, please see the footnote at the end of the list.

10. We all love and admire each other’s incredible photos and posts!  However, many members of this group treat this group as a private safe haven.  If you would like to share someone’s photo/video/writing on any forum other than this one, you must ask and be granted this person’s permission before doing so.  On the same note, we must remind you that while this group is a ‘closed’ forum, please use your common sense when sharing.

11. Please do not arrange meet ups, swaps, etc. using this group.  We are serious about your safety and cannot be accountable for any of the mishaps that may happen (use your imagination – a lot can go wrong!)  If you become friends with someone that you meet in this group, you do so at your own risk.  Please inform us of any negative incidents so we can deal with them and protect our community as much as possible.  While we try to speak to every member that we let in here, we cannot vouch for everyone’s integrity.  Please use common sense and discretion and remember that while this is a private group and we do everything we can to keep it safe, this is also the internet, and anyone can take a screenshot.  Please use your ‘street smarts’ when sharing personal information; we do everything we can to protect our members, but we would rather not have to deal with incidents after the fact, if possible.

12.  If your post was removed from the group, please review these guidelines to see why it was removed.  If there is any confusion still, contact a moderator and we will let you know why it was removed.  If you see a post on the group that is offensive and/or goes against the group guidelines, contact a moderator right away.  Do not take matters into your own hands by privately messaging the offending party or engaging in negative speech on the post.  Simply tag a moderator (or even better, tag more than one!) in the post and send us a private message as well.  You can (and should) also report the post so we can remove it quickly; this is easily done by clicking the little grey arrow at the top right side of the post.

Your moderators are peace loving, hard working individuals and everything that we do on here is with the benefit this group in mind.  In a large and diverse group like this, we sometimes have to make difficult decisions, but rest assured that we discuss these issues at length, always do our absolute best, and work together continuously to make this group the miraculous and safe place that it is.  Please note that being rude to and/or blocking a moderator on facebook will result in your removal from the group.  All major decisions are discussed between us and we are in communication constantly in order to make this group better and better for you!  

Thank you for following these guidelines and being such a wonderful contributor!  We’re looking forward to spending may more gratitude filled days together with you and some incredible tichels!

Love, your moderators ♥

Footnote regarding #9:

Your moderators would like you to know that we care about each and every member of our community. And so, in an attempt to keep the fan group from becoming political and exclusionary to those with differing beliefs on the politics going on in the Middle-East and other strife-ridden areas, we are respectfully asking that if you choose to wrap in national colors, that you do not include political messages, opinions, or hashtags in your post.

Hashtags or references to specific political situations, terrorism, patriotism for any country, etc. will result in your post being removed. While it may seem harsh, this policy protects the group from extremism as well as making it a space safe from arguments, hate speech, and conflict – unlike so many other media outlets that we have to deal with.

Please do not construe this as support for or nonsupport for any political stance, but merely a way to keep the peace in the Fangroup and to keep it a safe place for all our members. We have worked very hard to make this group a place where women come to get away from all the negativity in the world, a safe haven, and we do not want world events brought in here.

Thank you so much for understanding and respecting our request!

The Song of the Sari Scarf

The First Sari Scarf

The First Sari Scarf

Many of us don’t know the story of the first sari headscarf.

It was before Wrapunzel, before andreagrinberg.com, before the head wrapping movement.  Just a cold, lonely day in Chicago, and a shivering woman contemplating a weird looking piece of colorful fabric strips in her local thrift store on half price day.

Little did she know that odd scarf would revolutionize how she covered her hair, and in turn inspire thousands of women and create jobs for talented artists across the ocean!

That woman is me.  And this is the story of the first sari scarf and how it has changed the world:

I remember holding up that first sari, and putting it down, trying to turn away from it, yet I couldn’t.  It was so beautiful, yet I couldn’t fathom how I was going to make it work as a head covering.  I already had a vast collection of scarves and didn’t need more, and I certainly didn’t need some messy bunch of fabric strips cluttering up my closet.  But it was so pretty, just begging to be made into something beautiful.  I bought it on a whim, hoping that maybe I could make it work.  One day.

It sat in my closet for weeks and eventually fell to the floor, forgotten.

I grabbed it one morning, and my thoughts were, “What was I thinking?  How can this ever work?”  With doubt and a bit of laughter, I put it on my head haphazardly in front of the bathroom mirror.  And I gaped.

The first try - it's come a long way since then!

The first try – it’s come a long way since then!

And never turned back.  The head covering world hasn’t been the same since.

That first sari quickly became my most worn scarf.  It was so easy and looked like I was wearing 10 scarves at once!  All I did back then was put on a simple underscarf and then tie the sari on top, knotted once at the nape of my neck.  I was asked, “How did you do that?”  “How many scarves is that?” and no one believed that it was only one.

By then I was slowly, shyly starting to make tichel tying tutorials.  But I never brought out the sari, because it just wouldn’t be fair to teach others how to tie something that simply wasn’t available to them!  But I wore it, oh, did I ever wear it!  I wore it to weddings, and on Shabbat, and basically every formal occasion that came up.

I also wore it for a cello playing video which eventually went on youtube, which meant the sari scarf was now public.

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And now so many women were begging for advice on how to find one.  And I had nothing to give.  There were rumors of some craft stores selling similar ones, but they were so expensive, and the color options made me sad.

I just wished I had a way to give sari scarves to everyone!   But alas…

That first, beloved sari is long gone now.  I don’t know who has it, but I know I gave it to a lucky lady off of my head when she fell in love with it.

What has happened since then?

the Wrapunzel Store's first Saris!

the Wrapunzel Store’s first Saris!

Well, a year later I started the Wrapunzel Blog, and then a year after that, the Wrapunzel store became a reality.  I remember before opening earnestly telling Rivka Malka that we *had* to give the ladies sari scarves.  We both agreed, but the question was… how?

It wasn’t easy.  We contacted seamstresses, who sent us to someone else they knew, who sent us to someone else, and then to another person, and then another.  Finally we ended up getting to know someone very special who could make them for us.  This person was able to collect silk strips from factories in India and upcycle them to make gorgeous sari scarves in infinite colors – true artistry!

They sold out on the first day.  And when we got more, they sold out again.  And again.  And again.  (I think they’re actually sold out right now as I write this!  We’re getting more, don’t worry!)

The demand was so high that other artists were needed, so every woman that covered her hair could have a sari scarf and enjoy the colorful silk magic.  The connections we made were miraculous.  We were (and still are) so happy that we’re able to bring these gorgeous creations to the tichel tying world!  And we are honored to know that we’re supporting artists overseas with these beauties.  Truly a crown in every single way!

Since then, the tichel tying world has exploded, and sari scarves are no exception.  Sadly, we do hear that there are now manufacturers out there making similar scarves involving immoral practices, but the only thing we can do is continue supporting the values we hold dear and praying for the others that aren’t as fortunate.   We hope that one day this changes and the world is a fair and bright place for all that make sari scarves!

The Sari Scarf finally gets the photoshoot it deserves

The Sari Scarf finally gets the photoshoot it deserves

In the Wrapunzel world, we are all about relationships.  On its own, a scarf is just a scarf, but a Wrapunzel tichel is about real connection and a real relationship.  This is the Wrapunzelution!  Our relationship with our community means everything to us, and this means all our contributors.  We know our seamstresses and distributors personally (and often their families too!) and we are so honored that this journey has allowed us to meet so many talented human beings all over the world.

I still can’t believe that crazy colorful jumble of fabric years ago has turned into such a head covering staple.  Who would have thought?  As I sit here with a beautiful new sari sash on my head, I am so humbled that the first sari scarf found me on that cold day, and in turn, found all of you as well.

The sari sash I'm wearing today

The sari sash I’m wearing today

From the lovely saris (and me!) thank you.
Andrea

Penina Taylor’s Message to Wrapunzel!

Are you ready for our next FACES OF WRAPUNZEL lady? Penina Taylor has a message for us, all the way from Israel. She is a truly inspirational speaker and spiritual leader, and we are so excited to share this with you!

“The Wrapunzel community represents a microcosm of what the world should be.”

Rivka’s Poem

 

Last week, I posed a question on The Wrapunzel Page, asking what was making you feel renewed today.  The answers were beautiful, and it was so hard to pick just one to feature on the blog.  I decided to sleep on it, and when I woke up, one answer was resonating in my head, and that was Rivka’s.  She wrote so beautifully and simply, her words ringing poignant and true.  She has such a loving perspective on hair covering, and I knew that we needed to hear more from her:

Rivka's Response

Rivka’s response to the question, “What is making you feel renewed today?”

I wrote to her, asking if she’d like to contribute more, and her response was an enthusiastic, “What a coincidence!  I just wrote a poem for the Wrapunzel community!”  I’m honored to share Rivka’s Poem with all of you, and I know you’ll join me in saying that we can’t wait to hear more from her.

~*~

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Soft thin strands,
Strands of yarn,
Twisted together,
Strengthening itself,
Into a thread.

A few special souls,
Brought together,
Over a love of a mitzvah,
Becoming wrapunzel.

So many threads,
Blue, pink and red,
Gathered together,
Woven,
Intertwined,
Creating a masterpiece.

So many woman,
Of all different faiths,
From all over the world,
Connect together,
Unite as one,
One wrapunzel community.

An oblong tichel,
Beautiful patterns,
Beautiful textures,
Tied tight,
Wrapped as my crown.

A community filled with beautiful women,
Women full of love and compassion,
Of understanding and respect,
Supporting each other,
Embracing each other to embrace their crowns.

– by Rivka Breuer

The Headband Secret Tutorial!

It’s long been talked about that headbands can add a beautiful layer to your headwrap with minimal bulk and almost zero effort… but I’ve never tried putting on 6 headbands at a time before!  Can you believe I’m only wearing one scarf in the photo below?  LOVE the result!

The Headband Secret Wrapunzel

On the Wrapunzel Store site, we call these babies “The Headband Secret”!  They’re perfect stretchy cotton and they don’t budge once in place!

Here’s the tutorial!

Meet the Green Family!

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Mushky, Shifrah, and Zahava

The Wrapunzelution has allowed ladies from all over the world to connect, and I am so happy that it has allowed me to get to know the Greens!  I met Mushky when my husband and I first moved to Baltimore and she expressed so much excitement about covering her hair when getting married (which was happening soon!)  She works at our favourite local bookstore, which my husband and I *may* (cough!) have a slight addiction to, so we get to see her a lot!

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Mushky wearing The Cranberry in purple!

After getting married, we were continuously wow-ed on the Wrapunzel Fangroup by Mushky’s creations… but the thing I love most about her is her infectious enthusiasm for putting together gorgeous, colorful combinations.  She just loves tichels!

Recently, a new face has appeared on the fangroup… Mushky’s mom, Zahava!  It turns out that one Shabbat, Mushky made her sit down and try on a tichel.  It took a little coaxing, but now Mrs. Green is a bona-fide Wrapunzel Wrap Star!  Her beautiful eyes and shining countenance are such a special addition to the community.  She is soft spoken, elegant, and warm – a true aishet chayil!

Mrs Green, wearing the dreamy lace and shinylicious

Mrs Green, wearing the dreamy lace and shinylicious

Zahava says, “Before, I was always in my sheital or a snood, and I really disliked the way I looked in a snood.  I felt like my options were either my sheital which I still wear, or being underdressed in my snoods and pretieds.  Now I have another option, and I finally feel like I’ve found ‘me’.”

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Shifrah wearing the turquoise Signature and light teal Shimmery

Mushky’s sister-in-law, Shifrah, has been wearing tichels since she’s been married, but for the longest time only wore a simple Israeli tichel with nothing underneath.  “Discovering the shaper/volumizer and learning how to layer has changed everything for me.” she says, “I love it!”

It was so much fun taking photos of these lovely ladies.  They all have such different styles and so much love for each other.  Mushky loves to pump up the volume (she adds extra scarves underneath (WITH the shaper) and wear bold, royal tones.  Shifrah looks great in twists and tails in bright colors, and Zahava looks perfect in elegant wear with a little sparkle.

There are eleven kids in the Green family, and that means a lot of in-laws and grandchildren!  I am so blessed that I was able to capture these three together!  What an incredible mother/daughter bond there is between them – you can just feel it looking at these pictures!  Enjoy!wrapunzel

The Wrapunzel Gratitude Challenge!

This video says everything that is on my heart right now…

To be a part of the gratitude challenge:
1) Write to a woman (or call!) that has shaped you and express your gratitude.
2) Share this video so other women will be inspired to do the same!
3) Leave us a comment (on facebook is preferable but on here works too!) to let us know that you did it and tell us about your experience (can be as little or much detail as you would like).
On Jan 29th 8pm, we will pick one woman and her mentor and send her two personalized tichel kits from Wrapunzel including a no-slip headband; and she can give her mentor the kit as a gift. (If the woman doesn’t wear tichels, do not worry, we will find gorgeous jewelry/accessories for her!) We will speak to you personally and choose something absolutely perfect to help you show your gratitude!